AIBU or is he regarding breast feeding?

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I am currently pregnant, it's my 3rd child and Dp's first. We can not agree on anything to do with raising the baby. I am aware we should have thought about all this before deciding whether to have a baby or not.

The biggest thing is breast feeding. I think I should try to breast feed. My reasons are

It's free
It's much better for the baby
It's more convenient, no making up bottles in the middle of the night etc

Dp wants me to bottle feed, his reasons are

He finds breast feeding disgusting
He thinks science beats nature so formula will be made much better than breast milk

So who is being unreasonable? Dp says he is happy to get up in the night and make up bottles.

I think there could be a compromise to spare his feelings on having to see it. You could cover up Op with a shawl or such.

Bambambini, I think you made a typo...The OP could cover her DH up with a shawl or similar.

even better

or put him outside in the shed

Any update OP?

what are you expecting? Yes I've had the baby, successfully established breastfeeding and buried the fucker under the patio.

We'll it would be a good start.

It's that 'oh, it's not a soap' moment....

If only Pag. It's like a Les Dawson sketch on here sometimes.

Ain't that the truth.

Yes I haven't had the baby yet, still a while to go. I'm not going to change my mind on breastfeeding.

Yes ,he is being unreasonable, but I think this attitude is more common than a lot of people think on Mumsnet. Quite a lot of people (women as well as men) find the thoughts of breastfeeding unpleasant, though most of them might ot use the word 'disgusting'.
I breastfed my 1st baby for a few weeks, and my (now ex) husband was not supportive or helpful at all. Though he didn't say it was disgusting he made it quite obvious that he didn't want me to do it ,and it did make life more difficult at times.
I think you just have to stick to your guns OP. If you really want to breastfeed then do it. Once he sees it's a normal healthy thing (and good for your baby) then he may well become more supportive.

I would have a hard time finding this man attractive to the point that I could have sex with him. What were you thinking?

goodbye people don't really quiz people on their views re breastfeeding before having sex with them. A lot of people don't even think about breastfeeding at all prior to becoming pregnant.

what a twonk.

I guess its hard to believe that someone who holds the view that breastfeeding is disgusting does not have weirdy views on other things.

Wow. What an idiot.

^Yes. I doubt his view on BFing is an aberration.

I am wondering if I have discovered the root of all your disagreements OP.

When you talk about "the baby" does he think you mean him?

Because that's what he sounds like.

Is he very handsome OP? Does he earn a very large salary?

I think you need to be practical here. I am as feminist as they come, but it may be more practical to assign this fellow the duties of breadwinner and genetic donor. Whether still living at yours or not is up to you.

OP, your DP's reaction sounds neurotic - and I mean that in the psychological sense. Sometimes, "being a twat" is an over-simplification. Yes, his behaviour might be twattish, and it also might have a deep-seated psychological basis to it. That's not an excuse for him to carry on. If it is psychological, and you aren't able to work it through together but you want to stay together, then the logical response is that he gets some help.

There's nowt so queer as folk. We're told he's good with the other kids which is not always the case. If he backs down over this, which he must, gracefully he may be a worthy type on every other way.

I'd never let him touch my boobs again.

What an absolute dick.

Wtf does he think boobs are for?

Tell him formula milk is made from milk meant for baby cows not baby humans.