To be utterly furious beyond belief with dh

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

Last year I got all the Xmas decs the Christmassy singing soft toys, lights decorations and stuff I've been collecting over the years including stuff from when the kids were born and boxed them up. It turns out DH 'thought' it was rubbish and has took it all to the tip. I've got nothing
I feel so upset and utterly angry as his thoughtless stupidity has caused me upset and will cost money to replace and this is not the first time it's happened with precious or valuable stuff.
He just doesn't get why I'm so upset and is trying to blame me by saying well I thought you were putting it up the loft

So he's done this twice recently? That doesn't feel very accidental to me. That feels like somebody clearing the decks and not caring what is damaged in the process.

Yep good plan! Maybe he'll learn to take a second and check in the future, the tit.

Who the fuck throws stuff out when they don't know where it came from or what it is? Total fuckwittery.

My kidswent round to a friend's house a few days fter Christmas a few years back and took some of their presents round in carrier bags. Friend's husband too k them to the tip thinking they were bags of wrapping.

To be fair to him he
a. nearly cried about it he was so upset and I can almost still make him cry now if I mention it
b. replaced them all

I would be livid too OP

Passes box of Swanvestas to Sharon

All of these stories are reminding me of Toy Story 3.

YANBU. If he'd been apologetic I'd say forgive but it doesn't sound like he's sorry.

These men are very keen to drive to the tip, aren't they?

How are these people going to the militant Eco Friendly skip and not sorting their rubbish out? We have to separate it into paper, glass, electrics etc you can't just take boxes and pass them over

A sensible bloke, or indeed any sensible person, would think to check what the items were before chucking them out, especially after chucking out the first lot.

Seems to me he's either monumentally stupid or doesn't give a fuck about anyone else's stuff.

When I moved house with my ex I stupidly gave him the job of sorting out the living room and didn't check what he had given to the charity shop.
Cue a very confused phone call from the charity shop asking if I'd meant to donate my cheque book and other household papers!
I have a horrible feeling they may also have got the cat's pooper scooper but were too polite to mention it!
No-one can tell me that was a mistake on my ex's part.

Please misty don't make me I'm meant to be apoplectic with rage here

If he is extremely tidy sort of person who takes boxes to the tip the minute the original content have been taken out then yes ,fair enough. Its a matter of keeping an eye on what he is aiming to throw out next.

But, if these trips to the tip are only for these specific items, he is doing it out of malice and I don't think I could ever forgive him.

I know they are only things and you can buy new one easily enough. Its the sheer disregard for my feelings that would rankle.

average is right. Municipal 'tips' are now recycling centres and although they would take the boxes off you if they thought they could sell the goods if they run a second hand shop on site, or recycle them, the staff would make you open the boxes up in front of them.

What an absolute twat! I'd kill him.

Ours are in plastic boxes so not easy to mistake for rubbish. But then DH has been clearing the garage out.....

Could he maybe have spent the last however many years hating your tacky* decorations and singing teddies and thought this was the perfect time to get rid of all the crap?

*not saying they're tacky just wondering if your DH thought so?

my dh did this, he swears blind he didnt, but the box is gone, and it was a very distinct box that was taped up and its disappeared.

i'm still angry about it four years later.

It was a shoe box with my tree fairy in, all my hanging decorations and was all carefully stored.. it went up with the decorations the one year and didn't come down the next, he said it wasnt there.. its just gone.. so either he's put it somewhere else up there (i cant go up there) or he threw it away.

some of it was stuff my mom gave me from when i was little, irreplaceable, and very precious.

the fact that they were all small and delicate, and lately the trend is for those horrible HUGE baubles doesn't help!

It takes effort to go to the tip with something. I don't think it was thoughtlessness. Sorry.
The fact that he 'doesn't get' why you're upset, and is trying to blame it on you, just reinforces the idea that he knew what he was doing and wasn't just being careless.

Most people who made a mistake like that, and upset a loved one, would be mortified.

I'm glad to have lightened the tone for you Sharon . Although I do realise it will rattle you each and every Yuletide until the end of eternity

Wow. I'd be livid as well!

There's a rule in our house - if it's not yours, then you don't get to decide what to do with it. Even moving stuff is risky business as there might be a reason it's there.

There's a cardboard box in the office at the moment. I'll throw it out eventually as it was originally my box but as there's other stuff in there now that's not mine I'll be checking it and asking DH to before I toss it.

No one is that stupid. If he hates Christmas that much I'd cancel his Christmas present.

I collect Christmas decorations, so I would be devastated by this. Yes, I know it's only stuff, but I have every key moment in my life wrapped up in that stuff! DH proposed to me with a Christmas decoration! His f

Sounds like he decided he didn't think your "clutter" was important enough to be kept. Is he normally a prick like this?

my dh dumped a pile of my magazine in the recycling. some hadn't even been taken out of the packet. I let that go but I was glad I removed the bank statement and a card I got from my late mum.

...don't know why that posted. his friend made it. It opens and has a hand written card inside. which says in German, ' You were sent to me by God to be my queen, marry me.' We look at it every year and it makes us smile. YANBU.