To be upset that DP has told people that I am pregnant?

[ThereIsACarInTheKitchen]

I have recently found out that I am pregnant but due to a lot of reasons I am not sure that I am going to continue with the pregnancy. I was debating whether I should tell DP or not as he is not the most understanding of people and I was afraid in case he might try and pressurise me into a decision. In the end though I told him but I also explained that I wasn't sure that I wanted to continue with it and because of this I made it clear that I didn't want anyone else to know. That was on Sunday.

Fast forward ahead to today and I was on my break at work. A friend sent me a text just with the word "congrats!" and when I replied asking her what she meant she sent a text back saying "on your pregnancy of course!".

I did confront DP as soon as he got in and he confessed that it had been him who had told her and that he "might" have told some other people.

He doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks I'm overreacting but I didn't want anyone to know and he knew that. He seems to think that if people know then I will change my mind and I will continue with the pregnancy.

I am just so upset and pissed off and I have had a cry. I just don't know what to do now and feel like I can't trust him with anything. He's done this on purpose, I know he has and has put me in an awkward situation. Now people know that I am pregnant (and this friend probably will have told other people as well) I am not going to be able to terminate as everyone will bloody know about it!

Sorry if I am rambling but I am just so upset right now.

There is no zombie warning after a few other posts have been added, its hard to tell then.

If you'd read the full thread you'd have seen it was an old thread reanimated for malicious purposes.

So shoot me.
Why not have a go at the person who dug it up instead of someone who just happened to post on an active thread with no zombie warning?

If you'd bothered to read the thread user you'd have seen I did have a go at the person who reanimated ggecthread, reported them and got them banned.

Posting isn't compulsory. You have no idea what's changed if you don't read the thread before you add your own two cents.

I was completely when I saw this thread pop up on the top of AIBU. I thought I was in a time warp for a second and then I realised it had been bumped up by (going by the responses) a troll.

Anyway I can't be arsed to name change back to my old ThereIsACarInTheKitchen name just for this thread but I'm the OP .

As this thread is already bumped back up I thought I'd give a little update.

I did indeed ditch the boyfriend and with the exception of him threatening me at various points throughout 2015, I have managed to keep him out of my life. I ignored everyone else and did what I wanted to do and terminated the pregnancy.

Right now I am in a relationship with a much nicer man and things are going fine but right now it's still early days.

I didn't see the posts that were deleted but I guess they weren't very pleasant.

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Forgot to say that when people asked me about the baby I told them to mind their own business that I wasn't pregnant anymore and people didn't question any further.

for you OP. So glad you are in a better place now.

Glad life is working out for you now OP.
Good luck

Glad to hear that things are going well OP, and I think you're well shot of your ex. Thanks for updating

I'm glad everything is going well for you

I'm so glad you are in a better place OP. Wishing you lots of love and happiness xxxx

Ok I understand that it is a woman's body and her choice and I back that 100%, what I'd like to know is when a guy doesn't want a child and the woman does he obviously can't force her to abort so why can she force him to pay for a child he didn't want? Both my question and the op situation would be an accidental pregnancy so any answers?

He had the opportunity not to get her pregnant in the first place borrowed.

borrowed he should use a condom or have the snip. Not rocket science really.

But a woman can also protect or get the guy to use a condom and if he doesn't don't have sex. Anyway just seen this is an old thread so pointless anyway.

I have already said that I was on the pill but it failed.

say you miscarried early and you're fine and don't want to discuss.

Glad to read your update, op

Folks, the op updated, ok ?

Good for you. I am glad you ditched the loser

Oh, just do one Borrowed. People like you are extremely dull.

The only thing that I struggle with regarding this thread, is if the OP wasn't sure if she wanted the baby, why tell the partner? If I wasn't sure I wanted to keep the baby, I would not even tell my HUSBAND, and we have been married over 20 years.

To tell him you're pregnant and then say that you don't want it anyway and you're having an abortion is cruel IMO.

Struggling to fathom why the OP's partner got such vicious remarks from many posters on here. Yeah he shouldn't have told people when she said not to, but why did she tell him she was pregnant?

Just my twopennyworth. Glad you are in a better place now OP.

why tell the partner?

Because obviously I'm stupid.

There. Satisfied?

You can do one too, user

What is wrong with people that they come onto a zombie thread and pontificate about stuff that is already resolved

They must be a little bit thick.