DH putting his image before baby's comfort

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I know this isn't really a big deal, but I want to figure out if IABU to be a bit annoyed at DH or is it just pg hormones?
PFB due imminently and we hadn't got a sling. I'd read loads of reviews and really wanted to get an Amawrap as it sounds great to use and comfortable and comforting for baby.
However, yesterday DH said he'd point blank refuse to carry baby in a wrap style sling because it's not "manly" enough and would only be seen wearing baby in a black, rucksack style carrier with straps etc. (Wasn't even joking one bit!)
So I ordered a Baby Bjorn and didn't mind at the time but now feel and as I've read reviews and looked at pics and just don't think it sounds or looks as comfy for baby, and we can't afford to buy a wrap style sling as well so that's it now. And I'm partly annoyed at myself for agreeing to the Bjorn when actually DH works so much I'll be the one carrying baby anyway.
AIBU to think that DH is actually a bit childish?

The men in pink slings aren't more commendable as fathers you know. They just don't give a toss about that particular thing. My dh happily toted my girly changing bag without a thought for example. He didn't care.

But if, from the outset he had said "I don't particularly want to carry a woman's bag around" I'd have suggested a plain bag for his own use.

People are allowed to have preferences. You do.

Rubbish I think you're reading too much into it. I think he wants to wear what he feels at ease in. Up to him imo.

We had a stripy sling for our baby.

Should've bought a stick as well, to beat off the women that flocked around when DH had him in it. Unbelievable.

I would respect a mans choice if he said I don't really fancy wearing a pink scarf to carry the baby around in, I'll research other options rather than just expect a bb to be bought.

Nope, not sexy at all...

On that we're agreed.

DP just wanted something comfortable for everyone that left his hands free - he used a mei-tai style thing that I made, and also a stretchy wrap when they were littler (which I also made.. well, I bought 5 metres of fabric and cut it in half..).

My Sister's DP did the same (I think they had a baby hawk though), dunno about my other sister who borrowed my Meitai, but I can't imagine her partner cared...

I find it bizarre personally that anyone would care so much about a baby carrier!

I will say that the stretchy wrap was dumped as soon as they had any weight at all, the meitai was much easier.

I had a baby hawk & connector sling for my PFB wore him till he was about 14 months then stopped as was harder as was pregnant with DS2.

My OH would never wear the sling, it did not matter - he did wear a rucksack carrier when they were older on walks.

But it did not bother me he did not want to wear the sling, it's just not his thing.

It will all work out & the baby will get used to different things, sling with you, pram with daddy - etc

You could send the bjorn back & get the sling you want -

My dd got a sore patch on her cheek from sleeping in a baby Bjorn as a new born. I switched to a wrap carrier as soon as I realised and felt dreadfully guilty that I hadn't realised sooner. I did the majority of carrying in a wrap as was on maternity leave. Dh tended to use push chair and the Bjorn was fine once she was bigger/older. Just not for newborns IMO. Tbh I never saw dads wearing the wrap style carriers. They are bit tricky at first but definitely more comfy once you get the hang of it. Don't let it stress you out op. Just make him push the buggy instead when you go out together.

Say and do no more, unodostres - but then just order this pram on the quiet. He'll love pushing that instead.

I think the bijorn is great. I think they get over heated in the wrap ones, also messes with their day/night cycle. Ds was born this week 11 (eeek) years ago we used a baby bijorn from day 3,it worked brilliantly particularly in high summer when being able to have their arms and legs out keeps them cool. I think it also helped his motor development as they provide better support to build trunk al stability.

I would have a problem with any man trying to look "manly".

Men carrying babies in a wrap sling definitely does something funny to the hormones!

Definitely agree with everyone who's saying to use a sling library if possible after baby is born - I was convinced that I'd love a stretchy wrap sling as friends had them, bought a lovely one before DS1 was born, and he hated it. Tried a ring sling, neither of us liked it. Switched to a borrowed Baby Bjorn for a while, which he liked much better, and then an Ergo, which was great.

We now have the Ergo and a Beco Gemini, both reasonably manly-looking if that's an issue, and extremely comfortable. You can't quite use the Gemini from newborn but AFAIR it's usable from much younger than the Ergo, as you can adjust the bottom of it to make it narrower.

There's no way my DH would have used a wrap!!! Way too girly looking! Tbh, it does look a bit odd when men use wraps... We just had one of each.

Manly pram

We used to fight over who got to wear ds when we went out and often "swapped" half way.

When I was younger and better looking, I used to carry my kids around in a sling. It gets you lots of female attention ...

Baby Bjorns aren't great because they don't support the baby properly - you need something that gives the baby proper support. Here's a guide to the different types:

www.nct.org.uk/sites/default/files/related_documents/Messager%20Babywearing%20slings%20pull%20out.pdf?dm_i=C2A,1I0GJ,2J7RDL,53M7K,1

I stand corrected. Ds loved facing out from about 8 weeks....oops

Thanks all I can't return it as it's off eBay (we're v skint atm!) But I'll probably get a wrap when I can, if baby doesn't get on with Baby Bjorn.
I know its a very silly thing to be annoyed about, I think it's probably just on top of another couple of things DH has said lately re birth/parenting etc that I didn't expect from him. I'm sure it's normal to pick faults with your partner at a time like this though...???

greymalkin I didn't know about sling libraries - I'll give it a go, thanks

Looking at pictures maybe it was more like 12...

Normal. Esp for first baby!

We weren't going to use dummies

When is baby due? I found wraps rubbish for summer born (even with the thin linen ones), as I got horribly sweaty.
Look into what you'll wear/use when it's raining/cold too (babywearing coats are expensive , I wear a massive waterproof gilet when it's raining as it covers her & me).

You will get lots of opinions from both sides of the sling wars here. Don't worry about it. It's just a sling. See how you get on when the baby arrives and eBay it if you want to then.

This is just the first of many small things that it is not worth arguing about this year. You will need each other's help. Decide now not to fall out over this stuff.