to not feed my ds someone else's breast milk.

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Ds is mixed fed. Yesterday my friend offered to defrost some of her bm if I ran out of formula. Aibu to not want to feed him this?

Ps I know it was well intended. Not bitching about her offering, just questioning my response.

Do you think another woman's milk is contaminated or dirty?

Is there a specific reason like unpropper storage?

Its milk. Its more chemically balanced to what your child needs than formula (and I say this as someone who FF all 6 kids, no BF issues here!) and as long as it was stored properly I dont see the problem.

would you rather your child went hungry rather than have what is perfectly acceptable milk?

YABU

Yanbu. I breastfed my DS until he was 2 1/2 and I wouldn't have let him have someone else's breast milk

I give my dc milk that's been squeezed from a cow. Not sure how that's better than from another human!

I know everyone seems really cool with this on MN but for some irrational reason, it makes me feel queasy.

So unless my child was going to starve, I would politely decline too.

And yes, good point about the cow!

Like I said, irrational

Do you drink cow's breast milk?

I would but I totally get your reluctance and therefore YANBU.

Completely your choice. So YANBU to feed your baby however you choose. I felt strange about the idea of donor milk with my first child but after finding out more about breastmilk vs formula I would choose donor milk every time. But your baby, your choice. What is it that makes you uncomfortable, is it a worry about disease transmission or a general feeling about bonding? Bear in mind that when you give formula you are giving expressed breastmilk from another species.

YABU I think. We'll happily feed our children milk from a squitty arsed shitting cow covered in flies but not from another of our species? Seems mad to me - I'd use a friend's BM if the need arose.

Meh, I donated breast milk to the milk bank when DS was born so don't really see it as a big issue. She was just being kind and offering you an alternative.

If you had concerns about contamination/disease fair enough but really it's no weirder than using any other type of milk.

Yanbu, on mn it seems perfectly normal but most people in rl would feel uncomfortable.

I've done loads of breastfeeding, but l wouldn't feed my child with milk from another woman...
No, l would rather give formula in the situation you described. :)

I think it's because I see my baby as an extension of me and I wouldn't want to get too close to another persons bodily fluids.

However, this lady used to express for a friend who was struggling with twins and loads of people donate to premature babies so maybe I'm being weird.

YANBU. Breastmilk is like blood, it carries HIV and other diseases. I would never give my DC someone else's breastmilk.

This thread will start to insult those who formula fed....
They always do.

OP, I would feel the same. I know it's irrational, I know we give our children cows milk which comes from a different species ffs, and formula which has God knows what in it, but breastmilk feels so personal. I actually think I'd find it easier to give my child a stranger's breastmilk than a friend's (assuming i could be 100% sure it was not going to harm my baby).

This used to be common a century or so ago when the very rich had' wet nurses ' my boys were formula fed not sure how I would feel.

I think I would worry a bit about diseases etc.

Good point about the cows.

It's not a bonding issue, although it would be if she was physically offering her boob. Would a baby even latch onto a forreign breast? Has anyone crossfed?

It's strange isn't it? Is it maybe just because bf still doesn't seem 'mainstream' or something? We're all conditioned to think that drinking cow milk is 'normal' but if you actually think about it - it's a really weird thing to do! Maybe as time goes on and bf rates improve and milk donation gets talked about more it will become more 'normalised'. It certainly used to be quite common for women to nurse other people's babies.

YANBU. Donated milk is all well and good, but I wouldn't set up an informal, unregulated arrangement with a friend either.

Most people wouldn't.

This is just yet another example of MN being very much unrepresentative of everyday life.

Milk banks screen their milk don't they?

Sorry - I mean people's feelings about it are strange - not that using someone else's milk is strange!

I wouldn't give my child somebody else's breast milk (unless he was premature and really needed it). It might be irrational when we drink cows milk but I also eat beef and wouldn't eat a piece of another human.