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To put my career first? Career/Money or Work Life Balance?

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AccountantsDilemma · 14/03/2015 21:27

I am at a cross roads in my career and I don't know what to do.

I have worked for my current employer for ten years and I am doing well, have worked up through the ranks and chances are I would make it to Partner....but I am really unhappy. I have two young children, no work life balance and feel constantly taken advantage of at work.

As a result I decided to look for a new job and I now have two offers on the table that I am considering.

  1. Option one - FD of a relatively small business, only a handful of people in my team, sizeable pay cut from what I earn now, a few miles drive from my home (15 minute commute), no chance of promotion but a genuine 9 to 5 day - I could drop my children off at pre-prep, it would offer a huge lifestyle change.
  1. Option two - the career role, large multi-national, senior role, significant pay rise (pay rise alone is almost more than option 1 pays). I did not think I would get this role, I am not sure I could even do this role - I am terrified I would fail. Even if I am good enough then it is an hour commute each way (same as current commute) and the chances are I would put the children to bed on a Sunday night and not see them until Saturday morning.

My heart is saying that I can't continue to not see my children during the week but my ambition is telling me to push myself and take option 2. I don't know what to do and I am really worried about making the wrong choice and resenting it in the future.

Any words of wisdom, past experience or general help would be much appreciated.

OP posts:
hippoinamudhole · 19/03/2015 17:49

Put both options in a hat and pull one out, you will either be pleased or disappointed and there is your answer

FuckItBucket · 19/03/2015 18:28

I'd say option 2.

Do not feel guilty about not seeing your kids every day. It's not unusual.

I don't see mine every day because he goes to his dad's/grandmas 3 nights a week.

You sound like fear is holding you back. That isn't a good enough reason.

Hope you make a decision YOU are happy with. Not to please a bunch of Internet strangers

easylife73 · 21/03/2015 19:29

Please come back and tell us what you decided...after 10 pages I need to know Grin

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