DH putting his image before baby's comfort

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I know this isn't really a big deal, but I want to figure out if IABU to be a bit annoyed at DH or is it just pg hormones?
PFB due imminently and we hadn't got a sling. I'd read loads of reviews and really wanted to get an Amawrap as it sounds great to use and comfortable and comforting for baby.
However, yesterday DH said he'd point blank refuse to carry baby in a wrap style sling because it's not "manly" enough and would only be seen wearing baby in a black, rucksack style carrier with straps etc. (Wasn't even joking one bit!)
So I ordered a Baby Bjorn and didn't mind at the time but now feel and as I've read reviews and looked at pics and just don't think it sounds or looks as comfy for baby, and we can't afford to buy a wrap style sling as well so that's it now. And I'm partly annoyed at myself for agreeing to the Bjorn when actually DH works so much I'll be the one carrying baby anyway.
AIBU to think that DH is actually a bit childish?

Haven't read the whole thread but as a moderately experienced "baby wearer" I think it's normal for a guy to want a more blokey carrier - as some people have already said it's pretty cool he's happy to carry baby at all as a lot of guys don't like the idea.... We have a framed carrier for hikes/walks with picnics, a wrap (great for mum for newborns) & a baby Bjorn (good all-round and reeeally quick to put on, and v. Man friendly :) ). I reckon get the one you want of eBay - they have loads of choices and loads cheaper too then everyone is happy! (Btw he'll almost certainly object to your girly/floral change bag as well! My OH uses a backpack)

Loved my beco gemini but they are expensive new. I bought one with orange flowers on it though . Look on ebay. Baby born slings aren't the best tbh. I didn't particularly like the wrap type, particularly once baby had grown a bit. But you can always sell them on, they go for decent prices.

There's a hire company called it's a sling thing (all one word) if you don't have a library locally.

My dh prefers the babybjorn still, hates wraps. Finds most buckles bulky (connecta have least amount of padding)

I find the Connecta carrier a nice half way house between a BB type and a sling.

Return the baby bjorn and get an ergo/ similar soft structured carrier.

YANBU. Baby Bjorn aren't great- no idea why they're so popular.

We had a mei tai that had patterns on one side and plain black on the reverse.

I have a Hana wrap and an Ergo 360. My husband has only ever used the ergo. That's partly due to timing - we got the Hana before she was born so it was available throughout my mat leave, but only got the ergo when she was about 3 months old. The wrap was good when she was tiny but I never use it now 8 months). The ergo is much more comfortable and easy to use. I don't think he would ever have used the wrap.

Most people I know seem to find the BB uncomfortable, and it is a crotch dangler, so not great for the baby's hips.

Baby bjorns are awful crotch danglers. They do not put baby in a optimal hip position. Why is your husband so selfish that he cares more about his image that his baby's health? I find it crazy in this day an age with all the information available online about optimal baby wearing (baby supported knee to knee, in a m shape and following the TICKS guidelines) that anyone buys this god awful carrier. I guess some people just don't care another about these things and just want to 'trendy' high street option. Which is sad really. Maybe look into an Ergo, Manducca or a Connecta. All carriers which are ergonomic but where your husband won't have to do 'girlie' wrapping.

like Wuthering we had Kari-me slings.

We have twins so obviously needed to carry one baby each.
My husband is about as Alpha male as you get (tall, dark, handsome, big broad shoulders etc) and he had no problem using the sling.

He got one in black, I had one in purple and he got lots of female attention anytime he was using it.

Also anytime he was pushing the pram....

Your right babybyorn isn't great for baby but he doesn't know that and it's fairly mainstream. Try a black ergo with infant insert. I used mine with newborn and I still use it with my 31/2 year old so itsgood value

There are a huge range of slings in between a baby bjorn and a wrap. Try a Beco or an ergo.

I have back problems and bought a stupidly expensive sling (£40 for a piece of cloth - what was my pregnant brain thinking?!) and a £110 baby bjorn (they had just come out with the more ergonomic model)

I used the sling once - baby and I both hated it.

The bjorn was used daily for almost 6 months (then baby got a bit too heavy for me) and worth every single penny.

My DH wouldn't wear the sling either - and honestly, I felt I looked a bit silly wearing it too. That's not a judgement on others, it's simply that it didn't feel like "me". same as I didn't like loud patterned bags with yummy mummy slapped all over them.

The only thing that ever LIGHTHEARTEDLY annoyed me about my guitars connecta was that DH carrying a child in resulted in people worshipping at his feet what an amazing dad he was, how adorable it was, wasn't he good, wasn't I lucky, etc

How about an ergo or tula? You could get yourself a wrap as well then dh has choices. Tbh I don't think my dh would wrap. Wraps are great but I like having something that's quicker to get baby in and out of too. Baby Bjorns are terrible carriers. But tbh our baby is 18 weeks now and dh has yet to carry her. Could be because she's dc4 and he tends to take the others but ad small babies I've definitely done much more carrying.

I got a stretchy wrap from DaisyBaby for £16 which is fantastic so you don't need to spend a fortune for a decent wrap, if you were to keep the baby bjorn for him and have your own wrap yourself.

Can't help but thank you OP for reminding me of when my hulking 30 was in a sling around my neck and people used to come up and coo and admire him . . .

Return the baby bjorn as they are really not good. If you want a more unisex carrier look at Manduca or boba, both come in plain black but much comfier for you and baby.

Your DH needs to know one thing:
ANY man pushing or carrying a small baby will look extremely manly and will get people (mainly women) clucking over him wherever he goes and whatever he uses to carry the baby
The BabyBjorn carrier always sat too low for me - it felt like I was suffocating her with my boobs!

Also I don't think my DH would have been happy wearing a wrap but he has used the manduca constantly, I don't think he has ever taken dd out in the pram or buggy and she's 18 months now.

Bjorns are the worst! Return return return!
We used one that was given to us until my high centile baby started to ruin my back and shoulders. I never wrapped but probably will if there's ever a no. 2.
We used a baby Tula, and now use a toddler Tula. DP loves them too.

But as others have said, don't sweat it til the baby is here.

I don't like those Baby Bjorn things at all. They're bad for the baby and bad for the person carrying them too.

We had a couple of wraps (I'm much smaller than DH so he had a much longer one), a couple of pouches (one fleecy for winter, one cotton) and an ergo. My DH carried them in all of the slings depending on weather, where we were going and which kind of carry he felt like that day.

I don't particularly like the oooh isn't he good, lovely, hot, wonderful thing either. He's spending time with his child in a way that suits that child. Nobody cooed over me being such a lovely, good, sexy woman and my children lived in a sling.

My 3yo still goes in his wrap on very long walks.

The basic problem however is that the baby's comfort shouldn't take precedence over his image.

I saw a man wearing a camo print sling last summer. I'm sure it wasn't a BB, it was a fabric wrap style. what about one of them?

Return it and wait until the baby is here. Personally after being pregnant i was happy to have my baby in a buggy and be physically unburdened! I did have a sling but hardly used on - only when i had to really.

YANBU. I'd have been pissed off and disappointed if my DH had had this attitude. As it happens he proudly carried both our DC in a Moby wrap and didn't worry about catching the gay or being mistaken for a mere woman.

I have a sling (think its an ama wrap) and a stokke carrier. I never worked out how to wrap up the sling so that never got used. The carrier got used about 4 times... Dd is 8 months so there's still time but I prefer a buggy!