To be upset that DP has told people that I am pregnant?

[ThereIsACarInTheKitchen]

I have recently found out that I am pregnant but due to a lot of reasons I am not sure that I am going to continue with the pregnancy. I was debating whether I should tell DP or not as he is not the most understanding of people and I was afraid in case he might try and pressurise me into a decision. In the end though I told him but I also explained that I wasn't sure that I wanted to continue with it and because of this I made it clear that I didn't want anyone else to know. That was on Sunday.

Fast forward ahead to today and I was on my break at work. A friend sent me a text just with the word "congrats!" and when I replied asking her what she meant she sent a text back saying "on your pregnancy of course!".

I did confront DP as soon as he got in and he confessed that it had been him who had told her and that he "might" have told some other people.

He doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks I'm overreacting but I didn't want anyone to know and he knew that. He seems to think that if people know then I will change my mind and I will continue with the pregnancy.

I am just so upset and pissed off and I have had a cry. I just don't know what to do now and feel like I can't trust him with anything. He's done this on purpose, I know he has and has put me in an awkward situation. Now people know that I am pregnant (and this friend probably will have told other people as well) I am not going to be able to terminate as everyone will bloody know about it!

Sorry if I am rambling but I am just so upset right now.

Borrowed so men should be able to just have as many children as they like and not pay.

You and user both seem to misogynistic thickos.

Seriously though I told him because I needed some support and I honestly believed that he would step up and start taking some responsibility and be there for me. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and I thought he would change.

However looking back I can see that he was controlling and emotionally abusive towards me throughout our relationship.

I'm not seeing how I was the cruel one. He was the one who constantly put me down throughout our relationship, called me names and would never miss an opportunity to put me down.

He was the one who threatened me and backed me into a corner and wouldn't let me go until I'd promised I was only going to work and nowhere else.

But I'm the cruel one?

Okay then.

But why are we even talking about him?

That loser is out of my life now.

I'm glad things worked out for you OP and that your in a better place with a good guy.

I'm posting having only read page 1 - so I apologise and will RTFT, but I wanted to post my immediate gut reaction, which was

This is horrendous, you must consider whether your relationship has a future.

It is abuse or an attempt to abuse.

Oh, Zombie Thread, Jeez, that'll teach me.

Glad it worked out for you Virgin

No two ways about it, OP, he's a piece of shit.

At first he attempted to manoeuvre you into keeping the baby, now he's actively threatening you.

Whatever you decide, cut the fucker loose. He is giving you a remarkably vibrant and vivid picture of exactly the sort of person he is - you need to take a good look at it.

And Acquired, nothing you are saying makes one iota of sense. Legally, the father of the foetus/baby has no say - just as other family members, friends etc have no say, because if the mother says she wants to terminate and the other party says they want the mother to keep it, what happens then? They can't BOTH have their desired outcome, by definition. So logically (and legally) the only "opinion" that carries any weight is the mother's.

Pregnancy is exhausting, life-changing and carries with it the significant risk of permanent bodily changes and in some cases bodily damage. Nobody is obligated to act as an incubator just because somebody else wants a foetus to turn into a baby. So no - whilst any pregnant woman of course has every right to discuss the matter with a partner and ask for input if she feels she wants or needs it to come to a decision - the father has no say. And that is codified in law.

Fuck, didn't see it was a zombie.

Never mind - who's to say these comments might not be of use to someone in a similar predicament.

Zombie thread but glad op was ok after it all

And yes, good for you OP!

He's a fucking abusive prick I would be dumping his ass for going against your wishes and him telling people doesn't affect your choices its your body and it's completely up to you what you decide to do its not up to your cunt of a DP.

Sorry just realised this is a zombie thread. Why do people rake these old threads back up.

Peanut. Because they're tears.

However - AVirgin it's lovely to get an update (I was on your original thread under another name). I'm glad you ditched the twat & did wgat was right for you. I hope things work out with the new bloke 💐

👻👻👻👻👻👻。👹👹。ZOMBIE THREAD (with update)。👹👹。👻👻👻👻👻👻。

what a jerk!

opps, didn't RTFT

ooops. I got duped too

What's that coming over the hill ..,,,,
Is it a zombie .... yep