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To want to flying headbutt DP?!

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WhingeyMinge · 17/03/2015 21:09

I look after DS (7 months) all day every day and put him to bed every night. I bath him at 7pm, dress and feed him and he's usually asleep in his cot by around 7.30pm. DP gives him lots of kisses before I take him up to bed but when we go up to bed ourselves (usually around 10pm) he is just so noisy and has to kiss DS on the face at least 10 times which wakes him up EVERY SINGLE FRIKKIN NIGHT!! DP then gets in to bed and lays there while I have to get up and try to settle DS because he's now crying his eyes out, this can take about 30 mins or more, which is a lot when I've been up since 6am and just want to get in to bed. It's really winding me up so I've decided to move DS to his own room starting from tonight so that he doesn't have to be disturbed, when I told DP he said "I'm not really happy about you moving him yet, I'll still have to go in and give him a kiss anyway because it's just the way I am and I've always done it"
AAAARRRGGGGHHHH I told him that from now on if he wakes him then he has to stay up with him until he's settled as it's unfair cos I'm really tired and it's also unfair on DS having to be woken every night. Plus he's less likely to re-settle when he realises he's in a different room without us.
He thinks I'm being unreasonable! It's not as if he doesn't kiss him before I take him up to bed in the first place, plus if he really really has to why can't it just be one gentle one that doesn't wake him?! Angry
Who is being unreasonable here? I'm so fed up his selfish attitude!

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Altinkum · 20/03/2015 08:17

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WhingeyMinge · 20/03/2015 08:27

Thank you x

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ptumbi · 20/03/2015 08:55

I think you'll find, OP, that now that ds is not being woken up halfway through his sleep cycle, and left to cry/settle for -what, 45minutes to get back to proper sleep? - that he will now wake up 45 minutes or so earlier.

Only answer - get wanker dP to wake him up again at 10pm and leaving him crying...

WhingeyMinge · 20/03/2015 08:57

Grow up

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 20/03/2015 09:07

Well to be fair to ptumbi, the first part of her post might be the case. But also there is the change in room - different temps, light levels, noise levels etc.

Joyfulldeathsquad · 20/03/2015 09:11

winge me too. If DP takes dd up I really feel I've missed out. I love the last few cuddles and kisses and tucking in and saying good night.

Plus I think I do it better anyway Wink

RocketInMyPocket · 20/03/2015 10:40

Hi Whingey
I'm glad to hear that this isn't a symptom of a deeper problem, As I said I was projecting on my last comment, so pleased that that isn't the case for you!
Glad is all sorted!

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 20/03/2015 11:06

My DP left a lot of stuff to me too. But you can work on that, it's not the same level of problem as a DP who's verbally abusive, violent, pathological liar, a cheat etc, although from some of the comments you'd think it was...
Can only assume that there are a lot of people on Mumsnet who are perfect, with perfect lives and the perfect relationship...Hmm

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