To truly hate being pregnant?!

[TheHermitCrab]

Arrrgh. Needed a rant.

38 weeks pregnant. I have hated every moment of it! but had very little reason to lol.

Never had morning sickness (Well I was queasy but nothing worth whinging about)

But the aching, pulling every muscle, general 9 months of feeling like shit. discharge (tmi!), stretch marks from my chin to my toes, waiting around for midwifes, hearing the same shit from people asking about my baby and bump..etc (I'm not a people person, can you tell)

Now I'm 38 weeks, and 4ft 11, I'm pretty much a walking bump. Getting out of bed is like a turtle stuck on its back. All arms and legs. My knees hurt, my legs hurt, my back hurts.

Strangers ask me how long I have. And people keep telling me how much I will miss my bump (no!) and the sleep (what sleep?! the 3 hours of pain I get on my side?) and how much they all loved being pregnant, I don't even like the movements, I feel invaded, haha.

They are lying to me yes? I didn't even glow. In fact I'm covered in blue veins, I look like death.

(Comments about how I should be lucky I'm pregnant at all need not be posted, I'm not looking for sympathy...etc)

I just can't wait for this little beggar to be out and then the "fun" can get started! ;)

YANBU. if you hate being pregnant it's a long slog. It's also a very bizarre experience first time, although I must say subsequent pregnancies were somewhat easier (well not easier, but there were complications). I actually really enjoyed the movements and would balance various things on my belly and get into poking competions with baby lol, just me then .

velouria lol at the poking competitions! She tends to react more to other things than me!!

If I put my finger in my belly button she bops it, but other than that she ignores me.

Lean the laptop on me and she gives it a good bash til I move it. And she does a lot of dancing in the bath. And as soon as I lie on my side she fights with the bed.

I CAN'T WAIT to be able to sleep on my back again! :)

Yanbu. I hated it so much and definitely didn't miss it once dd was born! The thought of going through pregnancy is putting me off having another. If I could skip straight to labour it'd be fine. Labour was painful but at least I knew the end was in sight, not like those long 9 months of shit.

LillyEvans

I must say the idea of going through this again is very off putting! lol

I don't want to sound insensitive as being pg is certainly not plain sailing but once I got the reflux sorted with Omeprazole (the good stuff not all GP or MW tell you about but is the only thing that will sort out serious gastric reflux), it was not that bad.
Well, if you don't count insomnia, pelvic pain, feeling like a train is about to hit me and I'll never ever be the same + when the fuck is the little fucker going to get out for god's sake?!
YANBU (but maybe demand a massage, a pedi and proper medecine).

helloelo

I probably should have demanded proper medicine since I already had heartburn before pregnancy, A bit late now. These late sleepless nights are at least preparing me for what's to come!

Massage, my OH has the hands of a clumsy gorilla, not that he'd ever offer, but if he did he'd probably make my injuries worse haha! :)

I need a pee now and don't want to get out of bed, it'll hurt and I'll sulk lol.

ooooh I'm with you on the peeing thing, every 2 hours I need to get up and it hurts sooooo much to walk to the loo, it's like I'm going to explode... then I pee the equivalent of a teaspoon.

I'd say though that Omeprazole works within 24 hours so still worth it even now IMO. This way, you'll be able to eat crisps at 2 in the bloody morning instead of trying to sleep.

Haha I could do with some crisps right now. I'm starving. Don't think the OH would appreciate me cracking open a bag of doritos in bed! :D

Iabu for having enjoyed this thread so much- guilty Schadenfreude perhaps?

I loved being pregnant, but perhaps a rambunctious toddler was the universe balancing things out for me?

Definately NBU! I'm 29 weeks pregnant, and I seriously can't wait for it to be over. 9months of feeling like shit, looking like shit and having no energy. Not to mention all the aches/pains/uncomfortableness/heartburn/sickness. I cannot WAIT to get back to feeling normal!

I disliked being pregnant up until 6 months. Then I got gestational diabetes and really started hating it. And everyone else was on some sort of glorious hormone high and looked at me like I had suggested kicking puppies when I said it was tedious, uncomfortable and annoying.

On the plus side, I found the labour/newborn stage far easier than I thought I would, probably mainly as I was so delighted at being able to at least eat and move again.

Sympathies, Op. You are nearly there, well done!

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease how dare you enjoy it! there's no please for you here! ;)

Nah I'm glad you did, I wish I did :)

No place*

Yanbu

I'm 30+5 with longed for dc1. I've told DH that if he wants dc2 then it is coming from the RSPCA.

Still being sick. Heartburn is a bugger (can't tolerate gaviscon so I'm on rennie - bought in packs of 72), on ranitidine, cyclizine, not hungry but go through phases twice a day when I have to eat immediately otherwise I start retching. Tired. Wake myself up with snoring. Can't get comfortable. Oh and constipated to the point of bleeding.

And every fucker helpfully says "ooh, 9/10 weeks to go!" as if that is magically supposed to make me feel better.

The only good thing about it is feeling him/her move around. Even then it's in the middle of the night when I really could do with some sleep

AND I can't even smoke or drink (usual weapon of choice vodka is currently banned from the house)

Sceptimum Thanks! Sorry to hear about the GD on top of the pregnancy. The test itself made me really ill and I was positive I had it, but didn't

I'm lucky I haven't had any complications. But I still feel like shit! lol xx

Ohfourfoxache

Haha my OH has been told the same, he's got two cats I'm allergic to and now his child, he wants two (they have to have a friend he says!) lol. I've told him he can sod off and should have done more house work and made my pregnancy easier, I'm still making his tea and I only finished work last week (42 hours) and he works 4 a day, he's a cheeky beggar. He'll have to figure out how seahorses do it so he can carry the next one ;)

Bavaria 0% lager is my alcohol replacement, and 0% red wine, it actually tastes fair decent and is a nice treat! :)

Oh, the heartburn! I was on Zantac and still popping Antacid tablets whilst doing my final pushes. The second DD was born, it vanished and hasn't returned since!

told my OH wherever I am whatever happens he HAS to make sure my bottle of gaviscon is in the hospital bag when I go into labour :D

Have to admit, DH has been ace. I mean truly, 110%, doing all housework/cooking/lookin after me brilliant.

It will be a cold day in hell before I do this again though

I don't think int can say "you soon forget it" when it comes to pregnancy, not in the same way people can quickly get over a not-too-distressing but definitely uncomfortable labour. Although, with a baby and young child to look after for the next... 18 years, there will be plenty to distract from memories of the pregnancy.

I literally cannot remember how pregnant I am, just that I'm in the 6 month zone, I just had to google how many weeks away the 5th of April is. I have the worst pregnancy brain.

God I hated it. My second and third went to 42 weeks - I had SPD/heartburn with the second and anaemia/heartburn with the third. I'm fairly tall as well, so I'm sure it's much less comfortable if you're packing the baby into a smaller space.

I get where you're coming from op. I had a mixed bag pregnancy, there were times when I liked it, and times when I hated it and felt really invaded / grossed out. By the time I was 38 weeks I just could not wait to get my body back. I'd fantasise about my belly being empty and flat again, and feeling light and being able to move and lie in any position. I loved it in the days following the birth losing all the initial baby weight. Won't be long for you now op :)

200% agree Op!! 8 days to go here (c-section booked due to probs last time - soooo good to have a an end-date this time!) & I literally cannot wait... Even though I have a toddler this time and know the newborn days won't be as easy it could Never be as hard/awkward/downright irritating as being preg!! No real heartburn/SPD/sickness for me (although defo the occasional bout of each throughout at intervals) - my bane had been the god awful ITCHING..... every single evening (although as preg has progressed it's crept up earlier and earlier till now just eases off a bit during the day before resuming full force around 4-5pm) it kicks in and keeps up All Bloody Night. I spend my nights back and forth from the bathroom alternately (or now often simultaneously) peeing miniscule amounts and bathing various bits (although mostly my arms/shoulders/neck, for some weird reason) in cold water & calamine lotion..... This is hell!!! Oh and got the last week or so, just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, my piles - which have been an occasional mildly annoying factor throughout - seem to've now taken up permanent residence outside my butt, scuppering my plans to induce an early end to the misery via long long walks.....
Oh, woe!!! I Know baby well be the easier option - bring it on!!

Thanks for this thread, BTW - much more comforting/gratifying to suffer in good company than moan alone! (Do prob sick of hearing my pathetic whining, bless, although clearly knows it is not worth his life to object outwardly! :) )