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Neighbour won't give me my parcel!

397 replies

Nannyplum2015 · 24/03/2015 16:22

I've problems with this neighbour before over parking.

She's had a parcel of mine since Wednesday last week and I know she is in but she is refusing to open the door. Wibu if I knocked the door down? It's a present I need to give to someone on Saturday.

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whoreandpeace · 31/03/2015 16:31

Do remember, OP, that if you ever come to sell your house you have to reveal any problems with neighbours on the forms you have to complete. So if anything goes formal (eg police, or management company) then you would have to reveal all that if you sold and she was still living there. If you're renting then it's no problem. I would pop over to NAR and WONAR and tell them what has happened, just by the by. You need allies in that neighbourhood because this isn't the last thread you'll start about this woman.........

YouSayWhaaat · 31/03/2015 16:57

Maybe we have her all wrong. Maybe she is just someone who really, really likes mail.

In which case I think you should be showing your kinder side.

A kind person would sign her up for every piece of mail that was going. You could probably save a lot of time by stopping with some market researchers in the high street, especially ones selling kitchens or patio windows and let them have her address. That way she can have lots and lots of the mail that she loves so much.

sparechange · 31/03/2015 17:15

Don't worry, a Glitterbomb isn't an actual exploding bomb
It is just a envelope stuffed with the stuff, so when you open it, it goes everywhere

middleagedbread · 31/03/2015 17:49

Gobsmacked, OP, that she would be brazen enough to peg jumper on the line for you to see. She is a proper fruitcake, isn't she. Glad you have photographed it please post a copy here too. I foresee future problems with this neighbour though so watch out...

Chippednailvarnish · 31/03/2015 17:52

Can you post yourself a huge turd in a Tiffany box a la Sharon Osborne? You could add glitter for good measure...

Jacana · 31/03/2015 18:11

Do you think that the wrapping with your address on it is in her rubbish bin?

msrisotto · 31/03/2015 18:34

God she keeps on giving doesn't she. Sorry for you OP, you're going to learn all the crazy stupid ways you will need to adjust what you do to avoid ever coming into contact with her.

maliaki · 31/03/2015 18:54

She wants a reaction from you, ignore it completely. In fact wash your jumper and hang it on the line alone.

After updating the police.

Original poster
Nannyplum2015 · 31/03/2015 18:54

Tbh she's scaring me a little. Who in their right mind would do that? I've never seen a visitor to her house, so maybe she is very lonely. Or maybe no one wants to visit her for a reason, who knows. I think I'm just not going to rise up to it and ignore her. I'm wondering now if she has MH problems.

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Jacana · 31/03/2015 19:12

I can understand your feelings, nanny and this really is why I was thinking that a visit from the cops would possibly give the message that messing around with you will have consequences.

One hell of a flaky individual, that one.

When you can, have a word with NAR and WONAR and tell them what she's been doing, that way if you ever need a quick backup they'll be prepared.

Honestly tho, I'd really urge talking to the police about her, call in at the copshop tomorrow for a chat?

SmellyFartado · 31/03/2015 19:13

Phone 101 and make a point of going there with them to retrieve it. She's a fucking loon and if you let this go, she'll carry on finding ways to get at you. Take a stand.

Ratfinkandbobo · 31/03/2015 19:13

Very provocative behaviour by the neighbour.
Mil neighbour started acting v strangely, now been diagnosed with dementia.
Just pure speculation obviously, but this behaviour does make you wonder if an underlying issue. Or just very odd behaviour.

Cadenza1818 · 31/03/2015 19:14

So sorry about all this. We had awful neighbour prob a few years back. The police were on our side and ready to take it further. My dh mental state was suffering though due to the stress of it all. In the end we just sold up. Very glad we hadn't gone through with charges as we'd have been stuck there. just think before you take action that will be kept on record. It does annoy me that they got away with it but our happiness was more important at the time. Hope this gets better for you op. Flowers

EponasWildDaughter · 31/03/2015 20:06

Just completely ignore it OP. The jumper on the line business.

I too think she might have put it there hoping you would rise to the bate and try to take it. I bet at the very least she was all ready to enjoy ignoring you knocking at the door, and maybe even hoping to get a snap of you trying to retrieve it.

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 31/03/2015 20:12

Can't you just go an get it and straighten things out with the retailer when it is in your possession again?

antumbra · 31/03/2015 20:27

The OP has been refunded- the jumper that the neighbour has does not belong to the OP. Taking the jumper would be theft. Two wrongs don't make a right.

maliaki · 31/03/2015 20:37

Who in their right mind would do that?

Someone who likes the idea of getting one over someone and thinks she has done with you OP.

Ignore her, just tell the police and keep a log of her twattery. She sees this is a game: first point you, second point her. Except when you ignore her it will really mess up her game.

maliaki · 31/03/2015 20:38

I know someone who had a neighbour like this. He was an antisocial shit and things like this were the start. Not scaring you OP, she may well just be enjoying her 'triumph' but it reminds me very much of him.

lalalonglegs · 31/03/2015 20:39

You know, I am developing a grudging respect for this neighbour - she obviously puts a lot of thought and imagination into her psychological warfare.

antumbra · 31/03/2015 20:42

And playing the game is exactly whet this neighbour wants.
I wouldn't give her the satisfaction.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 31/03/2015 20:45

You know, I am developing a grudging respect for this neighbour - she obviously puts a lot of thought and imagination into her psychological warfare.

I can't help but wonder if she is being egged on by a members of a forum somewhere... Grin

HaveTeaWillSurvive · 31/03/2015 20:51

Haha yes 'the witch next door won't let me park in her space help me plan cunning ways to piss her off so she moves and the space is mine...'

TrixieB123 · 31/03/2015 20:53

I once had an awful neighbour who also kept nicking my parcels and not giving them up. Unfortunately for him I have a pet salamander for whom I order live food from the internet. A box full of worms can really stink after a while, as it turns out.

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 31/03/2015 20:57

Antumbra I did not suggest that she stolen it in her turn, I suggested she retired it and "straightened it out",i.e. paid for it again or returned it to the retailer.

FOFONAR · 31/03/2015 21:20

Go and park in her space just to play with her mind!

Do you think ndn is a MNer???