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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To have zero patience with fussy/picky/faddy eaters?

249 replies

JudgeyHotPants · 09/02/2015 16:37

I'm not talking about people with genuine medical conditions that prevent them eating certain foods such as celiacs, but those with a list as long as their arm of various foods that they "don't like" and who try and dictate where you should eat when you go out with them in a group, won't budge and insist on everyone else making allowances to suit their fussiness and then sulk when you don't. Pushing their food around their places passive aggressively with faces like slapped arses.

You might wonder why it bothers me so much but I have several family members like is and eating out with them is a nightmare. We're talking the kind of people who will only eat plain meat and two veg type of stuff and won't touch anything "fancy" or spicey or seasoned with herbs or god forbid anything "foreign". So when you go anywhere with them your restricted to cheap and chearful pub chains or fast food places. When they go abroad they even seak out those hideous places that do full English breakfasts and egg and chips! I find it rude and childish.

I have zero tolerance for this kind of behaviour and am often made out go be the bad guy when I push to go somewhere decent for a meal. But they way I see it your not ill, you don't have an intolerance, your just being a twat. Just shut up and eat it!

AIBU?

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honeysucklejasmine · 09/02/2015 16:42

YANBU!

CarpetCrawler · 09/02/2015 16:42

I have zero tolerance for people who post inflammatory bollocks on the internet.

Mind you don't choke on your fancy foreign food.

BathtimeFunkster · 09/02/2015 16:42

Hint: if lots of people tell you you are "the bad guy", you're probably behaving like a dick.

PtolemysNeedle · 09/02/2015 16:43

YABU just for coming across so angry about what other people eat.

YANBU to be irritated that you can't share company with these people at restaurants that you would prefer more, and you're right that they shouldn't make others go places they don't want to go or sulk, but that is to do with their manners, not their eating habits.

If you don't want to share meals with these people then don't.

It is not rude or childish not to force yourself to eat things you don't want to eat.

It is rude and childish to stamp your feet and say 'just shut up and eat it'. Why don't you just shut up and eat your meat and two veg?

WizardOfToss · 09/02/2015 16:43

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 09/02/2015 16:44

Don't go out with these 'fussy eaters' if they irk you so much.

They're not going to suddenly eat anything just because you're pissed off with them.

PrimalLass · 09/02/2015 16:44

Have you posted this before? It is very familiar.

HubertCumberdale · 09/02/2015 16:48

Fussy eaters really irritate me, they always want to go for 'pub grub'. This annoys me because I like to eat healthily and I ask if we can go for something like sushi and then I realise I AM A FUSSY EATER IN THEIR EYES.
I then eat my salad quietly.

Mrsjayy · 09/02/2015 16:48

What is wrong with people with simple taste in food are you a food snob is that why it pisses you off so much you could either not be around people who like egg and chips OR just eat egg and chips Grin having a different taste in food is not faddy

cremedecacao · 09/02/2015 16:50

YANBU.

I feel exactly the same Blush

I don't understand how bland, plain food could ever taste better than something that had been prepared with a bit more thought!

I know everyone is different and that some people have food phobias etc, but to be honest I would be completely embarrassed if I had to sit in a restaurant that only served burger and chips/full English on holiday.

ImBatDog · 09/02/2015 16:51

yes, because instead of picking somewhere EVERYONE can eat something, you should only go somewhere your friend/family CANT eat, and instead has to do their best to pick through an idiotic fancy shitty menu to pick something they might be able to eat, if they ask the staff nicely if the chef might be ok with not smothering it in stupid spices or hideous alcohol.

because of course, eating out isnt about everyone having fun, but making some poor bastard feel unwelcome or have to waste their money on something they cant eat!

Mrsjayy · 09/02/2015 16:52

My husband wont go hotter than a korma he doesn't like hot or spicey food he isn't being childish or irritating he just does not like it

Aherdofmims · 09/02/2015 16:53

Yanbu. That is all.

JudgeyHotPants · 09/02/2015 16:54

CarpetCrawler do you have a made up allergy to fancy foreign food by any chance? Wink

My mum has made up an allergy to butter and cheese, seriously. OK she doesn't like it, fair enough, but if she had an actually genuine dairy allergy she wouldn't be able to eat ice cream which she often scoffs like it's going out of fashion whenever we go anywhere...

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HubertCumberdale · 09/02/2015 16:54

ImBatDog But it's fine to make people who wouldn't touch chips with a barge pole eat in a place that has what is essentially an extended child's menu?

Mrsjayy · 09/02/2015 16:55

I have eaten a burger in spain I think the spanish eat burgers

NickiFury · 09/02/2015 16:55

As soon as someone uses the phrase "I have zero tolerance" about anything other than a pretty serious criminal activity, I just know they're going to be a bit of a twat. So far I have never been proved wrong.

Mrsjayy · 09/02/2015 16:56

Where/what do you like to eat Op

JudgeyHotPants · 09/02/2015 16:59

ImBatDog I bet your a bundle of fun on a night out.

idiotic fancy shitty menu

smothering it in stupid spices and alcohol

I'm sure even those most fancy shitty place will make you a nice little plate of fish fingers and chips if you ask really nicely [grin ]

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noseymcposey · 09/02/2015 17:00

YANBU to rant about it on mumsnet

Y Might BU to rant about it in real life too.

Lots of fussy eaters in the family too which makes catering for family do's utterly epic as there's those that only eat orange things in breadcrumbs and those that wouldn't touch them with a barge pole.

If there's anyone with a 'yeah, whatever you're doing is fine with me' attitude they are welcome at my house :)

JudgeyHotPants · 09/02/2015 17:02

I eat most things MrsJay. The only thing I don't really like is Liver, but I blame the awful, rubbery way it was cooked by my school dinner ladies for scaring me for life over that.

But I will eat pretty much everything else.

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Sparklingbrook · 09/02/2015 17:02

This is bringing to mind the thread about gareth not wanting to go to the eaterie named 'Spicy as Fuck'. Anyone else? Grin

cremedecacao · 09/02/2015 17:02

Agreed Hubert.

I really don't enjoy fast-food/American Diner style restaurants. We ALWAYS seem to go to these places with certain friends/family. If I ever suggest we go somewhere different, people think I am being a snob. I'm not, I just don't really enjoy burgers/chips/ribs that much. It seems I am always the one who has to compromise.

This is also annoying when I am cooking. My FIL only really likes roast dinners, and even then it can only be beef or pork. I don't always want to cook a roast dinner when they come round. I have given up trying to appease him, he doesn't like ANYTHING. Last time I made cassolet and told him it was casserole. He picked out the butter beans and seemed to enjoy the rest and everyone else enjoyed it more than a roast.

HubertCumberdale · 09/02/2015 17:04

Nothing spicy, in alcohol... or with flavour?
Plain chicken and chips then? And how much are you willing to pay for something that you can make at home for about £1?

MagratsHair · 09/02/2015 17:04

Out of interest where do you stand on vegetarians & vegans OP? Are they fussy or allowable? :) :)

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