To be utterly furious beyond belief with dh

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

Last year I got all the Xmas decs the Christmassy singing soft toys, lights decorations and stuff I've been collecting over the years including stuff from when the kids were born and boxed them up. It turns out DH 'thought' it was rubbish and has took it all to the tip. I've got nothing
I feel so upset and utterly angry as his thoughtless stupidity has caused me upset and will cost money to replace and this is not the first time it's happened with precious or valuable stuff.
He just doesn't get why I'm so upset and is trying to blame me by saying well I thought you were putting it up the loft

My sister had the same thing happen. Her decorations were very sentimental too. She said in the end "They're only things. It's the people and the memories which matter."

Let them go OP. They've gone.

It's bad enough that he threw the stuff away without checking especially as you say it's not the first time it's happened, but to then blame you for his cock up? Not surprised you're furious!

Doesn't sound like an accident to me

Even boxes I have filled for the tip I double check before actually shoving them in the car and getting rid

It happened about four weeks ago with the Halloween costumes. Oh I thought they were bags of rubbish. Fucking thick prat

The dizzy fucker. I'd make him pay for new stuff.

And he did the same thing again? Is he trying to tell you something, or is just as thick as the wall?

Does anyone on this thread carefully box up stuff for the tip?

I would think the fact the stuff has been neatly boxed away should make it apparent, even if it was unlabelled, that this was not junk.

It's not really an accident, is it? An accident would be if they were all in black bin bags and you'd asked him to put the rubbish out. It's more an episode of wanton stupidity. I'd be bloody fuming too, and very tempted by your golf club idea.

Question - has he ever 'accidentally' thrown away something of his, that he values personally?

I feel you pain Sharon

On a similar vein ... I put out my own wedding dress into the bin on bin collection day. Long story short said dress had been put in a bin liner to take to cleaners and then had got taken out to bin as rubbish :(. I was gutted!

Misty - how awful!

It was awful Bo . I can really empathise with Sharon . When it happened to me I felt a mix of disbelief, devastation and utter guttedness.

At the moment I'd love to burn my wedding dress

I know of someone whose elderly father (living with them) took a load of boxes to the recycling depot one day. Unfortunately the boxes still contained the christmas presents, they'd only just been delivered.

This was told to me as an "Oh isn't he a character" anecdote . Nope, he's as sharp as a tack still and knew exactly what he was doing. He's always loved causing chaos and feigning ignorance, his family know that!

I'd be chuffed as I would take it to mean that he has giving you a green light to go out and buy lots of lovely new Xmas decorations!

Not really, I'd be fuming too.

Also, if I found some random boxes, no way would I just take them to the tip without checking what was in them.

A very good friends husband threw out all of the presents last year resulting in a desperate trip to the tip to try and retrieve. Laptop, iPad, perfumes and all DCs clothes, how she was so chipper about it and didn't kill him I'll never know but I'm sure something cracked inside her that day.

My dad threw away an old burnt mangled pile of wood from the attic a few years back and my mum flipped because it turns out it was her GREAT GREAT grandmothers ironing board.

Hope these tales of woe remind you that life goes on, just make him dig deep and buy you more! I'd be taking his credit card to buy a lovely big 6ft obnoxious dancing snowman.

He will of course be replacing it all from his own personal spending money rather than household funds?

I once leant a friend a load of clothes to take on holiday.
She put them in a bin bag in the hall ready to bring back to me when she came home. Her bf thought they were for a charity sack and gave them all away. He never even offered to pay for me to replace them.
She dumped him not long after that (though not because of it)

It's not even the fact that people can be so careless as to throw out stuff that's obviously not rubbish (all it takes is a few seconds to check after all). It's the way so many of these clowns then try to lay the blame on someone else for their fuckwittery. I'd be less inclined to get pissed off by this sort if thing if said fuckwit actually apologised then offere to go and replace what they trashed.

I'm going to sell his precious golf clubs and buy a huge tree and order a load of decorations from Harrods. That'll learn the dimwitted donkey

Tbh I think he did you a favour ditching the singing soft toys.

The rest....hmm, yes, annoying but doesn't really merit utterly furious

Good plan Sharon.

Arf at "dimwitted donkey"!

"It's the way so many of these clowns then try to lay the blame on someone else for their fuckwittery."

Exactly! Admitting horrible error and trying to remedy the situation makes it ok again. Behaving like an arrogant selfish wanker makes it seem like its less of a stupid accident and more a sign of how little he respects others.

I BET he has never done this to his own belongings, just other people's who aren't as important as his own.

Fuck wit.