To judge this?

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A friend has just told me that last weekend her Dm took her then 12 day old baby to the coast for the weekend in a touring caravan without her. I know it is non of my business really but I am just a bit shocked that anyone would want there new baby away from them in a cold damp caravan in January, it must have been freezing .

I also accept that I may be a camping lightweight and not as hardy as some folk. Or have an inferior caravan maybe.

My parents took my brother on a two week sailing holiday in the UK at not much older. Damper, probably colder and a lot more dangerous.

He survived though.

I still think it's an unusual thing to do and that most parents would struggle with the separation. Of course it's sometimes unavoidable in extreme circumstances such as ill health or pnd, but I've honestly never known anyone who would do it.

For what it's worth I wasn't precious with my babies. We attended social events very soon after both of ours were born and I happily handed them over for entire evenings to be cuddled and fussed over. It was bliss to have others take over for a while.

Yes, I don't think I'd have done it either, or know anyone else who would have at that age. Not that I think it's inherently TERRIBLE AND DANGEROUS, I'm just raising an eyebrow a bit.

(also not precious with my babies, or a martyr mother, and I did have quite severe PND first time round)

Agree with both fireside and leedy. I don't know anyone who has done it and I wouldn't do it myself.

I do think it's very unusual and I wouldn't do it myself - I would have been very distressed at having to be parted from DD that long at such a young age. She's 9 months now and only just getting to the point where I can go out for an evening, I still wouldn't be able to leave her for a whole weekend.

I don't think it's harmful to the child though, ime with dd she didn't favour me to anyone else till about 3 months. It sounds like she's being well cared for.

My parents spent the first 3 years of their married life in a caravan, only moving into 'rooms' when they had their second child.

We have a travelling family living about 300 yds from our house. Their DC is at school with DD. My DH went to check on them when there had been a gale blowing o/night and said how cosy the van was on his rtn.

Some people have bad opinions of caravans don't they?

(FWIW if my friend had told me about this, my first reaction would have been "Oh, did you manage to get a good nights sleep? I bet your mum spoiled him/her rotten" with a big cheesy grin, and the hope that my friend was feeling OK)

People have babies all over the world in all sorts of climates.

You just dress appropriately which I'm. Sure would have been done according to conditions.

I just love "neither Greer nor there!"
We have a caravan, the heating is very good, we are never cold and nor are the DC. We have been away when it has been freezing too.

this thread is funny.

my MILs caravan was better kitted out then some houses. she even had a satellite she could hook up for the TV.

I have seen photos of the caravan on Facebook when she bought it, definitely not double glazed or equipped with central heating!

You could see on the photos that it had no heating? Really?

You are still being unreasonable and judgy

OP, your friend let her mum have her baby for the weekend, quite probably because everything is too much for her. And instead of you offering to help or seeing if she is seeking out appropriate support, you come on here to rip her to shreds.

Then, when things stop going your way on the thread, you start trying to stick the knife in and try to get support back onto your side by making stuff up about the state of the caravan.

Not a good look.