to expect nursery to change my 14mo before I pick her up

[CrazyRainbowLady]

She's in cloth nappies. They have a rule that they change nappies every 3 hours, her changes are usually at 10.30 and 1.30 according to the communications book.
She gets picked up at 4 and I usually run errands or pick up my older dcs from after school clubs etc.
I've asked them several times to please change her before I pick her up as we keep getting leaks from her nappies after pick up, but it rarely happens.
AIBU?

Sounds like you're getting compression leaks in the car seat. Try boosting with hemp.

And bleurgh do people really leave disposable nappies on for 12 hours on an awake child? That's vile!

No it shouldnt, how entitled is that!

Im sure that if the poster didn't "expect" this all the time then it would gladly be done for her.

People that "expect" this arent gladly catered for in this world. There's a way to ask and a way not to.

I would ask them to change her one more time and explain the leaks.

I would use a more absorbent disposable for the 1.30 change.

I would shift her change schedule to 11.30, 2.30 then you should be ok.

Practice the last one at home to see if she leaks then.

First the OP "expects" things.
Now she's implying that nursery workers are "thick".

No wonder the staff work to "rule" with you OP.

deladion no of course not, but the point is they do last that long at night (in fact the record is 16 hours - DS's longest sleep ever). I personally think the nursery should try and accomodate, but this whole issue would be gone if the OP supplied 5 disposables per week for the nursery to use at the last change.

She is paying for a service and what she expects is perfectly reasonable. I have expectations of the people who care for my children in school.

Handing a child over in a wet nappy that will need changing before they get home is not reasonable. I would expect anyone working in a room where I was in charge to do this without question.

In my room we do whatever humanly possible. We do not do "expect" due to being extremely busy.

I've got reusables that last that long too. Babies pee less at night which is why I differentiated. Tbh my sposie using friends change about the same as I do, ie when obviously wet/dirty or every few hours.

Op I haven't tried v4s but when you stuff can you fold the booster in half and stick it in the middle? That way you target the absorbency better

Tinks, if you couldn't expect a child to be changed after 2.5 hours in a nappy and before a long journey home because you are too busy, I think you need to review your staffing levels.

2.5 hours in a nappy is a perfectly reasonable amount of time before the child leaves us.

Having a quiet word with staff due to using a different type of nappy is acceptable. So is changing the child herself before leaving.

Not sure nurseries are supposed to log time of journey home? If anything I'd say most people use nurseries close by.

The fact that the OP wants to go and do this that and the other before going home is totally up to her.

Yes we are very busy and each day is never the same when caring for children.

We cannot guarantee a special "want" from a parent.

We can try to accommodate if and when we are able but apart from that we don't deal with "expecting".

YANBU.

Our old nursery used to time DS's last nappy change for about 15 minutes before I arrived. The odd times I got the early train home from work and arrived an hour early they would insist on changing his nappy before we left.

We've use reusable and disposable with them (on different children) and their attitude has been the same.

But then they were a fantastic nursery.

I'm baffled by some of the responses. Dd's nursery always changed them when needed, no strict routine, and would always make sure she was changed and clean ready for pick up. Those saying stop expecting others to do your job, surely that's what you're paying nursery to do?

You are paying for childcare. You are the customer. Exactly. You are the customer and the people you pay should listen to you and do what you need.
The main thing is that you are paying them to look after your child and if you want a nappy changed before pick up then the customer should rule.

Gosh, tinks, you are a ray of sunshine, aren't you. I never said they were "thick". When my child come home with a nappy on back to front several times, I think it's fine to call those nappies "confusing". And the problem with 2 part nappies was that they weren't always making sure the wrap was covering all of the nappy, so we got a lot of leaks. The nappies I provide now are all in ones. Excuse me for trying to make life easier for the staff as well as reducing l the amount of wet clothes.
And of course I wouldn't bloody use the word "expected", ffs. I do have some manners.

deladion the boosters from the v4 are quite thick and would make it really bulky if I folded it, but I will try adding a folded LL booster and see if that helps, thank you.

We are max capacity (very busy) in the heart of London and cannot take that amount of hours out of our schedule to make sure a child is in a totally dry nappy before leaving.

Therefore we cannot deal with "expectations"

Don't think you're being unreasonable at all actually.

If my daughter was left 3hrs between changes she would be leaking several times a day. It seems like a stingy amount of bum changes to me when you take into consideration how much nurseries charge.

Yep fine, they look after your children, it's a busy time at pick up, but you are paying them to look after your child and a clean dry bum is a very basic need.

Ask if she can be changed at 3:30 instead or an hour before you collect her. Explain your difficulties if you have to, surely they can't refuse you.

To be totally honest, give me the kids any day rather than the precious demanding parents.

Nurseries have set times for changing nappies My DD has a CM and a frequent habit of only pooing in a clean nappy and her favourite time is being put down for a nap. 10.30 might be OK but she tends to do a poo between 8-9 (drop her off at 8) so that would mean her being in a pooy nappy for up to 2.5 hours. And her nap time is 12.15 so usually a poo about 12.30. Without changing her nappy she'd never go down for a nap and it would mean being in a pooy nappy for an hour.

I do appreciate they have lots of children to change the nappies of but leaving a pooy nappy next to a child's skin for that length of time would do her serious damage (we already use Bepanthen every change, wee or poo because of sensitive skin).

I may be going against the tide but my CM changes DDs nappy 15 mins before pickup time so she goes home in a clean nappy. So OP YANBU in my eyes but then I'm genuinely at nurseries changing nappies on a rota not as as when needed.

I don't need a totally dry nappy, just one that won't leak as soon as I put her in the car.

tinks yours posts are really scary.

Really scary.

Calling parents precious because they want a basic clean nappy.

That's shocking.

I have read some disturbing things from nursery workers on here in the past and what goes on behind the scenes but your posts really make me worry.

You really do not seem to like the parents and sound bitter and yet their dc are in your care everyday. They trust you.

Nurseries have set times for changing nappies

on here a nursery worker said some chains, do less changes than needed due to cost cutting and even use paper towl on them to save ££.

what does as and when is needed mean?

of course if a child does a poo then its changed immediately.

if it hasn't done a poo then 2.5 hours is totally acceptable to be in a nappy, if however you feel your child needs to be changed every hour on the hour then I suggest you go with a nanny until your child is out of them.

during the day that is what we do or we would constantly be in the changing bay (we have other things to do).

2.5 hours before handing back to a "parent" is totally acceptable. To expect your child to be in a totally dry nappy for "YOU" is not acceptable.

*Unless of course you've had a bit of a face on you/moan when picking her up. Then they may say due to ofsted/strict guidelines you aren't allowed in the facility

Op are you paying lots for this child care?

I would be horrified to be met with this attitude if I was paying £££ for childcare.

Disgusting.