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I just got punched. in front of my three and four year old.

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Faultysingledad · 07/12/2014 15:24

I'll start at the beginning. I popped to the supermarket to buy some bits and bobs for a meal that me and my boys are preparing for some family visitors tonight. I had my boys with me as I'm a single dad. We went in and got the boys and bobs that we needed. My lads are good, but we're starting to get a little bit fractious towards the end, as it was pre Christmas busy. We went back to the car and loaded up. No issues. As I was driving out, I realised that I'd forgotten the cream for making my potato gratin. No big deal, we spun round parked up again and I started to get the lads out. They didn't want to go in again. No problem. They are good lads and obedient, and understand the meaning of a promise. I asked them if they would like to stay in the car whilst I ran in to the shop. They eagerly agreed. I told them that they must stay in their seats, and that they could read their books or play with their toys. They are both sticklers for rules, so I had every confidence that this is what would happen for the couple of minutes that I would be out of sight. So car alarm internal sensors deactivated, doors deadlocked and kids happy, that's what happened. And when I returned 2-3 minutes later, that's exactly how I found them, happily reading books to each other. Everything was fine, until some bloke came and angrily pulled open my door and started yelling at me. Now I KNOW that this is a controversial subject, and that lots of people would have condemned my actions as neglectful, but respectfully, that's their opinion, which isn't born out by facts or law. I'm a fairly thoughtful bloke, but I've got some quite strong opinions about this nanny state, risk averse society that is increasingly prevalent. I've already considered this whole issue, and I'm very aware that this is an issue that has been done to death on mumsnet, and I'm also aware that my opinion is against the majority opinion these days. Anyway, I digress. The bloke that opened my car door was aggressive and shouty. I didn't get a chance to put my thoughts about risks vs benefits, or the fact that more kids get run over and killed in busy car parks than get abducted from cars, or that it was my parenting decision and none of his business, I just told him to go away. He said he was going to call the police, I said be my guest, I'd done nothing illegal. I told him to go away again, he punched me. My kids were screaming in fear at this point. It was all a bit of a blur to be honest. Shortly afterwards I managed to get my door shut and drive away.

My problem is, I don't know what to do now. Normally it would obviously be to report it to the police, but to be honest, I can't be doing with all the hand wringing and questions asked about my parenting. I should imagine that there's quite a risk that the police would report me to social services at the very least, and I don't need the stree, even though I would wholeheartedly defend my decision making process. Plus, I have no idea of this blokes identity.

Should I just chalk it up to experience and try to forget about it? That's my current plan, but I'm always inclined to bury my head in the sand about stuff anyway, and it's not always the best course of action. The most distressing thing about the whole thing is that it's obviously deeply upset my boys, who keep asking about the 'horrible man.'

Thoughts?

OP posts:
JingleSpud · 07/12/2014 17:59

wanders in

Oh......maybe i'll come back later

disappear off to find popcorn meme

Nancy66 · 07/12/2014 17:59

it sounds more like a dauphinoise.

I probably would risk a kid for that.

WillkommenBienvenue · 07/12/2014 17:59

Hunter gathering on the African plains would be safer than Tesco's on a December Sunday afternoon.

planetrees · 07/12/2014 18:00

Op has disappeared to make his potato gratin, sporting a black eye presumably. I have received my first ever post deletion, and am having wine to drown my sorrows.

A sad day all round. Sad

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/12/2014 18:01

Is the OP off making his potato gratin?

atoughyear · 07/12/2014 18:01

Grin Willkomen.

MrsBertMacklin · 07/12/2014 18:01

Tonight on The One Show: Grapes - The Hidden Danger.

I just got punched. in front of my three and four year old.
Fairenuff · 07/12/2014 18:02

Vineyards must be a minefield to work in.

needastrongone · 07/12/2014 18:03

soon - fair enough, I guess we have different opinions. A few minutes? Abandonment? Very strong word, that's all.

Must check where DS is, he's been gone all afternoon, without a coat. He'll be alive I would imagine.

WillkommenBienvenue · 07/12/2014 18:03

Now I'm thinking perhaps the kids were safer in the car.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/12/2014 18:04

You got there first, planetrees! Maybe he's at A and E after the punch, though?

HighwayDragon · 07/12/2014 18:04

As it happens I've slipped on a grape before, but it wasn't tesco, it was waitrose.

Fairenuff · 07/12/2014 18:05

Don't forget that they often spontaneously combust though Willkommen.

The cars that is, not the kids.

wowfudge · 07/12/2014 18:06

Oh my goodness - poor OP. I'd report the bullying git if he'd punched me in those circumstances.

New word of the week: 'eyeshot'. Brilliant.

Who knew there were so many potential death traps in the local supermarket. And watch out for the spontaneously combusting car on the drive when you take the bins out.

Viviennemary · 07/12/2014 18:10

It isn't wise to leave small children in a car alone. But that's beside the point. What happened to you was assault and you should report it to the police.

usualsuspectsparkly3 · 07/12/2014 18:10

Lames?

I have nothing else to add.

you bunch of fat cunts

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/12/2014 18:11

You get a better class of concussion at Waitrose, Highway.

Altinkum · 07/12/2014 18:12

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/12/2014 18:12

Is anyone wounded by the words of a lame(s) troll

Taz1212 · 07/12/2014 18:13

Don't forget that they often spontaneously combust though

I was told off recently in a thread for making light of the risk of spontaneously combusting cars. Seemingly it occurs far more frequently than you or I would expect. Shock

I did try to find some statistics but the ones I found showed something like a 0.0something chance which is pretty much the risk level I'd assumed...

Nevertheless, we should never ever sit in our cars with the engine off as they may spontaneously combust!

Altinkum · 07/12/2014 18:14

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/12/2014 18:14

Whose life does seem to actually be trolling on MN so that seems a strange choice of insult from them.

HighwayDragon · 07/12/2014 18:15

Well of course Better they were very apologetic, can't see that happening in tesco.

ElkTheory · 07/12/2014 18:15

This is the most bizarre thread I've read in a while. Some of the responses are utterly bonkers.

And how old were the children? Xmas Wink

Altinkum · 07/12/2014 18:16

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