To have zero patience with fussy/picky/faddy eaters?

[JudgeyHotPants]

I'm not talking about people with genuine medical conditions that prevent them eating certain foods such as celiacs, but those with a list as long as their arm of various foods that they "don't like" and who try and dictate where you should eat when you go out with them in a group, won't budge and insist on everyone else making allowances to suit their fussiness and then sulk when you don't. Pushing their food around their places passive aggressively with faces like slapped arses.

You might wonder why it bothers me so much but I have several family members like is and eating out with them is a nightmare. We're talking the kind of people who will only eat plain meat and two veg type of stuff and won't touch anything "fancy" or spicey or seasoned with herbs or god forbid anything "foreign". So when you go anywhere with them your restricted to cheap and chearful pub chains or fast food places. When they go abroad they even seak out those hideous places that do full English breakfasts and egg and chips! I find it rude and childish.

I have zero tolerance for this kind of behaviour and am often made out go be the bad guy when I push to go somewhere decent for a meal. But they way I see it your not ill, you don't have an intolerance, your just being a twat. Just shut up and eat it!

AIBU?

You can't compare vegetarianism or veganism fussiness. In my experience most veggies relish eating in Indian or Chinese restaurants because they have much more choice than in an bog standard chain pub.

i dont eat fishfingers. i'm ok, i eat quite a bit, i'd rather go to a nice italian resuarant and eat Lasagne.

But i have a few twatty friends that seem to like this shitty places that serve everything with a side of chilli or black pepper or some other weird combination that make it taste like the arse end of a nandos cooking pot.

Tbh I eat anything except offal and some seafood im probably a walkover when eating out I tend to just go along with it I always find something except Nandos I frigging hate nandos it is rank @the dds

So why does the fussy aspect of your Mum annoy you more than the fact that she's lying?

I do get what you're saying. I know someone who likes very little and moans if there's nothing on the menu that she does like. She's vegetarian too so even more limited as meat is a no no. And she goes into a mood too. I honestly don't know why she bothers going out for a meal as we have this palaver every time we do. I'm not saying she shouldn't go out but it can't be pleasant for her and it's certainly a pain for us when she starts with sulks.

I don't like hot spicy food

Not really too concerned how much patience you have with my daughter if I'm honest.
However, if you want you can take her somewhere that doesn't have "safe" food and you can try and get her to eat until she throws up on the table because that's always fun.

But you don't have to have hot and spicy food. Most Indians do milder curries like Korma, at Nando's you don't have to have the piri piri and can choose how hot you want it. Chinese isn't really spicy anyway. Neither is Italian, unless you count garlic as spice.

And all of these place do English food any way.

I have a problem with people who cant be arsed to spell properly.

So do the people you know just refuse to go Into say chinese and order European then? Nandos lemon and herb taste like fairy liquid its just rank imo

I live with two slightly faddy eaters. It drives me to distraction and my patience level is absolute zero with them, they are 4 and 2 however, so I stick a lid on it, simmer quietly and hope against hope they will get better when they grow up.

Please tell me they will?

I never said I don't like Italian or Chinese food. Nandos is rank.

I detest coriander. Indian food just tastes of coriander to me.

My main gripe is that the compromise never seems to be in my favour. My friends with 'simple tastes' never seems to compromise by eating in a Korean/ japanese/ dim sum restaurant. It's always me compromising by eating in a sodding burger bar.

yeah I remember Gavin and Spicy as Fuck.

I wonder how that went? < ponders and taps chin>

It's only food for goodness sake...nothing to get your tits in a twist about.

Just stop eating out with people who annoy you.

YANBU
To me people who are narrow-minded about food are invariably boring, too.

I did that Worra job done.

Look forward to dining alone.

My sis is violently intolerant to peppers of any variety, - try avoiding all dishes with any trace of pepper at Nandos.
Good luck.

I think YABU to have no tolerance for any fussy eaters.

I've found some people are just slightly picky or fussy, I'm happy to compromise with them. It's the major fussy ones like my closest friend who would only eat what she considers english food- pub food. She's just migrated to trying pasta which she vehemently 'hated', she loved it.

She, however, is fussy because she is unwilling to try any foods that are different from what she's had. Her mum is the same though and she grew up like that so it's a struggle for her to actually try anything new because her parents instilled a 'don't try' anything attitude.

So I don't think yabu to be annoyed by really fussy eaters but I think a bit of compromise on all sides is good.

YANBU. I have seen loads of these threads and there's usually a fairly 50:50 split between people who find faddy eaters irritating and people who don't.
I have no idea why this thread is following a different pattern and you're being so aggressively flamed.

I ama fussy eater, but what annoys me is that I never make a fuss about it, I just eat what suits me. It is always other people who make an issue about it. I wish they'd just leave me alone with my plain food. I'm happy with it. We still visit a variety of restaurants, but I will go for something plain.

I have never had japanese food (I don't think markies sushi counts) is it nice?

Dh used to be like that. Ate like a toddler. Mil used to cook at least 3 different dishes when he was growing up as fil was also like it.

Things like didn't eat tomato, but loved bolognese sauce, wouldn't eat shepherds pie, but wolfs down a roast dinner or a burger, and likes mash.

After dd was born I sat him down and explained that he was a big boy now, and I didn't want our daughter growing up believing it was ok to live on just your favourite foods.

I also pointed out that my favourite foods are fillet steak and lobster, and if he insisted it was ok just to eat the food you like most he'd need to do a lot of overtime to cover the food shopping bill.

Funnily enough he's grown up massively.

I have no objection to people not eating things that genuinely make them gag, or ill, it's reluctance to try anything new or eating like a fucking toddler that boils my piss.

Yanbu op.

It's people that smother food in sauces and herbs that are fussy, surely.

I like plain unfussy food. Simple and healthy.