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to be so anxious about new neighbour?

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fabuleux · 06/03/2015 10:27

Had a lovely quiet couple next to me for the last 12 months, barely heard a peep.
New neighbour appears to be a young woman in early 20s and her dd who looks about 2.
They've been slowly moving things in over the last week. The walls are paper thin and I've heard her dd tantrumming/screaming/crying already and lots of loud voices when she's had people over. Plus either her or someone else was smoking outside her front door which made my house stink when I opened my kitchen window.
Praying she doesn't blare shitty thumping music out and that her dd doesn't wake screaming/crying in the night. Her bedroom is right next to my 10yo's room. I've had shit neighbours in the past and think I'm hypersensitive to it all now and can't relax.

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theboatisleaking · 09/03/2015 09:07

'My DD is 8 and runs around bangs and yells'
Apologies Fanjofor, I got the impression she was making a lot of noise, disturbing neighbours etc and you were defending it. If your flat has good soundproofing and she's usually quiet that's great, I don't see what the problem is.

Flanjab, people always have choices in life, especially in UK. You don't have to live in a council flat indefinitely unless you choose to. If you want to move I suggest you go back to college, change careers, work your way up in a profession. Set a good example to your child instead of resigning yourself to living this way forever!

theboatisleaking · 09/03/2015 09:12

Expat, why was your neighbour arrested? For complaining about noise?! Hmm

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/03/2015 09:34

Boat..even if she was noisy your right to tell me to buy a new house does not exist!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/03/2015 09:35

Nor should you tell flanjab how to live her life Hmm

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/03/2015 09:35

flanja Thanks

You are too, it will pass, keep hanging on in there :)

theboatisleaking · 09/03/2015 10:58

Flanjo, if she was noisy and disturbing neighbours the decent thing would be for you to move!! You've had 8 years to find somewhere suitable to live. You must have known how expensive Edinburgh is before you chose her school. So what if you have to move out of city-centre and travel further to school? Why should your convenience be more important than neighbours' right to peace and quiet? Other people in those flats will be paying the same rent/mortgage as you, they don't expect to be woken in night by your 8-year-old bashing their walls!

flanjabelle · 09/03/2015 11:05

the boat how fucking dare you make assumptions about me. Actually I am fucking studying at the same time as looking after dd and trying to get us out of here. Although that is going to help in the distant future, how does that help me now?! You are so far out of line it's unbelievable.

SunnyBaudelaire · 09/03/2015 11:10

flanja do not listen to anyone who says they 'scrimped and saved to live in a semi' you just know they are DM material, nothing more.

flanjabelle · 09/03/2015 11:13

Thanks sunny.

expatinscotland · 09/03/2015 11:15

Yep. It's a council flat, not a fucking library or B&B, we have a child with ASD, and his puny, drug-addled, bullying arse seems to think he can dictate what we wear in our own home, when we should get up on Sunday morning (11am is too early), and live our lives. He was told to shut up by the HA, but that didn't get through his stupid skull. He went on and on and got abusive. So he will wind up learning in jail. I give not a gram of fuck.

expatinscotland · 09/03/2015 11:20

Don't justify yourself to gits, fanjo and flanga. Fuck their you should move out shit. Live your life. If they don't like it,money can fucking move. I'd stay put. We lived in town centre Edin. It was fab. Stay put. Why should you commute or leave just because of a few miserable curmudgeons? Fuck 'em.

If this guy doesn't like being disturbed, he can go get disturbed in jail.

expatinscotland · 09/03/2015 11:23

I love my council flat. I've been here for years. I'm going nowhere. If my neighbours don't like kid noise within reason, autism notwithstanding, then they can be the ones who move.

We cannot afford private rents nor to buy.

My kids love it here.

We are getting new neighbours who have two autistic children.

And a dog!

Yay.

flanjabelle · 09/03/2015 11:28

Thanks expat, I know I shouldn't feed the trolls.

theboatisleaking · 09/03/2015 11:31

'council flat, in an area that no one wants to swap to. I would love a house and a garden for dd (oh and thanks so much for making me feel shitter about it theboat), but it is not possible'

Flanjab, your previous post (above) implied you thought it impossible to ever move from your council flat. I was pointing out that if you want a house and garden it's within your reach, you just have to work for it. If you choose to have a child before you can afford one, you can't expect tax-payers to provide you with a house and garden!!

When I was pregnant with DC1 I was doing minimum wage jobs. I went to nightschool when she was a baby, re-sat A-levels, then did an OU degree. Meanwhile DH was setting up his own business, so money was tight for years. We both work very hard to give our kids a good start in life and provide for them. Houses with gardens in nice areas don't just fall in your lap!!

expatinscotland · 09/03/2015 11:32

Seriously, don't bother. There's a cadre of 4 or 5 haters who just go round all these threads bitching about children. Fuck 'em.

SunnyBaudelaire · 09/03/2015 11:32

yawn

expatinscotland · 09/03/2015 11:35

Blah blah blah blah blah. I left off at the ol' 'children you can't afford'. Assume the rest of it was the ol' 'pull yourself up by the bootstraps' claptrap.

theboatisleaking · 09/03/2015 11:39

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expatinscotland · 09/03/2015 11:47

Oh, yes, I am, that's why he's in jail right now and I'm not.

Yes, I am drunk, at 11.30am. Cuz that's how we are in council houses, doncha know. Hmm

He objected to our wearing shoes. Any shoes. He told us we had to wear slippers.

Well, he doesn't get to dictate that.

And like I said, he's the one in jail now.

It's called reasonable living.

If someone has an issue with what is deemed as 'reasonable living' , including exceptions made for disabled children, then the issue is theirs.

And so, fuck 'em.

Enjoy Edin, fanjo! We love it. Why let silly twats try to run you out? You have just as much right to be there as anyone else.

It's a busy town centre, not a library.

ScooseIsLoose · 09/03/2015 12:02

Do you have a child with sn the boat? Do you have any idea how hard it is to get them into to the right school? Or are you know it all who knows nothing of what it's like? Unjust trying to understand how you could be so patronising.

ScooseIsLoose · 09/03/2015 12:02

I'm just not unjust

expatinscotland · 09/03/2015 12:31

Don't bother, Scoose, some folks really do read the DM and believe it.

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SunnyBaudelaire · 09/03/2015 12:35

I do not know anyone who sees their council flat as temporary solution, they are quite aware they got the golden egg esp in London and will not move til they die. I really find your tone patronising and offensive boat.

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