to be so anxious about new neighbour?

[fabuleux]

Had a lovely quiet couple next to me for the last 12 months, barely heard a peep.
New neighbour appears to be a young woman in early 20s and her dd who looks about 2.
They've been slowly moving things in over the last week. The walls are paper thin and I've heard her dd tantrumming/screaming/crying already and lots of loud voices when she's had people over. Plus either her or someone else was smoking outside her front door which made my house stink when I opened my kitchen window.
Praying she doesn't blare shitty thumping music out and that her dd doesn't wake screaming/crying in the night. Her bedroom is right next to my 10yo's room. I've had shit neighbours in the past and think I'm hypersensitive to it all now and can't relax.

OKAY... just to remind everyone that goading is against our guidelines.

What a lovely thread!

What happened here, did I miss a bun-fight??

Expatin... have you thought of getting your children to wear slipper-socks indoors? Or shoes with soft/foam sole like Crocs? Running on wood floors sounds really loud in neighbouring flats, worse if you live underneath. The sound of my neighbours' child running at night was loud enough to wake me up 2 rooms away from partition-wall. I don't think your downstairs neighbour was in the wrong to ask you to take their shoes off indoors. I always wear slippers indoors and keep spare slippers for guests and their children, it keeps floors clean and reduces noise.

It is a presumption to assume I allow my children to run indoors. As it is, I do not. I wear slippers. My children wear socks. My husband wears trainers. He is dyspraxic and trips and stumbles often, so wearing slippers or slipper socks are unsuitable for him. He weighs about 10st and is 6ft so not a heavy walker.

This bastard just doesn't want to hear anything. At all. Ever.

That will never happen in a flat.

So he got abusive and threatening and was warned by the HA to back off.

He chose not to do this but to become more aggressive and threatening so now he's back in jail (he has a long history of assaulting his neighbours, he doesn't like living around people) and the strong likelihood is he will be evicted. The council will then have no obligation to rehouse him as he made himself intentionally homeless by being abusive and threatening.

I care not a fuck.

Glad I was at work and missed all this goady nonsense.

Some people should put a slipper sock in it. siding with expats abusive neighbour. Just lovely.

And who said I even live in town centre. Or that I chose DD's school. Poor goading attempt.

As it happens this weekend I barely heard my neighbours - they seemed to be away for most of it. Instead one of the detached houses a few doors down had a v.loud party in their conservatory which went on til 3am - that showed me didn't it

Expatin... your aggressive neighbour sounds awful, I hope they don't let him come back! Fanjo... I wasn't siding with anyone, I was making a suggestion about footwear (didn't realise Expatin's neighbour was abusive and children wear socks)

Fabuleux... really glad things have been quiet in flat next door. Did you get a chance to go round with cake and chat to the mum?

He's in jail. They don't take people to jail just because they don't like living around people. He has repeatedly threatened my husband over so-called noise, despite the HA telling him there was no case of that and to desist, last night he threatened my husband in front of a witness twice.

In flats, you will hear other people's noise of living.

Haven't had a change yet Suki, she seemed to be v.busy flitting in and out of the house and wanted to wait til things had settled down. If she is in tonight I will pop over then