To truly hate being pregnant?!

[TheHermitCrab]

Arrrgh. Needed a rant.

38 weeks pregnant. I have hated every moment of it! but had very little reason to lol.

Never had morning sickness (Well I was queasy but nothing worth whinging about)

But the aching, pulling every muscle, general 9 months of feeling like shit. discharge (tmi!), stretch marks from my chin to my toes, waiting around for midwifes, hearing the same shit from people asking about my baby and bump..etc (I'm not a people person, can you tell)

Now I'm 38 weeks, and 4ft 11, I'm pretty much a walking bump. Getting out of bed is like a turtle stuck on its back. All arms and legs. My knees hurt, my legs hurt, my back hurts.

Strangers ask me how long I have. And people keep telling me how much I will miss my bump (no!) and the sleep (what sleep?! the 3 hours of pain I get on my side?) and how much they all loved being pregnant, I don't even like the movements, I feel invaded, haha.

They are lying to me yes? I didn't even glow. In fact I'm covered in blue veins, I look like death.

(Comments about how I should be lucky I'm pregnant at all need not be posted, I'm not looking for sympathy...etc)

I just can't wait for this little beggar to be out and then the "fun" can get started! ;)

I never really expected to love being pregnant but I have been quite surprised by how little I am enjoying it.

It will all be worth it I know but I won't be rushing to do it again.

I'm lucky so far - this is an easy pregnancy. I know I should be enjoying it, I'll never do it again, but I'm not. I hate it. I have miscarried in the past so I think I'm allowed decide how I feel about it myself.

I just want it over with. I want my body back for me. I really just want only me living in this skin, not me plus another person who is apparently far more important than me. I want to only affect my own health. I want to exert myself. I hate maternity jeans, flat shoes, having to answer to midwives.

I apologise to no one for that.

YANBU.

And I got prescribed omeprazole for my heartburn during pregnancy. Worked a treat! No more going to bed sitting up or it making me sick, try it :)

I'm ttc, desperate for a baby, it doesn't upset me to see people not liking pregnancy though- makes me wistful to be pregnant but so do POAS, shall I have baby 3/4 etc., any baby-related post really so I read them to desensitise myself.

I can really sympathise for people not liking pregnancy though since non of my friends have had good pregnancies or liked it. The stretch marks freaked me out but it was the massive piles and anal fissure that one had that was the worst!

She showed you her piles and anal fissure??

Lol, no not that bad. I held her hand while the doctor examined her. Seeing isn't always believing, thank god!

I hate it too! Currently 22 weeks pregnant with #2 after 3 mcs and I've never felt so shitty. I had constant sickness until 20 weeks, that went and was replaced immediately with heartburn. I'm the size of a house and just feel like my body has been invaded. I'm anxious constantly, I just want it to be May already and have my baby here safe and well. Never again!

She showed you her piles and anal fissure??

Haha what a friend that would be!

I showed my friend my stretch marks because she was like oooh it can't be that bad! Soon changed her tune when she saw I looked like a red and white Zebra!

Yanbu! Yanbu! YANBU!!!

I HATE being pregnant with a passion. The only good thing about it is labour and then it's over. I honestly don't know how it's possible to be that uncomfortable for that long and not die.

I would love a third child (love giving birth, love having a newborn, love life with babies and toddlers) but I cannot put myself or DP or our existing children through another pregnancy.

And YY to it being worse for short people.

YANBU

My third dc is 8 months and the pregnancyand birth almost did me in. Currently having physio because separated abdominal muscles have buggered my lower back. I desperately wanted a third and that was what kept me going. I had terrible sickness as well.

I'm short and all three of my babies were big. It's left its toll. It was worth it, they are fabulous! But I'm mighty relieved I won't be doing it again.

YANBU. I'm 38 weeks with dc2, and have been wheezing around the place like an asthmatic ant carrying particularly heavy shopping for some 20 weeks now. I am sleeping in the spare bed as our marital bed gives me tremendous (in a bad way) hip pain. I also snore like a bitch, or make stupid warbling noises whilst I sleep. I have a new bum grape, that's the size of, well, an adult grape. I have spent the equivalent of the GDP of a third world country on hospital car parking for repeated antenatal clinic visits. My sofa has a groove in it the shape of my arse (large) where I have planted myself the last 8.5months. My dd tells me in a bit smelly and has given up on me doing anything that requires movement and/or effort.

The one thing I'm really missing - a bloody good, dirty, treat-me-like-a-whore shag... Which is funny because I know I won't want one once baby's out... Poor dh.

I had stitches last time and the first pooh was worse than labour itself. I cried. The shower head cried after almost being inserted to get the bastard out. I had more sitz baths than I ever thought possible for a perineal infection. My dd cried constantly for 4 months.

BUT

My hair was amazing through both pregnancies and both times I have lost weight, so swings and roundabouts for me...

YANBU! Finally, I can vent! I know I've had really quite an easy pregnancy. Being sick a couple of times a day at least for the first couple of months was annoying and the last over the couple of months I've developed awful indigestion but apart from that I've continued walking, not been tired, sleep well, have gained no weight, my skin looks good...

But I sweat loads during the night and it doesn't smell like my own sweat, I hate that now at 38 weeks I've had to slow down, I can't wear nice shoes, I'm sick of wearing the same clothes, I miss wine, I miss being able to sleep on my front, I hate the feeling of the baby hiccuping, my DH is freaked out by the idea of having sex, I hate that I've had to spend money on nursing bras, my breasts have started leaking, my toenails are long and I can't reach them and even though I can no longer see my foof I know it is swollen.

I know I'm lucky and I really am grateful but I'm ready for my body to not have another human living in it. Also, now I get angry and cry whenever someone asks if there's "been any signs yet". No, there haven't, fuck off!

Yes my hair was amazing, forgot that!

And people are nice to you.

The exhaustion was crippling though. I've never felt that tired with babies/when I'll etc.

I was lucky that during my third pregnancy my eldest was at school and my middle one at pre-school every pm. I would draw my curtains, set my alarm and crash out every afternoon. I felt like death when I woke and had to waddle to the school.

The only upside to pregnancy being so shit is that when the baby arrives it is SO AWESOME not to be pregnant. Even when you are crazed with sleep deprivation.

At one point about 2 weeks in I was recovering from a CS, still had terrible back pain from pregnancy fucking my body, & was on heavy duty drugs breasts massively engorged, DS cluster fed for 48 hours straight (and screamed at clawed at me if I took him off the breast!) so I never got more than 45 minutes' sleep ... and it was still better than being pregnant.

Yes I remember that particularly with dc2, the feeling that even newborn difficulties were nothing compared to dealing with late pregnancy and a toddler.

Nervypreg

Oh good lord!!! Well at least you had nice hair I guess? I developed dandruff in my pregnancy for the first time ever haha. I don't think your pain should have made me laugh as much as it did but you have a wonderful way with words! :)

jobrumI wish that my OH was creeped out by sex. He was being extra nice tonight and did the washing up, which only meant one thing, So I said not a chance sir!! I mean seriously? I can't drag myself onto the loo, I'm holding my stomach up while walking around the house. The only exercise I am interested in right now is getting onto that ward and pushing the bugger out! lol :)

Oh the nursing bras, I've bought two, and that put a dent in the bank, 2 really ugly sports bra things that will just have to be washed every other day! I've gone through more breast pads than I care to think of, been leaking since 6 months!

Swollen "foof" lol has definitely made an appearance this week, it actually aches!! :)

Gennz I think that's the way I will see it. Yes sleepless nights, pain, body problems, but at least the little one is there reminding me why I have it all.

Gonna be sat up til 5am tonight doing naff all as usual. Drinking gaviscon and nursing my bad back lol

Oh God the lack of sex (second trimester only oddly enough ) was ridiculous! DH would not (and still will not) come near me. When I wasn't being sick I was desperate; now, not so much

YANBU. I did not do pregnancy well.

I was ill a lot, no sickness but general nausea throughout caused me to lose a lot of weight; lots of blacking out. I was foul to be around I'm sure!

Not long now though.

YANBU. I'm currently sat up after a day at work with 3 hours commuting, my chest burning from acid and my arse bleeding from a huge pile. OH, who didn't work today, is sound asleep. I am too tired to cook my dinner. I had sickness until 24 weeks and still boke on buses. I am sick of the appointments, the intrusion and the lack of autonomy. 34 weeks and counting!

nervypreg
That was so funny!! I totally agree but you nearly made me piss myself laughing!

BigCatFace can sympathise with you there!! I've just finished work for mat leave but I worked 8am til 5.30pm. 4 busses a day and walking which turned it into a 7am til 6:30pm day, while my OH works 4 hours a day lol. And I am currently typing next to a soundly sleeping OH haha :)

Hated it!

Had HG and went in to hospital with it at 6 weeks. That stopped at 16 weeks, then developed PEP rash all over and was horribly rashy and itchy until weeks after the birth.

Insomnia- being told to 'enjoy' the sleep whilst you can!

Back/bump/neck/everything ache!

Heartburn!

Anxiety.

2 weeks overdue.

Restless legs...

I always said I'd rather have done labour twice over than do 9 ( and a half!) months again!

Urrgg...still trying for number 2 so it was worth every horrible minute!

Also, I don't feel that hating pregnancy makes you insensitive or ungrateful for it at all OP!

Oh the restless legs, when I was about 8 weeks pregnant and I read all the pregnancy stuff, I thought "what the hell is restless legs?!" I knew as soon as I had it :)

There are a lot of us 38 weekers on here! 37+5 with ds2.

Had a hideous first pregnancy: HG, PUPPS, pre-eclampsia. Thought the second one couldn't be any worse...turns out it is!

HG, antenatal depression & spd! Oh yes and the insomnia, heartburn, itching, stretching, achy foof and 'not long now' comments. But they're so minimal compared to the horrors of my spd. I've not slept for longer than 90 mins in months as, no matter how many pillows I arrange in a fort around me, I wake up in agony.

Go on, tell me it'll prepare me for sleepless newborn nights!!! I dare ya!!!

Oh yeah, and my 2-yo is sad with me because I can't get down on the floor and play trains with him/pick him up and give him big cuddles like I used to because of the spd. He 'doesn't love mummy' as much as daddy now.

But yea, so very lucky to have conceived so easily. DH is even luckier to get the children without the horrible horrible ordeal.

...oh yeah and now, at the end stage, and finally looking towards delivery, it appears the NHS is going into meltdown & hospitals are in crisis. Awesome!!