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babynamechange · 11/01/2015 23:25

There's a huge backstory to this...but basically I'm asking the question so Im sure I'm not overreacting before I do anything...
To cut a very long story short I have had concerns about my DS having contact with his father due inappropriate touching and emotional abuse etc. DS is currently being seen by a SW about this. It has been a huge struggle to actually get someone to listen, but someone is now seeing him, although i don't know when he will be spoken to again.

DS has just come in to tell me he wants to tell me something but doesn't want to say it. Anyway he said his dad has been taking photos of him while he's on the toilet (he doesn't normally take photos generally). DS said he really didn't like this. I know he would have been really upset as he doesn't like anyone even in the vicinity when he's doing a poo. He's six.

I know or rather I think I must be asking the blatantly obvious, but is this in any world ok :( x

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Aeroflotgirl · 02/03/2015 16:09

I think as this suspended contact continues, it is going to be much harder for ex to get ds back. Also Ex does not appear to love ds, he is a game to him, and using him to get at baby. Whilst contact is suspended, the game is not being played his way, hopefully he will get bored and tire.

CurbsideProphet · 02/03/2015 16:38

I hope you get hold of your SW this week baby

Babynamechange · 02/03/2015 20:51

Sorry, I somehow missed these messages! Flowers
As far as I know nothing will change while she's off sick. The next scheduled contact is this weekend but as far as I know contact is suspended until she says otherwise?
I didn't try and chase her up today as I figured she would be catching up on everything, but will ring tomorrow and she'll hopefully be able to see DS this week.
I want her to see DS so I know we definitely still have backing before I apply to court to vary the order. That solicitor who helps me thinks I should apply for supervised contact anyway, which is good to hear as he's obviously got experience with this... But I'd still far rather know I've got solid SS backing..

Thanks, yes it's really good to have the ombudsman stuff out the way xx

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Aeroflotgirl · 02/03/2015 21:38

Looks so positive, and with that G out of the way, things are looking good. I think she was a massive thorn more like a whole thorn bush in your side. Yes you have sS on your side, it should be much more positive in court.

educatingarti · 11/03/2015 10:02

any updates Baby?

Aeroflotgirl · 15/03/2015 08:18

Baby thread is in 'the other place' to protect her privacy.

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