Am I really being unreasonable? I mean, really?

[FruitCakey]

DS (he is 7) has just had an iPad mini for Christmas. SIL and MIL feel I am being a total bitch not allowing my 2 year old nephew to "take turns" in playing with my DS brand new tablet. I am actually really cross! They keep making comments about how sad it is for poor nephew, that he should be fine.

I have told them that there is no chance. I wouldn't have bought a tablet for my son at 2, therefore DN won't be using DS tablet at only 2 either. For no other reason than I don't trust that he can look after it.

I have explained this in the nicest possible way. They still keep making remarks regarding DN having a go when he screams and tantrums to get to it.

I have now just overheard MIL telling SIL that it isn't my place to tell them that DN isn't allowed a go. Excuse me!? When I have paid a lot of money for a tablet for my DS, do I really not have the right to decide who the hell can use it?

Am I really being unreasonable? I just can't imagine how I am?

Everyone's family dynamic is different. In mine we don't expect kids to sit there twiddling their thumbs or listening to us all chat - they can play their games as they wish and enjoy being a child.

It's just good guest etiquette to not let children play with toys they don't intend to share with other guests around.

That said, your son is 9, your nephew is 2. There will be no toys they can both play with. He'll have to deal.

I don't either, but I don't let mine play on devices for hours at a time regardless of the situation. Except for long car rides and illness.

Yanbu. 2 yr olds are grabby, rough and have dirty hands. (Waits for slings and arrows). Seriously, just ask your ds not to flaunt it - you'll save a lot of hassle. When my ds doesn't want his friends to play with certain toys, i suggest he puts them away. If he doesn't, he deals with the consequences.

cheerfulyank - I do wonder where you get your information from, it certainly isn't me. Hours on the iPad? When did I say that?

People like to fill in gaps with make believe

That part was mostly to Grays OP. :) I was responding to the not expecting children to "twiddle their thumbs" but "play their games as they wish".

I only meant that I wouldn't let my DC play for longer than a half hour or so anyway, so it wouldn't really matter if they did it in another room for such a brief amount of time.