DH putting his image before baby's comfort

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I know this isn't really a big deal, but I want to figure out if IABU to be a bit annoyed at DH or is it just pg hormones?
PFB due imminently and we hadn't got a sling. I'd read loads of reviews and really wanted to get an Amawrap as it sounds great to use and comfortable and comforting for baby.
However, yesterday DH said he'd point blank refuse to carry baby in a wrap style sling because it's not "manly" enough and would only be seen wearing baby in a black, rucksack style carrier with straps etc. (Wasn't even joking one bit!)
So I ordered a Baby Bjorn and didn't mind at the time but now feel and as I've read reviews and looked at pics and just don't think it sounds or looks as comfy for baby, and we can't afford to buy a wrap style sling as well so that's it now. And I'm partly annoyed at myself for agreeing to the Bjorn when actually DH works so much I'll be the one carrying baby anyway.
AIBU to think that DH is actually a bit childish?

Yes, but this is because the baby isn't a real tangible thing to him yet. When he sees and falls in love with PFB, hopefully the image concerns will die a death. Meanwhile return the one you don't want, get the one you do.

My dh wouldn't have liked it either, and he's not a dick.

I think you're being a bit OTT and a Baby Bjorn is fine.

You haven't even had your baby yet, you will have many, many things to occupy your thoughts that what to carry it in trust me!

Good luck

Umm maybe just park this one and chill? It's honestly not a biggie

If you're the one who'll be carrying the baby then return the baby born and buy a wrap! My wrap was one of the most used baby things I bought. I still use it regularly for 11 month old dd. Your dh does sound selfish.

My dbil wouldnt have liked it either and he is the best father ive ever seen. Wait until the babys here and too early to be worrying about this yet. X

Personally I don't like slings either. Not an image thing. I just don't like them. However as hassled says the baby isn't here yet and its mire difficult for men to imagine it, than for the women who is carrying it.

Get the one you want and I he still doesn't want to use it, its his issue.

My dh wouldn't use a sling/carrier at all. He worried about tripping with the baby.

Return the baby bjorn and get the amawrap. Much more comfortable for you and baby. Ignore your husbands concerns about image (he can carry the change bag). My husband would only wear a baby bjorn or Connecta. I used wraps. He probably would have come round but I loved carrying them myself.

I had a wrap sling and there was no way dh would have mastered the wrapping. He used a babybjorn type. It is very manly seeing a man with a baby nestling in a sling though, he's being daft about that! We were able to sell both the moby sling and the BB when we'd finished with them on ebay, so recouped a good bit of the cost.
You might have family or friends wanting to buy something for the baby - suggest a sling!
By the time your baby is here your dh may well change his tune, and go with whatever makes the baby stops crying! Although he seems foolish, I have cared about what changing bag, breastfeeding top etc I've bought, so I suppose that's dm caring about image too.

YANBU. Get a refund on the carrier you have bought. As you say, if you're the one who will be carrying PFB the most, your comfort and preference comes first.

Have you thought about finding your nearest sling library? (Often run by the NCT) so you can try out a whole load of slings before you find the one that suits baby best.

Have you looked for nearly new sales and on Local Facebook selling sites?

And AFAIK, backpack carriers are not suitable for newborns, there isn't enough head support for starters.

And congratulations by the way!

YANBU. And if you're mostly carrying the baby anyway, YABU for not buying the sling you like. Can you return the Babybjörn?

Baby bjorns are terrible carriers, compared with the many and varied way more comfortable ones you can get. I'd return it and order the one you want, if DH doesn't want to use it, so be it. I had a multitude of wraps and slings as it was generally me (being at home with the baby) doing the carrying.

I'd let him keep it and get a really pink and garish pram ... he'll love pushing that.

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You never know. You might put in the sling and not like it either.

Have a look at some of the babywearing/sling fb groups - you can get pre loved ones. Or a sling library to hire one to see if you like it. You could always sell the bb and get something else

You will be more comfortable with a wrap too, Bjorns pull on your shoulders and back. I know so many people who abandon the Bjorn after a few months because the weight distribution is so poor. Honestly, i would send the Bjorn back and get something you want. Is there a sling library near you? They might have some alternative ideas to suit you both. For example, I bought an ergo and I'm still using it 17m later.

We had a black Beco Gemini - v manly looking buckle carrier but very comfy to wear and good positioning for baby. I would say not suitable for newborn though. We had a close for newborn but DH didn't use that one.

How about something semi structured like a babyhawk ?

Have you considered just using fabric? I've got 5 yards of slightly stretchy Jersey knit as a wrap and it's lovely

If I were you I would return the Baby Bjorn and hang on until your baby arrives before deciding on a sling - you might be able to find a "sling-meet" near you where you can try out different types and pick one that suits you and your baby. Babies can be quite picky about how (and if!) they like to be carried, so it's probably worth waiting before spending money.

We had a few types, and DH was happiest wearing our wrap sling for comfort reasons - the absence of boobs can make wearing a sling more difficult and the wrap was much more adjustable. By that point he was so knackered that he really give a toss about which one looked best!

Send the baby bjorn back and get the one you like it will most definitely be better for the baby especially when it is tiny - you can always get the ergo baby carrier when the baby is 3 months old and papa can use that one when he's around but I really can't recommend the baby bjorn brand ever

My dh refused to contemplate lots of things, before ds1 was born. It meant we ended up with lots of things in plain black rather than a pretty colour. (Changing bags wraps etc)

when ds2 came along he let me choose a lot more by myself as he realised I did most of the baby stuff. He now happily wears flowery bags etc as he has the kids with him so it doesn't matter.

If you can't compromise now wait till the baby comes along and he will probably change his mind on things

Didn't give a toss, obviously!

Yep, my hubby carried baby in sling as pictured above. Very nice. Maybe too nice given how much a lot of ladies like men with babies. Keep the baby born, no where near as hot