To be utterly furious beyond belief with dh

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

Last year I got all the Xmas decs the Christmassy singing soft toys, lights decorations and stuff I've been collecting over the years including stuff from when the kids were born and boxed them up. It turns out DH 'thought' it was rubbish and has took it all to the tip. I've got nothing
I feel so upset and utterly angry as his thoughtless stupidity has caused me upset and will cost money to replace and this is not the first time it's happened with precious or valuable stuff.
He just doesn't get why I'm so upset and is trying to blame me by saying well I thought you were putting it up the loft

Did he find the cheese?

He must have known what was in the box. When you go to the tip they ask what you have so it can be sorted.
What did he think it was?

My ex did this, but on purpose, he thought he'd get new tree and decorations so threw all the old ones out,

I had a bauble that recorded messages on, and I had manages to capture ds1 first proper laugh on it.

It still makes me sad 9 years on. What made me worse that he couldn't understand why I was upset and had a go at me for being so.

Ynbu

I would be furious op but I have to laugh at all the ltb comments...er really? If this Iis ongoing behaviour and abuse then maybe. might be a red flag but as a one off I wouldnt be signing the divorce papers. Standard mn response...ltb!

My DP would do that but he's a neat freak. No malice intended and he'd make a joke - then cough up for a new tree. I've only seen one baby picture of him, the others were all stored with his mums christmas decs which she herself offloaded to the tip years ago. She's a neat freak too

Cheese in a boot is wet. Not at all equivalent to what he has done to you and if you do it you lose all justified anger and upset.

I would at least be hiding his golf clubs and telling him you have no idea where they are if he asks. Tell him you did a tip run so maybe...

What sort of 'tip' do you have, OP? If you are in the UK they are usually very tightly regulated by the local waste disposal authority. You can't just sling boxes full of stuff away without opening them.

YANBU. I'd be utterly furious too - gutted that he'd done it, but furious that he didn't give a shit about it. I'd take his golf clubs to the tip without hesitation - not as in 'an eye for an eye' but just so he knows how he's made you feel. The cheesy boot did make me actually lol, but it's not going to show him how upset you are is it?

LineRunner - I live in the UK and at all 3 of our local dumps you can chuck in boxes/bags without anyone checking them. That is two different authorities as well. Not all of them are tightly regulated.

Does he go to the tip a lot? Does he think any box on the floor is rubbish?
The lack of communication would bother me, my DH wouldn't go to the tip through choice ever I don't think, and certainly not more than twice a year.

Does he do other thoughtless things?

I would be gutted if our Xmas stuff went to the tip - not the loss of things but the lack of him bothering to even ask. It sounds weird - does he have a compulsion to throw things out - things that are not his?????

revenge is a dish best served cold...

if he is so keen to go to the tip with boxes then box up something of his and just wait it out.

golf clubs would be difficult, but all of his shirts or shoes maybe??

Tit for tat may be childish but sometimes it really is the only way. To my shame, I sometimes do tit for tat with dh. It is a last ditch attempt to get him to actually stop doing some arsehole type thing.