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AIBU?

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to expect nursery to change my 14mo before I pick her up

235 replies

CrazyRainbowLady · 28/01/2015 19:13

She's in cloth nappies. They have a rule that they change nappies every 3 hours, her changes are usually at 10.30 and 1.30 according to the communications book.
She gets picked up at 4 and I usually run errands or pick up my older dcs from after school clubs etc.
I've asked them several times to please change her before I pick her up as we keep getting leaks from her nappies after pick up, but it rarely happens.
AIBU?

OP posts:
FreeWee · 28/01/2015 21:30

Knitted thank you. It wasn't even on my extensive list of questions I asked because I assumed they would be changed as and when needed. I appreciate my DD is a little tinker pooing as soon as she has a clean nappy but those practices you list would appall me.

martymcfry · 28/01/2015 21:32

Is the 10.30 first change they do based on you saying she's changed at 7.30am? Could you not ask her changes to be 9.30, 12.30,3.30 if you say your first change is 6.30 for example?

jimmycrackcornbutidontcare · 28/01/2015 21:35

I'm a little surprised that nurseries don't change nappies when they need changed - when they start getting big.

Bettybodybooboo · 28/01/2015 21:36

I change my babies/toddlers when they need changing and would certainly change baby if I knew mum wanted me to.

I am a cm though so it's a bit different.

This changing by the clock sounds very regenerated to me and lacking warmth.

Bettybodybooboo · 28/01/2015 21:37

Regimented!

chillybillybob · 28/01/2015 21:41

The nursery I work in we do nappies every 4 hours. Obviously if they poo we change straight away and next change is in 4 hours time. We would do a nappy sooner if parents requested. But if you pick up at 4 our babies would be having tea. So we would be unable to change then. Maybe there is a reason they can't at that time! You could always do it yourself?

Tinks42 · 28/01/2015 21:49

when they start getting "big"? they get big after more than two hours Grin

Op are you paying lots for this child care?

I would be horrified to be met with this attitude if I was paying £££ for childcare.

Ask how much the workers get in your nursery, ask what the ratio is and I bet you would be gobsmacked!

Im not so much "horrified" as I am speaking to ridiculously "precious" parents.

Had a mother the other day saying that she was worried about her child getting any kind of bug. Her husband gets a cold and its a nightmare... it turns into flu because he has a very low immune system. How would we protect her child from picking things up as there are some horrific things out there. She wanted me to tell her that of course this wouldnt happen. Ummm.

KnittedJimmyChoos · 28/01/2015 21:50

  • but those practices you list would appall me

Well I am thankful to the poster(s) who admitted this sort of thing goes on. As a parent using a nursery I would want to know all of this so I can be aware and on guard for it. Unfortunately on those threads these sorts of whistle blowers get viciously attached and shouted down Sad which is bizarre, surely any parent would want to know what actually goes on behind the scenes or what can go on...to simply be aware of it...

KnittedJimmyChoos · 28/01/2015 21:53

Ask how much the workers get in your nursery, ask what the ratio is and I bet you would be gobsmacked!

Not sure what you mean, do you mean what the nursery profit is compared to workers wages?

If that's what you mean then I know its notoriously low and this is one of the massive fundamental problems of nurseries.

However, its a job caring for our most vulnerable in society and staff should be reminded of this.

I do not use a nursery.

Tinks42 · 28/01/2015 21:55

what "practices"? we are fantastic with the kids, the parents are a different matter. They are grown ups! but you wouldnt think so.

meglet · 28/01/2015 21:58

freewee the dc's nursery changed nappies as soon as it was pooed in. They did all nappies every 2-3 hours on top of that. IIRC it was something like after breakfast, midmorning, after lunch, mid-afternoon and again at the end of the day.

Tinks42 · 28/01/2015 21:59

Believe me, where I work the children are very much adored and catered for. Id rather attend to a distressed child and instruct my staff so, than pander to a parent who "expects" her childs nappy to be changed every hour!

gooeycookie · 28/01/2015 22:02

At the nursery I worked in, your dad's age group were changed every 3 hours, and we endeavoured to change children just before pick-up/nursery close.
We also had an open-door policy, so if parents wanted to come into the various rooms they could, we often had mothers pop in to bf.
i don't think it's a stretch for staff to change her tbh, based on my experience of working in that environment.

Mrscog · 28/01/2015 22:04

Our nursery change immediately if a nappy is pooed in, but the the rest of the time every 4hours, which I thi is more than often enough if you're using quality disposables and your child isn't sore/a heavy wetter. They certainly get through more nappies than I do in a week if I have DS.

meglet · 28/01/2015 22:07

gooey yes, open door policy at the dc's old nursery. The staff would offer to change a nappy if there was a pick up poo but sometimes I did it. I loved those heavy duty change tables with everything in reach.

Tinks42 · 28/01/2015 22:08

There are no "open" door policies these days (in London anyway). We are governed by a million rules for safety reasons. Our nursery is however on line, (we have cameras in rooms so the parents can see what goes on whenever they wish). We do not do the change before leave thing. Maybe when looking at a nursery, if this is your requirement, then check out their policy before enrolling.

GColdtimer · 28/01/2015 22:10

I don't think YABU. Our nursery would have done this if requested, no problem at all. And much easier for them to do it than you trying to do it in the boot of a car in the freezing cold or pouring rain.

GingerCuddleMonster · 28/01/2015 22:12

yanbu it's a simple request, one simple nappy change 30mins before they'd be doing one anyway.

This thread has made me love my nursery more, they are wonderful and the workers their are polite, friendly and professional. They don't view anything as a "fuss" just my wishes as mum. They've helped transition in new formula, given medication, changed nappies frequently every hour some days if DS had a rash. They are a pleasure to deal with and make me really cute art work using 6mo ds hands and feet. I'm so glad I found a good nursery.

KnittedJimmyChoos · 28/01/2015 22:12

Id rather attend to a distressed child and instruct my staff so, than pander to a parent who "expects" her childs nappy to be changed every hour!

you really hate these fussy parents dont you!

Maybe when looking at a nursery, if this is your requirement, then check out their policy before enrolling

maybe also check the nusery you will be paying vast amounts for to look after your flesh and blood dont hold you in such utter contempt. ^ Shock

Tinks42 · 28/01/2015 22:15

I am but telling the truth here as always rather than telling you what you wish to hear Grin

Yes, I do dislike unreasonable parents. I however adore children.

gooeycookie · 28/01/2015 22:15

*dds not dads! And I previewed! BlushGrin bloody phone....

meglet I loved the changing tables... You don't get them in nanny jobs!

meglet · 28/01/2015 22:16

tinks do parents have to stay in the cloak room and have children handed over? nursery had security doors and parents had to be buzzed in but once parents were in they could enter the rooms and stay and play for a while.

when I said open door I didn't mean any tom dick or harry could wander in.

Tinks42 · 28/01/2015 22:19

Well they dont have to stand in the cloakroom. They stand in the outer area. We find if a parent is permitted access they are totally focused on their child and then tend to leave the door open behind them.

Tinks42 · 28/01/2015 22:25

No we dont have the "stay and play" thing going on either due to finding that parents tend to "sneak off" and not explain to their child they are going, hence the child being unsettled and looking constantly for the parent. We promote the "goodbye" and pick up later policy.

GColdtimer · 28/01/2015 22:26

My god tinks, you have so much contempt for your parents. I can imagine some are a pain in the arse but the way you talk is if they are all totally unreasonable.

I was so lucky with my lovely nursery.