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Original poster

To think its perfectly fine for my sis to take our kids overnight. Alone.

134 replies

macnab · 06/02/2015 23:02

My sis is in her 30s. A responsible mature girl who is a primary school teacher and therefore commands a huge group of kids every day.

She is dating my DH brother and they pretty much live together at this stage (her house). She asked if kids could have a sleepover tonight as she'd not seen them for a while. They are 4 & 6 and adore her. All happy. Till DH realised just now that his brother isn't there tonight (he has to be somewhere early tomorrow so easier for him to stay home). DH is furious. Says that he's shocked that I habe no problem with our kids staying with a girl on her own overnight "without any male presence"

WTF Hmm

I should add (and have pointed out to him) that I've often stayed here alone with the kids and its never been an issue but he's apparently too shocked, and annoyed with me, to be inclined to discuss it.

He's being a twunt isn't he.

OP posts:
BOFster · 06/02/2015 23:04

I can't quite understand what he's objecting to. Did he elaborate?

MadameOvary · 06/02/2015 23:04

I think "pfffft" is the appropriate response here.

SandorClegane · 06/02/2015 23:05

For one thing if she's 30 she's not a girl.

fuctifino · 06/02/2015 23:05

Erm, how odd!
And yes, top twunt.

Caronaim · 06/02/2015 23:05

you are not being unreasonable, he is being utterly irrational.

HeartShapedBox · 06/02/2015 23:06

Hmm am I missing something here?

DeanKoontz · 06/02/2015 23:06

Is he like this over other things?

Heynowbill · 06/02/2015 23:07

He's clearly bonkers.

But why are you referring to a woman in her 30s as a "girl"?

EatShitDerek · 06/02/2015 23:07

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DeanKoontz · 06/02/2015 23:07

How old are you and dh?

ChippingInGluggingOn · 06/02/2015 23:08

Sandor. If someone wants to use the term girl, it's their business. Not yours.

macnab. WTAF? Does he usually come out with such weird shit?

DeanKoontz · 06/02/2015 23:08

I think you might have it there Derek

Ohfourfoxache · 06/02/2015 23:08

Sorry, I don't get it Confused

What's the problem?

Gileswithachainsaw · 06/02/2015 23:08

Did we miss a memo about women being incapable? Confused

he's nuts of course she can look after them

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 06/02/2015 23:08

She's 30. Hardly a girl.

And a teacher.

Quite used to taking responsibility for children even without the presence of a Mighty Penis.

He needs a reality check.

Revenant · 06/02/2015 23:09

What does he think will happen if there is no "male presence" in the house?

minesapintofwine · 06/02/2015 23:09

Yanbu op. Dh is. Has he explained his reasons? odd opinion but he is entitled and you are entitled to ignore

Original poster
macnab · 06/02/2015 23:09

Well I'm 40 and I call everyone younger or similar age to me a girl! Just a turn of phrase really.

No elaboration, no. Yes he is a bit "like this" about other things. Was worse when they were babies but they're really quite hardy now and loving their sleepover! The 4yr old has been in bed asleep since 8pm!!

At least I know I'm right. I can now carry on sipping my G&T with a rather smug look on my face. Thankyou Smile

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HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 06/02/2015 23:09

oh, and "too shocked and annoyed to discuss it"

is code for I'm a twat and I know I have no argument at all that's going to stand up so I'm going to go silent and claim I'm too cross to talk about it"

pfft.

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 06/02/2015 23:10

I actually thought it was him referring to her as a girl, tbh.

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 06/02/2015 23:11

and that's why you were using the word

MrsTawdry · 06/02/2015 23:11

You're not going to let him win are you OP?

NeedsAsockamnesty · 06/02/2015 23:12

Huh.

I'm a woman there are currently 8 children in my house the only male presence is a couple of the children.

Can you check with your DH if that's ok

mrsnoon · 06/02/2015 23:12

Another one scratching my head here?!?
And if it is some kind of reverse I'll say now that I'd have no problem with my kids staying with my trainee teacher brother on his own.

sosix · 06/02/2015 23:12

Is there more to it?