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AIBU?

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Girl's night out

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flatroofextensionite · 29/01/2015 20:35

I am a mum of two under four. GPs have had them over night once at sister's wedding so not 'overused' in terms of babysitting but are totally adept.

I am going on a girl's night out in two months time and I have figured best option is to ask GPs to have them over night as DH at work next day and - shock horror - I'd like to stay out past 10.30pm and have a few glasses of wine.

I don't think I'll be hungover or anything like that - but would like to have more than one and getting up at 6.30am wouldn't be good for me or the kids.

I've tried to broach with DH tonight and he's made me feel like an awful human being for even considering asking GPs. Any 'pass' should be used for a joint night away he says - that I should obv be the arranger of.

I feel awful now and have resigned myself to a 10.30pm home and one drink.

AIBU?

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Cric · 29/01/2015 20:44

What if you suggest he gets a lads night out at a later date?? I would defo do it!

Cric · 29/01/2015 20:45

P.S YANBU

jamtoast12 · 29/01/2015 20:45

Tbh whilst I totally understand what you're saying about wanting to be out late, I think I agree with your dh. There's no way I'd ask someone to sit if dh was at home. I know family members of mine would find that cheeky tbh. Can't you just change the night?

Suefla62 · 29/01/2015 20:46

I presume DH never goes out without you and stays out after 10:30. If he does, tell him where to go.

Fairenuff · 29/01/2015 20:47

Are they your parents or his OP?

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flatroofextensionite · 29/01/2015 20:48

I can't change night as it's taken so much too-ing and fro-ing over months as daft as that sounds. I'm not a 'booked up' person it's just we're all mums who work and it's the only date it was feasible.

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yellowdinosauragain · 29/01/2015 20:48

Why do you have to come home at 10.30 and only have one drink? Have a couple /few and stay out a bit late, it's only one night. Yes you might be a bit tired the next day but go to bed early and you'll be fine.

If they rarely babysit I can see your dh's point to be honest and I think you're being a bit of a martyr to be honest

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flatroofextensionite · 29/01/2015 20:49

Both sets are equally close and interchangeable so would ask both to see who it would suit more.

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Only1scoop · 29/01/2015 20:50

Why do you have to be in for 10.30.... You can still have a good night.

Why does it matter so much to him though.

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flatroofextensionite · 29/01/2015 20:50

I don't want to go to bed early! That's the point!

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Lottiedoubtie · 29/01/2015 20:50

I'd ask them if they'd be able to have the kids for the morning the next day, DH to drop them off on his way to work.

Assuming he is capable of doing the evening/overnight/morning routines without assistance.

Unless the GPs have said 'once a year max' for babysitting I don't really understand your DHs point tbh.

LadyLuck10 · 29/01/2015 20:51

Why can't your DH cope for one night. Even if you are back by 12 he can still get a good nights sleep.

Only1scoop · 29/01/2015 20:51

Then just say you are going to ask anyway....and enjoy your night out.

littleleftie · 29/01/2015 20:51

OP why can't you go out and not drink alcohol? That way you can stay out as late as you want and still feel fine the next morning. You may feel a bit tired but you won't be ill.

Surely most people would much rather their friend came out and didn't drink than didn't come out at all?

Fairenuff · 29/01/2015 20:52

In that case, OP, just ask them to babysit and go out. It's nothing to do with your dp. He doesn't get to say whether or not you can go out. He just doesn't want you to go.

yellowdinosauragain · 29/01/2015 20:53

I meant go to bed early the night after. Come on no one died of exhaustion because of being a bit tired and hungover for one day. Even with kids to look after

But yes as someone suggested asking them to have the kids for a couple of hours the next morning could be a good compromise

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 29/01/2015 20:54

OP just go out. Have a great (late) night, and enjoy yourself! Just resign you and the kids to a slouchy day the next day and have an early night then to make up for having been up at 6.30 (though Id just make DH wake me as he was leaving).

gobbynorthernbird · 29/01/2015 20:54

Ask them. They'll probably love to have the GC. Have a great night.

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flatroofextensionite · 29/01/2015 20:54

I always go out and have one before getting taxi home to be on bed by 11pm on the odd occasion I have kids myself following day. I want one bloody night of just not doing that.

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lem73 · 29/01/2015 20:55

I wouldn't ask someone else to babysit if dh was at home. I think he's right to want to save it for a joint night out. I don't know why you feel you have to have one drink all come home early. Go out and enjoy yourself. In the morning stick cbeebies on and lie on the sofa. That's what I did.

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flatroofextensionite · 29/01/2015 20:58

To be fair I hadn't thought about DH in on own on the actual night - more about the morning. Maybe I could ask GPs for early pick up. Good idea!

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Summerisle1 · 29/01/2015 20:59

Still don't really see why this is a problem if your DH is at home. Even if he has to go to work the following morning he can surely cope while you are out enjoying yourself, can't he?

ireallydontlikemonday · 29/01/2015 21:01

Why do you have to be In bed by 11v

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flatroofextensionite · 29/01/2015 21:05

Just because my 'baby' is still up in the night once and my three year old sleeps in our bed. Anything past 11pm and I just struggle to get through the night and up at 6.30am when they rise (on a good day)

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VanitasVanitatum · 29/01/2015 21:10

Why don't you just come home late and deal with kids with a hangover? Not ideal but possible!

I think he's being a bit unreasonable but I guess if the nights your parents will do are so limited he has a point.

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