To truly hate being pregnant?!

[TheHermitCrab]

Arrrgh. Needed a rant.

38 weeks pregnant. I have hated every moment of it! but had very little reason to lol.

Never had morning sickness (Well I was queasy but nothing worth whinging about)

But the aching, pulling every muscle, general 9 months of feeling like shit. discharge (tmi!), stretch marks from my chin to my toes, waiting around for midwifes, hearing the same shit from people asking about my baby and bump..etc (I'm not a people person, can you tell)

Now I'm 38 weeks, and 4ft 11, I'm pretty much a walking bump. Getting out of bed is like a turtle stuck on its back. All arms and legs. My knees hurt, my legs hurt, my back hurts.

Strangers ask me how long I have. And people keep telling me how much I will miss my bump (no!) and the sleep (what sleep?! the 3 hours of pain I get on my side?) and how much they all loved being pregnant, I don't even like the movements, I feel invaded, haha.

They are lying to me yes? I didn't even glow. In fact I'm covered in blue veins, I look like death.

(Comments about how I should be lucky I'm pregnant at all need not be posted, I'm not looking for sympathy...etc)

I just can't wait for this little beggar to be out and then the "fun" can get started! ;)

I hated every second of pregnancy. My baby is 4 months and it is so much better. I'm sleeping more, it doesn't hurt to just exist and the baby is amazing.

Yanbu.

It went like this for me..

1st time loved pregnancy and hated having a new born. Loved my ds though obviously. I just wasn't loving life at that time.

2nd time absolutely hated pregnancy and am loving the baby stage. It's constant worry and rubbish sleep but utterly enjoyable.

You need to make these remaining days bearable. Netflix and cake.

Seriously, go and ask this question on the Conception board, where loads of people are struggling to even get pregnant or who have had repeated miscarriages. I know being heavily pregnant is hard (heartburn was my worst thing) but the alternative is much harder.

I have 2 and from my user name, you can see I'm having a third. pregnancy with the first wasn't a doddle as I lost his twin, but apart from that I loved being pregnant with him. Same with the second.

This time around though... ugh. I'm 26 weeks and my bump HURTS. And the two kids keep running into it. And I'm breathless. And everything aches. And I'm getting no sleep. And I keep having to try to run to the toilet (and occasionally failing to move fast enough because my bladder-to-brain signal hasn't realised I can't move at the same speeds as usual), and I can't stand wearing ANYTHING on the bump (but have to so I can take the eldest to school)...

I can honestly say if the first pregnancy was like this I would probably not have had number 2 and certainly not number 3-to-be.

I detested being pg, I just didn't do it well.

Went from chucking up to bloated and huge without any fabled "glow". Utis in all pregnancies, kidney stones in the 2nd and 3rd, morning sickness until 16-18 weeks, spd and antenatal depression (unsurprisingly) which segued effortlessly into pnd.

I produced 3 gorgeous babies, but the process was not pretty!

Sorry to be 'revolting'. Oh no, I'm not. It wasn't a literal suggestion to ask the question elsewhere. Just a reminder that there are people who'd kill to be in the OP's position. Never a bad thing to be reminded of how lucky you are.

31 weeks on number 2 and starting to flag. Insomnia, anaemia, ligament pain, hip pain, hefting an oversized bump about... the list goes on. Definitely looking forward to it being over with.

I'm very aware how lucky I am to be able to conceive.

I was diagnosed as infertile. I spent most of my life "knowing" I could never have kids. A doctor actually told me "it would take a miracle for you to get pregnant, a second one for the baby to survive to viability, and a third for either of you to survive as far as actually having the baby by caesarian"
I wouldn't survive a natural birth, and neither would the baby.

And my previous health issues meant that I wouldn't be suitable for any help such as IVF.
It took a long time to come to terms with it.

Obviously I've had a lot of miracles in the last 5 years, or my condition improved a lot.

Knowing how it feels to not be able to get pregnant doesn't negate my current suffering, though.

It's possible to deeply, truly, understand your fortune at being in the position of having a child but really not enjoy the process.
Or is my friend who's thrown up several times a day for the last 7 months with her IVF pregnancy and been hospitalised twice due to it just ungrateful when she says she's miserable?

I hated being pregnant first time round (hyperemesis and spd don't make for a fun pregnancy) and didn't believe people when they told me I would miss my bump - I was so uncomfortable, how could I possibly miss it? However flash on 6 months and I really did miss feeling ds wriggling around in my belly :) he's now 19 months, I'm 30 weeks pregnant, hyperemesis again, but this time I know I'm not going to be having any more so as much as I'm hating it, I'm trying to make the most of it. I really do envy people who sail through pregnancy and enjoy every second. But as I'm sitting here feeling the baby wriggling around I just remind myself how truly magical it really is to have a real live human being living inside you.

YANBU OP. Whenever anyone told me that they loved being pregnant, my first thought was how crap their lives must be if this is the good part! I had a CS and despite recovering from major surgery, felt way better almost immediately. That was soon wrecked by no sleep for the next 6 months though...

Oh fgs. Always someone who misses the humour and wants to chastise everyone for daring to find it on AIBU

I have several conditions which technically make me infertile, have had numerous fertility treatments, spent a LONG time (years) TTC and thinking it would never happen. Am ruled out from adopting for health reasons. I am blessed now with a miracle child. On bad days I may have felt a pang of jealousy at this thread but then left it realising it is light hearted. Having experienced pregnancy even after all that - I still HATED pregnancy. I didn't spend my time redicilously grateful for all the shit like piles/heartburn/stretch marks etc...

I DO spend my time redicilously grateful for my child. As I'm sure does every woman moaning on here

Not unreasonable at all

I LOATHED pregnancy. Vomited every day until the day I had DS, SPD, heartburn, crippling sciatica in the last week. Plus people are so annoying about it, even when they're being nice (I'm a cow). In fact I got an ELCS largely because it meant I could get him out at 39 weeks. The operation was walk in the park compared to pregnancy!

DS is 6 weeks and although having a newborn can be really hard it's a vast improvement on the shitness that is pregancy.

If someone had told me I was "ungrateful" for my fertility I think I probably would have punched them.

Ugh, I loathed being pregnant. I was in such pain for the first pregnancy.

All I can say is that mother nature has a serious sense of humour, and is bloody marvellous at dishing out amnesia. It was only when I was well and truly pregnant with DS2 that I remembered half the crap of the first pregnancy/labour......

currently 20 weeks, my sister is coming up for 21weeks and my gosh.... Went over my mums this morning to see how everyone is doing etc and my sister and i ended up in bed together sick as dogs throwing up over the side ofmy mums double bed into a bucket, then crying then pissing ourselves laughing (Almost literally) then throwing up then crying again.

Oh good God the labour anxiety.

Exactly, Faffyduck. People should take this thread in the spirit that it's intended.

People assume I love being pg because I had 6 kids. NOPE!!!

I love kids, hate being pregnant, its a means to an end to be endured rather than enjoyed ime! You have my sympathies.

My recent pregnancy was planned and much wanted after a traumatic MMC. But if anyone had told me I should be 'grateful' to be in and out of hospital on drips for the whole pregnancy, including vomiting my way through labour which ended up being complicated by my ketosis, I would not be impressed. My pregnancy had no connection whatsoever to another woman's difficulty in conceiving and I'm perfectly entitled to vent about how bloody awful it was. In fact, without the space to moan and support and advice I had on here I would probably have ended up with severe antenatal depression, I felt that bad.

YANBU. Pregnancy is rubbish. I wish we were like koalas and they could crawl out when very little and live on the outside!

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I know, Chunderella
she and I are both ungrateful bitches. Next time I'm whimpering in pain because everything hurts so much she can tell me to suck it up and be grateful I'm pregnant at all, and I'll remind her when she wishes it was over that it's entirely her own fault for wanting the end result enough for her and her partner to save for years to pay for the IVF.

I wouldn't swap being pregnant for the world, so I don't want anyone to think I'm ungrateful, but...

I feel like shit. I look like shit. None of my clothes are comfortable. I've just spent a fortune on maternity clothes in the hope I can regain some professionalism at my job. I smell funny. I look massive, and that's because then only thing that stops me from feeling sick is eating. Unfortunately, the only food that doesn't disagree with me is stodge, and cheese. I also feel like I've isolated myself from everyone because I feel weird.

I'm soooooo looking forward to spending 36 hours pushing out a huge, awkward baby and even more so to the stitches afterwards. Why did I think doing this again was a good idea?!?

I suffered a miscarriage a few months before this pregnancy, so I'm so, so grateful for this pregnancy. So much so that I can't bring myself to complain about anything IRL so this is my outlet. I hope it doesn't upset anyone, but I just need to vent. I'm 17 weeks and 40 weeks seems so far away. It seems I'm in good company here though!

Ahhhh, that feels better ????