To be utterly furious beyond belief with dh

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

Last year I got all the Xmas decs the Christmassy singing soft toys, lights decorations and stuff I've been collecting over the years including stuff from when the kids were born and boxed them up. It turns out DH 'thought' it was rubbish and has took it all to the tip. I've got nothing
I feel so upset and utterly angry as his thoughtless stupidity has caused me upset and will cost money to replace and this is not the first time it's happened with precious or valuable stuff.
He just doesn't get why I'm so upset and is trying to blame me by saying well I thought you were putting it up the loft

Ouch. Was it labelled or obvious what it was?

Were the boxes clearly labelled? Where have they been all year if not in the loft?

It was an accident. It is annoying and costly but you are over-reacting by being so furious.

This would infuriate me.

My dad did the exact same thing and ended up chucking out lots of photos and things that were irreplaceable. Like would it have killed them to take a look or ask first?

YANBU

Where did you leave the boxes that he thought they were rubbish? Presumably not in the loft or a storage are where it would have been obvious they had been "stored" rather than just dropped there?

I would be furious too, why didn't he check with you to say 'is this lot for the tip?'

Dh did the same thing to my wedding dress that was in the garage
I was upset at first but now I'm not bothered in the least
It's just stuff

I would be livid too, doesn't really matter where they were he only had to check either with you or look inside the boxes.

I'm kind of glad but not for you who've experienced similar that it's not just him! To whomever asked it was on the conservatory with the Christmas tree

Who throws away big boxes of stuff without checking what's in them?! I would be livid. It doesn't matter where they were stored, he should have checked first.

In not on clearly!

Why did he think it was rubbish?

Oh that's not ok and smacks of 'this stuff isn't mine so can't possibly be important'

Doesn't sound like a mistake to me.

Deja vu! Im sure I've read this exact thread before

Had they been in the conservatory all year with the tree or you'd just got everything down from the loft?

They were stored with the Christmas tree? The bloody gobshite! Sorry

Doesn't sound like an accident. Had he asked you to put it in the loft? It sounds like something my XP would do to punish me if I'd disobeyed him, ie 'accidentally' get rid of something. I'd be furious. Is he going to pay to replace it all?

Maybe he does it every year Hobbit

I don't really understand how this happens. Surely if you're getting rid of boxes you have a quick peek inside to check what they contain before just chucking them?

I can understand why you're upset, Christmas stuff can be quite sentimental and pretty expensive to have to replace a whole collection of it in one go. It was an accident though, and as insancerre says, it's just stuff?

Go and treat yourself to something really pretty as part of your new collection, doesn't need to be expensive- I got some gorgeous glass baubles from Wilko's that were only £1.50 each. Bulk it up with cheap supermarket packs if money is an issue. Don't have a big fight over it.

I'd be very angry. It doesn't sound like an accident.

I'd be beyond furious too. I couldn't live with someone so utterly thoughtless and stupid quite frankly.

I would never throw out cardboard boxes of stuff without establishing what was in them and whether it was rubbish for the tip.

Who boxes up rubbish for the tip anyway? I sling tip rubbish in bin bags.

Being mardy, I would feel like taking something of his to the tip.

But then as my Nan would say, two wrongs don't make a right .

You can't replace the lost items but you still have the memories. Time to go out and buy some more stuff, as Redbuttonhole says, there's some really gorgeous items out there.

I'm thinking of leaving his golf clubs on the lawn for the old iron man then shrugging when he asks where they've gone