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Neighbour won't give me my parcel!

397 replies

Nannyplum2015 · 24/03/2015 16:22

I've problems with this neighbour before over parking.

She's had a parcel of mine since Wednesday last week and I know she is in but she is refusing to open the door. Wibu if I knocked the door down? It's a present I need to give to someone on Saturday.

OP posts:
AlpacaPicnic · 25/03/2015 09:31

Report it as theft.

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Nannyplum2015 · 25/03/2015 09:35

Well I've phoned 101 and the chap was nice but said I need to check with the post office that it is definitely with her(I know it is) and i can call back later to get a crime reference number if I need it. He didn't say any one would come and sort it though. I suppose they have bigger fish to fry.

OP posts:
Piratespoo · 25/03/2015 09:39

You are going to have to block her car in and put a note on it saying I will move my car when you give me my parcel....seriously.

TwinkieTwinkle · 25/03/2015 09:40

I'd pop a note through her door stating you want your parcel, undamaged by midday, if not you will contact the police and report her for theft. Perhaps the threat of police might rally her? Make sure you set a time limit. If she doesn't bring it back, go across at midday, ring the bell and if she doesn't answer, phone 101 from your mobile, right outside her house, so she can hear you reporting her for theft and interfering with the Mail.

MargotLovedTom · 25/03/2015 09:47

I am getting angry reading this! I would be out of the house so bloody fast when I saw her outside on her return and I'd physically place myself in her doorway so she couldn't shut the door whilst asking for my parcel. You're walking along beside her, she blatantly ignores you and you just let her go off?

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 25/03/2015 09:47

Somewhere Someone has an elderly Korean lady neighbour and yet you end up with a crazy parking parcel knapping nightmare Sad

If you sell will you have to declare her?

MargotLovedTom · 25/03/2015 09:49

Angry with the neighbour not you, but I do think you need to be a bit more assertive or she's going to walk right over you. Doorstep her or block her car in as pp have said.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 25/03/2015 09:52

I think Twinkle's plan is pretty damn good (although I'd maybe say by 6pm)

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 25/03/2015 09:54

Just get the company to redeliver. Simple. Your neighbour has already proven she's a loon so don't give her the satisfaction of begging.

kissedbyamoonbeammyarse · 25/03/2015 10:15

Is there a number at the post office you can call? Get the crime reference number. You can use it for compensation. I guess you need to inform the post office NOT to leave parcels there. I don't know what I would do if someone blanked me like that. There may be legal implications if you put your foot in her door or stand in front of her. Possibly time to find out more about her too. She won't just have pissed of you and NAR.

kissedbyamoonbeammyarse · 25/03/2015 10:16

I mean a post office number to report the neighbour for keeping your parcel.

AuntyBrenda · 25/03/2015 10:29

Just Shock

Allbymyselfagain · 25/03/2015 10:32

Also thinking about it, I would definately get the crime ref number. She sounds like she got a problem with you and if she's a crazy as she's coming across I hate to say it but I don't think it'll be the last stunt she tries to pull. Start gathering evidence now!

Can't remember if she is rental but I think you own don't you?

redskirt · 25/03/2015 10:32

How do you know that she actually had your parcel?

Zucker · 25/03/2015 10:36

I'd be popping to the shop for a diary to keep note of her antics towards you, starting with the parking debacle.

swazza · 25/03/2015 10:43

Yes totally agree with recording everything - going back to the parking fiasco.

Sadly I think she is going to be a PITA again at some point.

Get a crime number and when you get it ask them if they can come and have a word - they can only say no!

Call PO/Royal mail/Courier with crime number and see what can be done.

Put a note on your door saying that if you are not in no deliveries are to be left with the nutjob living at number blah de blah.

If Nutjob brings parcel around to you at any point take great pleasure in telling the cow that its been reported as stolen.

In future log everything this nutjob does that could be considered offensive.

If you know her name Google her and see if she has a reputation/court cases press mentions for past odd/anti social behaviour.

Ask NAR and any other neighbours if they have taken your parcel in(just to be sure) but more of an excuse to find out if anyone else is having issues with her.

HappyGoLuckyGirl · 25/03/2015 10:50

I remember your parking thread! What happened in the end Nanny?

She sounds batshit. I agree with PP about recording these things. If she continues over a sustained period of time you may be able to get her done for harrassment.

Some people are just so weird

MargotLovedTom · 25/03/2015 11:02

Legal implications of standing in front of her? Confused

She probably plans to give up the parcel in about a week after playing silly beggars in a tit for tat scenario (she thought OP was being petty re parking, so she's going to be petty re this). Very inconvenient when the parcel is needed for Saturday though.

TwinkieTwinkle · 25/03/2015 11:05

Problem with her doing that is it's illegal. It's theft. I hope the police do have a wee visit, scare her up a bit. Mad old bat.

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 25/03/2015 11:06

Looked up Royal Mail policy about leaving with a neighbour. You need to opt out as delivery companies can't.

www.money.co.uk/article/1009401-how-to-opt-out-of-the-royal-mail-delivery-to-neighbour-scheme.htm
That link explains and gives links direct to the RM site.

Doesn't help if it's a courier though.

Bogeyface · 25/03/2015 11:08

I'd be inclined to pop a note through her door informing her that you have reported her theft to the police and have a crime reference number, and that if she doesnt return the parcel with 24 hours further action will be taken. she doesnt have to know that that means sellotaping her doorbell down!

MargotLovedTom · 25/03/2015 11:10

Oh I know Twinkie, I was merely musing on the possible motivation for her behaviour.

EponasWildDaughter · 25/03/2015 11:25

Hmm, Money Saving Expert seems to say neighbor is legally allowed to keep the parcel ShockAngry however you are entitled to replaced goods.

forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=3222118

antumbra · 25/03/2015 11:59

It is the reponsibilty of those who you bought the item from.

I run an online business and post many thousand of items a year.

What the courier did with your parcel is of no concern to you- he could have dropped it in a river, given it a tramp in the street or gave it to a mad neighbour.

THe fact remains that your contract was with the retailer, not the courier- and it remains their problem if the item wasn't delivered to you.

Distance selling regulations protects your rights- you ordered and paid for an item and if it wasn't delivered to you then the blame lies with the retailer.

It's the retailer you should be hounding not the neighbour or even the police.
They need to either refund or replace- it is then up to them to take action with your neighbour or the police if they see fit.

Collaborate · 25/03/2015 12:02

I fundamentally disagree that the neighbour is allowed to keep the item. It's theft, the victim being the supplier. It's an intention to permanently deprive someone of something you know not to belong to you. It's the same as finding money in the street. You're supposed to hand it in, as you know it's not yours.