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To expect DH to be home soon

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 01:13

I have to leave for work at 6am. He will be looking after our dc (7,5,3) all day until 9pm. He has gone out after work as it is his last day there. I warned him I was working. He is terrible for not waking up after a drink. I am worried I will not be able to go to work if he is much later Confused

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JenniferGovernment · 21/02/2015 19:39

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MartinJD · 21/02/2015 19:45

Jennifer, I think you may be perhaps missing the point here somewhat. The OP's other half was certainly not due in at work today, these, after all, were his works "leaving" drinks.

Cheers!

Hurr1cane · 21/02/2015 19:47

Urrm. Fuck that Martin.

My DP can go out whenever he wants, for as long as he wants, wherever he wants and with whoever he wants. The only thing I ask is he lets me know he's back safe wherever he ends up. I don't really drink and rarely go out.

UNLESS he has made a commitment to me and DS, and DS isn't even his.

He would NEVER EVER let DS down or leave me in the lurch. In fact, the man once forced himself to come on the school run with me, when he was horribly hung over, and waited in the car just because he told DS he'd be there, I didn't even have to ask him (he works all weekend and has 2 days off in the week)

If you think this is an acceptable way to treat your children and your wife then I'm glad I'm not with someone like you.

See, my DP can balance a busy social life with me and DS easily because he's not a prick.

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BloodyClarey · 21/02/2015 19:51

Martin, reactionary means the opposite of what you think it does.

MuddhaOfSuburbia · 21/02/2015 19:51

I've been on the receiving end of this sort of bollocks OP

It truly, TRULY sucks

Flowers

Make sure you get an early night, make him sleep on the sofa, and treat yourself tomorrow (if you're not in work) while HE looks after HIS KIDS

ilovesooty · 21/02/2015 19:51

Don't rise to it everybody. Martin is just someone who's joined to goad. He'll doubtless move onto another forum soon as he's almost certainly done before.

MartinJD · 21/02/2015 19:52

Jennifer, But the OP's other half wasn't due in at work today, was he? Therefore your point is moot.

MuddhaOfSuburbia · 21/02/2015 19:53

What sooty says

FarFromAnyRoad · 21/02/2015 19:53

Now what's that old truism about trolls and providing the sustenance they crave...........?

SurlyCue · 21/02/2015 19:57

The OP's other half was certainly not due in at work today,

No he wasnt due in at his employed work. He was however due on duty as his parenting job. The one he committed to doing to enable his partner to attend her employed work. He sabotaged her ability to earn an income today and possibly her future with her employer.

KissMyFatArse · 21/02/2015 19:58

Notnow how was things today? Hope you read the riot act!

HeisenbergsBlueMeth · 21/02/2015 19:59

Its really unacceptable that you had to call in sick today because your OH clearly has no control over himself

I hope you give him a right bollocking

SurlyCue · 21/02/2015 20:01

Oh forgot the cheers

MartinJD · 21/02/2015 20:07

You may wish to review your understanding of the word "sabotaged". To sabotage means to deliberately harm, either through subversion, obstruction, disruption, or destruction.

Now from the information we have available to us (in the form of the OP's posts) none of this seems to have been the result of a premeditated act.

Stupid? Yes. Unthoughtful? Absolutely. However sabotage it certainly was not.

Cheers!

TheCuntOfMonteCristo · 21/02/2015 20:07

DH has done this a few times during our marriage. Got far too drunk and passed out on a mate's sofa somewhere and not coming home until after breakfast. It is incredibly irritating and the Rage used to last for days afterwards.

He was always very sorry. There was never any real reason or justification for it. Just that very occasionally it was like he flicked an internal switch and went into twat mode.

98% of the time he was really nice, thoughtful and reliable though.

SlaggyIsland · 21/02/2015 20:09

On the plus side, at least none of us are married to Martin.

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ilovesooty · 21/02/2015 20:13

Just report him for goodness sake.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 21/02/2015 20:13

Amen to that slaggy :)

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 20:15

Oh the post has moved fast. I have shouted and shouted and in his week off next week before he starts his new job he is doing school runs all dinners and a massive list of DIY jobs in the day. I will lie in every day as am on lates

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TheCuntOfMonteCristo · 21/02/2015 20:17

slaggy if Martin was my DH I would actively encourage him to stay out all night. Every night.