AIBU or is he regarding breast feeding?

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I am currently pregnant, it's my 3rd child and Dp's first. We can not agree on anything to do with raising the baby. I am aware we should have thought about all this before deciding whether to have a baby or not.

The biggest thing is breast feeding. I think I should try to breast feed. My reasons are

It's free
It's much better for the baby
It's more convenient, no making up bottles in the middle of the night etc

Dp wants me to bottle feed, his reasons are

He finds breast feeding disgusting
He thinks science beats nature so formula will be made much better than breast milk

So who is being unreasonable? Dp says he is happy to get up in the night and make up bottles.

I doubt it has anything to do with what's best for the baby and everything to do with your breasts being, in his mind, there for his sexual pleasure. I would put your foot down, your breasts your choice.

I like your optimism Andrew.

Hoping he does back down gracefully op. And that he isn't quite the fool he seems.

Sounds like he has an issue with the idea of feeding from a nipple. You are going to breastfeed (no matter what he says you need to stick to your guns), so he will have to get used to the idea. But in the meantime get him some literature for men that might help him. Speak to your midwife - she might have some literature for you. He can't be the only man to have an aversion to it. He's probably seeing your breasts as sexual and it's freaking him out a bit.

DH and I had a major disagreement regarding this ( albeit we were the other way around). I was very upset . I went into my midwife appointment and my normal Blood prsssure was sky high. The midwife asked what was wrong I dissolved into tears and she reassured me . I came out of the appointment and Dh asked what was wrong I told him and from that day on I never had any issue with him.

Just explain to your partner that it is affecting your pregnancy and you may be surprised at his reaction.

He sounds like a complete twat. As far as I'm concerned, the only thing DH had any place saying when I was deciding how to feed our children was "do whatever you're comfortable with babe". I breastfed for the first few weeks, hated it and switched to formula. Three times. DH was supportive all the way through.

I wonder - is he one of those town children who don't believe that milk comes from s cow and think it comes from a bottle?

In this situation I don't think you should waste energy trying to talk your husband round. You need to mentally just turn down the volume on him. Try and screen him out while you make the decisions that need to be made, rest, and get on with caring for baby (both before and after the birth). Just treat him as if he has been bitten by zombies and needs to be left behind (metaphorically) for now. Whether he manages to recover and catch up is his prerogative.