to expect nursery to change my 14mo before I pick her up

[CrazyRainbowLady]

She's in cloth nappies. They have a rule that they change nappies every 3 hours, her changes are usually at 10.30 and 1.30 according to the communications book.
She gets picked up at 4 and I usually run errands or pick up my older dcs from after school clubs etc.
I've asked them several times to please change her before I pick her up as we keep getting leaks from her nappies after pick up, but it rarely happens.
AIBU?

Tinks you're not the only one who has worked in a nursery therefore knows what goes on behind the scenes.

Several posters (myself included) have spoken as qualified practitioners and funnily enough none have agreed with the poor practice you describe as having gone on in your work place.

Having looked into both nursery and child minders options for my own children I decided that nursery suited them better, that was my choice as you decided a minder was better for yours. Neither option is "bad" if procedures are being followed and children are being cared for properly.

In an ideal world none of us would need childcare but unfortunately it doesn't work that way so we choose which works for us.

Rather than emplying that those who use nurseries are bad parents you should try speaking out for the children in the establishments you work in that are seemingly neglectful.

I haven't RTFT, fully admit it, but couldn't get past the incorrect (yet bizarrely sometimes correct) use of quote marks by Tinks42... was driving me bonkers.

Tinks42 for future reference " is a quote mark. When you put them on either side of a word you are quoting someone OR implying the opposite of the word. For example, your posts here:

Yes, you are paying for childcare but you "arent" paying for one on one care here. why is "aren't" in quotes? For my post it's because you used the word so I'm quoting you, for yours... I think you're trying to emphasis the word, it's wrong.

First the OP "expects" things. Now she's implying that nursery workers are "thick". "Expect" makes sense, she did write that, but she didn't actually say thick so putting it in quotes is a lie to make it look like the OP said they were thick, she didn't.

Plus many many more. Yes I know it's not the point of the thread but damn!

I see now she's left the thread, good. Makes me glad I don't have kids, and that if I did, said kids wouldn't go to a nursery in London that's too busy to change a kids nappy and has staff who clearly despise parents :S

I have worked in a bad nursery. I reported it to ofsted btw.

Most are excellent but yes it is a business. But on the flip side of that coin, you're the paying customer. It's not unreasonable to expect a child to be clean enough for the journey home without leaking so it should be done. No questions. No brainer.

I'm another one who's very alarmed that Tinks42 is working with children with that appalling attitude.

She probably isn't really working with children. She has such an axe to grind that I find her (?) hard to believe. People can pretend to be anything here, doesn't mean its true.

m0therofdragons parents don't actually get to go inside, they stay behind a locked door in the cloak room, which has big open double doors to the outside. Cloak room as no chairs, so I would need to change her on the floor in a room the temperature of outside, while other parents are traipsing past us/stepping over us. It's not ideal.

Yesterday she was handed back damp so I asked if I could come in to change her, and they took her and changed her for me :) [I really think they don't like parents in there...]

Crazy, do you think it might be worth taking a look round some other settings?

Tbh I wouldn't use a nursery that didn't let me through the door!

My children's nursery were happy to accommodate using cloth nappies which need to be changed more frequently than disposables. They do have "blitz" times when they do every child's but of course also are responsive to out of sync bowel actions. I have at least 30 mins drive after getting to the parked car followed by quickfire dinner when we get home. I need the nappy changing within the last hour of nursery to avoid leaks or risk of soreness so I'll check what time it was done and if not, do it myself. They allow use of their facilities but it does delay us leaving. I think partly out of personal pride in their care they do try and do it last thing. It's only one extra nappy a day than the other children would standardly have. That said, I know other nurseries that don't manage cloth and friends have had to switch. In the longer term, my Dd was out of nappies by 2 years 2 months whereas my DS (I lapsed on using cloth after a run of disposable use it seemed like too much bloody hard work!) is not remotely interested in toilet training at 2 1/2. It may just be chance but I think feeling the wet gets them out of nappies, this in the long run due to less overall nappy time makes the additional change while in them worthwhile. This also applied to nursery staff assuming some continuity. I'd hope the nursery I choose for my kids is a good enough employer to encourage optimum staffing levels and skills. Odd days of problems staffing is fair enough but I wouldn't be happy if this was the norm.
I don't think it's unreasonable of the nursery staff not to realise your after nursery plans and so not be considering that when planning care.
YANBU unreasonable to ask for it nor to get it most of the time but it likely needs some repeated direction from you.

Whoa. Any nursery that keeps you out is to be avoided. A good nursery allows parents in at any time. They have nothing to hide.