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I just got punched. in front of my three and four year old.

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Faultysingledad · 07/12/2014 15:24

I'll start at the beginning. I popped to the supermarket to buy some bits and bobs for a meal that me and my boys are preparing for some family visitors tonight. I had my boys with me as I'm a single dad. We went in and got the boys and bobs that we needed. My lads are good, but we're starting to get a little bit fractious towards the end, as it was pre Christmas busy. We went back to the car and loaded up. No issues. As I was driving out, I realised that I'd forgotten the cream for making my potato gratin. No big deal, we spun round parked up again and I started to get the lads out. They didn't want to go in again. No problem. They are good lads and obedient, and understand the meaning of a promise. I asked them if they would like to stay in the car whilst I ran in to the shop. They eagerly agreed. I told them that they must stay in their seats, and that they could read their books or play with their toys. They are both sticklers for rules, so I had every confidence that this is what would happen for the couple of minutes that I would be out of sight. So car alarm internal sensors deactivated, doors deadlocked and kids happy, that's what happened. And when I returned 2-3 minutes later, that's exactly how I found them, happily reading books to each other. Everything was fine, until some bloke came and angrily pulled open my door and started yelling at me. Now I KNOW that this is a controversial subject, and that lots of people would have condemned my actions as neglectful, but respectfully, that's their opinion, which isn't born out by facts or law. I'm a fairly thoughtful bloke, but I've got some quite strong opinions about this nanny state, risk averse society that is increasingly prevalent. I've already considered this whole issue, and I'm very aware that this is an issue that has been done to death on mumsnet, and I'm also aware that my opinion is against the majority opinion these days. Anyway, I digress. The bloke that opened my car door was aggressive and shouty. I didn't get a chance to put my thoughts about risks vs benefits, or the fact that more kids get run over and killed in busy car parks than get abducted from cars, or that it was my parenting decision and none of his business, I just told him to go away. He said he was going to call the police, I said be my guest, I'd done nothing illegal. I told him to go away again, he punched me. My kids were screaming in fear at this point. It was all a bit of a blur to be honest. Shortly afterwards I managed to get my door shut and drive away.

My problem is, I don't know what to do now. Normally it would obviously be to report it to the police, but to be honest, I can't be doing with all the hand wringing and questions asked about my parenting. I should imagine that there's quite a risk that the police would report me to social services at the very least, and I don't need the stree, even though I would wholeheartedly defend my decision making process. Plus, I have no idea of this blokes identity.

Should I just chalk it up to experience and try to forget about it? That's my current plan, but I'm always inclined to bury my head in the sand about stuff anyway, and it's not always the best course of action. The most distressing thing about the whole thing is that it's obviously deeply upset my boys, who keep asking about the 'horrible man.'

Thoughts?

OP posts:
EK36 · 13/11/2018 05:37

Report to the police.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 13/11/2018 06:20

Thug with misplaced sense of self-righteousness. What does he think is worse for your children, being left in the car for ten minutes, or seeing their dad punched?

This . He was wrong

That said do you have the energy or will to report ? I wouldn’t

Chalk it down to a shitty experience ?

Sorry this happened

Cheby · 13/11/2018 07:03

How do people even find these things to resurrect?!

Miscible · 13/11/2018 08:11

Aw, shame. Here was I thinking "Oh good, Olivia's back", only to be sorely disappointed when I finally noticed the date.

OzzyMadBat · 13/11/2018 08:21

@IbizaLovesSundays

How did you find this ZOMBIE thread and what made you post on it 4 years on? Genuinely curious, you have every right to do so but why? I have resurrected threads in the past, if linked to something I wanted to discuss but would usually flag I had resurrected it and why. I used to think it was MN doing this when new threads were thin on the ground.
Really am not trying to goad you, the thought process just fascinates me.

WizardOfToss · 13/11/2018 08:24

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YearOfYouRemember · 13/11/2018 08:32

Just because you may have done something that isn't ideal doesn't mean he should get away with punching you. Next time he could kill. One punch has killed others before now.

OzzyMadBat · 13/11/2018 08:34

year He's been on a killing spree for 4 years now....tis a 2014 thread.

IbizaLovesSundays · 13/11/2018 12:07

I typed something into Google and this thread came up. Didn't even look at the date.

Aridane · 13/11/2018 19:23

What an amazing zombie thread -I wonder what happened?

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