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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:42

But not Ed, eh, Tali? Grin

PunkrockerGirl · 07/04/2015 21:43

Go for it Tali
Grin

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:44

Nope Better not the Milimachine. Wink

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:44

Nope Better not the Milimachine. Wink

LammilyDoll · 07/04/2015 21:45

Galaxy? Are we on chocolate now?

scarletforya · 07/04/2015 21:45

OP, I'm fascinated the way you believe all this crap she's telling you. She's just a common or garden conwoman, not your friend at all.

In the nicest possible way, you are very gullible. It's a little bit worrying how easily you've been taken in. I know you Skyped her for a few years and stayed with her briefly but really she could be anyone.

Baby, no baby, Ghana, Nigeria, Germany, Italy, blah, blah, blah.....

You should never put yourself in a position like that again.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:45

Oops, Didn't mean to double post. I'm running out Amaretto!!

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:45

I would say neither was a heavenly body, personally.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:48

Perhaps not Better But I'd still take him down to Tali's pit of depravity. Cleggy can come too, not fussed.

skinoncustard · 07/04/2015 21:49

Lweji there wasn't a mediator in the true sense , just a friend of the OP who was asking 'tough' questions . ( Apparently ) !

It's now nearly 10pm , if this woman and her son exist , is she still in hospital? where is the boy?
Very very Confused

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:50

We are gonna have to start a new thread. We are running out of space.

FlyingPirate · 07/04/2015 22:04

This thread is just Confused. Your friend sure gets around OP...

Tali - Im now sat here laughing at 'Tali's pit of depravity' - can't help picturing Tali from Mass Effect chaining up random politicians.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 22:07

Would that be Tali's Red Room of Pain? (if so, Cleggy deserves everything he gets.)

HerRoyalNotness · 07/04/2015 22:07

The Canadian is an unfortunate extra

I'm sorry, but this has me CRYING Grin

Those poor Canadians, much maligned the world over

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 22:17

Better It could involve pain, depends on how malevolent I feel at the time. It could involve lots of tenderness.

Flying I might get the Tali costume to complete the effect.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 22:26

I wonder if the OP will come back tonight...

ManicPixieDream · 07/04/2015 22:33

Still so many questions and no booze...

KatieKaye · 07/04/2015 22:35

I think you are being a little unfair on the mediator, who not only had a spare pair of shoes with her for apparent reason, but more than that. They just happened to be the right size for HG.
If nothing else it puts an interesting spin on the old saying "take the shirt off your back". As in "take the shoes off your mediator"

Quite why you need a mediator to tell someone their behaviour means they are no longer in your home, but as said mediator failed to achieve that, he or she was clearly only useful as a shoe supplier.

There's an obvious analogy between HG and Cinders, but I prefer to think of failed mediator as Khruschev returned from the grave. Death diminishing his former bolshieness and all that.

Far fetched, you say? On this thread?

KatieKaye · 07/04/2015 22:39

If HG is in hospital and if she is on a gynaecologist ward then my bet is the boy is having toast. All the gynae wards I've been on gave you toast after the visitors were gone. Much better than ortho where you only got a single digestive biccy. A plain digestive at that. No contest.

Sallyingforth · 07/04/2015 22:42

lilylonglegs
If you like I could PM you Nigel Farage's home address. He'd love to have a house guest with such a multicultural background.

FelineLou · 07/04/2015 22:43

Has anyone noticed that the 10 year old raised in Italy speaks such good English?

Nettymaniaa · 07/04/2015 22:51

I have to admit I did wonder if this post was a spoof sponsored by an anti Europe anti immigration fiend. I am not sure if any of this is true and it contradicts itself so many times. If we all triple post we can bring it to 1000 and the saga will end. Spare shoes, friends on holiday, money no money. Every nationality you could wish for. Driven everyone to drink. It'll be over soon.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 22:52

I agree with you, Katie - I think the mediator is actually the unsung hero of this tale. She has not received anything like her deserved amount of recognition and sympathy but has just been consigned to shoeless oblivion.

BabyGanoush · 07/04/2015 22:53

Feline, if the mum is Gahneaian and the Dan Italian, they might have spoken English between them?

It happens, I know a Danish-Dutch couple who speak English together and with heir kids

Nettymaniaa · 07/04/2015 22:56

As well as possible references to NHS tourism and chucking in the possibility of social services spending money. I am very very sceptical. Apologies for that but like everyone else here I can't make head nor tail of it.