To cancel Christmas at the inlaws?

[Kab13]

Long story short, we were going to do Xmas day at my pils house & Boxing Day at my mums. We've decided to cancel both as we are moving next week, we would like Xmas in our new (first home together) and to be able to settle in properly.
We have said people are more than welcome to come to ours for some nibbles and wine but we would just really like to be at ours this year.
Mil had fils parents down this year & their next door neighbours over for Xmas day too, so we aren't leaving them on their own.
I do feel a bit guilty as we haven't seen them on Xmas day for 3 years now (1st Xmas I was heavily pregnant, 2nd it was dds first Xmas so wanted to be at home and the 3rd this one) however we have always said they are welcome at ours, they chose last year to sit in on their own and then try and guilt trip us on Boxing Day about what a terrible, lonely Xmas the had
My mum won't mind, however mother in law hasn't responded to the message we sent two days ago, I get the strong impression we've upset her and she's not responding because of this.
Of course, she may have just forgot to reply, but I highly doubt it.
Aibu?
We've had a seriously tough year due to unless both me and dp being inn hospital and it's just been chaos.
We really just want to relax for a couple of days which is very hard with dd at in laws house , she's a VERY manic busy child and they don't like her touching anything in their house.
Maybe I am bu but we've said we aren't coming now, it'd be a bit odd and a tad rude to invite ourselves again...opinions?

[MoreBonkersThanBonkers]

Oh well, at least it's sorted. Next year you can plan ahead a bit more carefully.

Hope it goes ok (although I wouldn't blame you for not getting your hopes up)

[Kab13]

No. I'm having my Christmas day I. Boxing Day this year. :L

[Lomega]

I'm afraid I'm one of those people that thinks cancelling pre-made plans is rude (unless it's an emergency). I do think that it's nice you want to spend christmas with your family in your new home all together, but your parents/ILs were probably banking on spending time with you and DD especially if you have been in hospital a lot this year. If you wanted time alone you should really have said so when asked about going to parents/ILs instead of cancelling plans now.

[LoonvanBoon]

Read the thread, Lomega - OP is actually going now. Her post is only a few above yours.

Hope it's not too bad, Kab - & good luck with the move.

[RaisingMen]

Your parents in law are incredibly manipulative. I hope you realise this. I'd think very hard before giving into their emotional blackmail next time.