MILs wedding day

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My MIL is getting remarried on a weekday afternoon. She has invited myself, DH, and our 2 DCs. I said my DH and I would attend but my DCs would be unlikely to get an authorised absence for this and so would just have to attend in the evening.

I had no idea whether or not the school would have authorised this or not, but I don't like the idea or taking them out willy-nilly and was hoping to keep attendance rates high in case we ever needed to take them out for some other unauthorised reason.

She's just phoned to say it's all fine, she's spoken to the school and they've authorised it. AIBU to be a bit about this?

And actually I think that most registry office weddings I have ever been to have been on weekdays..........

I think you're both being very U! For the sake of a day's school, refusing to let them attend their Grandmother's wedding is highly unreasonable. What exactly are you 'saving' the absence for that would trump that. You're effectively not placing much importance on her wedding and she's probably very hurt. I'd definitely have taken mine out of school, authorised or not.

But she is well out of line to contact the school!

I'm just shaking my head here. Who in the hell wouldn't even try to arrange to take their children to their grandmother's wedding? I wouldn't have dreamt of treating any of my inlaws like that. It's just nasty and mean. I really can't believe some people.

Carla, DH & I got married on a Friday. The date was significant for us. We understood completely when some of our guests were unable to make it except when a relative of DH who told us, several times, she was coming and then just didn't turn up because her boyfriend of two weeks wasn't invited.

Yes, I know, I think you misinterpreted my post - I was saying that it's perfectly normal to get married on a Friday and that many people posting on here probably did it too. I've been to lots and never begrudged the day off work.

When my Grandma turned 80, many moons ago, I was taken out of school on a Friday (lunchtime) to travel to where she lived (long way) for a big party. It was really exciting - and very special. No harm done.