About friends judgeyness at other friend "leaving baby"

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There's a group of us organizing a weekend trip away for some time, most of us have children and can't wait to escape for a weekend of debauchery
One of the group (all female) has a new baby who will be two and a half months when we go and I just can't believe the attitudes the others seem to have about her leaving the baby with her very capable partner for the weekend!

She's coping brilliantly, better than I did! And two of the girls raising their eyebrows about it the most, partners went to Ibiza for a week when their babies were about same same age so I really can't comprehend their judgeyness!

How anyone can judge is beyond me. It's also quite insulting to her partner...like he isn't capable of looking after the baby.

Never fear, karma will bite them on the arse eventually. Maybe when their marriages break down because they've had babies glued to them non stop for years and their lives revolve around baby talk only.

I wouldnt leave my child either if my husband was neglecting our childs basic needs.

That is absolutely shocking disappointed in your circumstances I absolutely wouldn't be able to leave DD for even a few hours. My goodness!

I trust DH implicitly to look after DS, he is as much a parent as I and women don't automatically know more about babies than men do.

I'd still not leave DS to to off on a jolly though. Going away for work is one thing as its part of being a parent providing financial support but a holiday should be for family.

Some see it differently though, I know people who regularly hoist their children onto grandparents for nights out and holidays away as they expect their life to carry on as it was pre children.

He's a bit dippy I suppose. Brought up in a house where boys are worshipped and mum does everything. Even now he will ask me to get DD's clothes for the day out and she's 4!

I think I was gone for 6 hours and they were outside having so much fun he completely forgot about food. She practically fell on her dinner she was so hungry. Gave him a real shock so it's never happened again. Mind you, he will forget to get her to brush teeth if not reminded, and we do that twice a day!

Well, no, I wouldn't leave my child with an incompetent adult either. But fortunately the OP is talking about a competent one.

I left both my children and their father for 16 days last year. It was bloody brilliant. I did miss them some of the time but my god it was marvellous.

If it was a situation at 10 weeks that 'couldn't be helped' and the baby was fine, them the same rule applies to the baby's well being if it is voluntary.

Yip I would judge

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Good for you, Mother.

As I say up thread, DH and I are leaving the kids for a night tomorrow, for the first time (together) since DC1 was born, 6 years ago.

It is sooo overdue (MIL is staying from the other side of the world), and we can't wait even of it is only camping !!

I hope you have a ball Margaret, I love camping!

Thank you!!