To Expect a Vegetarian Option at Christmas Lunch?

[HedgePony]

I am a vegetarian but for the last two Christmasses at my MiL's house, there has been nothing for me to eat at Christmas lunch! Literally all I can have is the peas! (I can't eat the potatoes as they are cooked in the goose fat and I can't eat the stuffing as it is cooked inside the goose.)

Then, for supper, there is only scraps - i.e. whatever is leftover from lunch and whatever else might be in the fridge. For everyone else this means cold goose or turkey, cold ham, cold pigs in blankets, etc. For me, this means wilted old salad and a wedge of cheese if I am lucky.

The first year, I thought it must have been an oversight (although I was upset about it as I had only had DD a few weeks before and was breastfeeding so I needed to eat). But when it happened again the next year, I was actually really upset.

I don't get on with MiL very well and she is quite a passive-aggressive person. So I sort of think maybe she is doing it on purpose. (Money is absolutely no object for her and I don't think it's that she doesn't have time either - she pretty much does the minimum for Christmas lunch/buys ready made stuff.)

I have on occasions when staying there taken veggie tarts, etc with me, but I am not sure if I should do this (as a host, I would be embarrassed if a guest felt they had to bring their own food!).

I should probs help more in the kitchen tbh but then I am busy looking after DD and I do help a bit.

Am I being unreasonable?!

[Normanpriceisnotarolemodel]

HedgePony,
This is exactly the sort of thing my MiL would do deliberately. Passive aggressive nastiness. Not quite the same thing, but I made a one off comment about not liking food from Iceland as all I can taste is the preservatives. Guess what she serves every time we visit.

[LarrytheCucumber]

Vegetarianism is hardly a new concept. My 97 year old DF was brought up as a vegetarian after his parents 'converted' before the first world war.

[Chocolateteacake]

My mum (born early 1930s) had a teacher at primary school who was a vegetarian, so not a new thing at all. The vegetarian society was founded in 1847!

[anonacfr]

I'm so curious about this.

[Angelwings11]

Me too?! Maybe 'they' are still eating. Hopefully, OP was fed more than peas.

[ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK]

Hope you ended up with a nice dinner op!

Happy christmas

[Xmas2014SantaA1434]

[DoItTooJulia]

I'm in for an update too!

[Hissy]

o hope to god that the OP made herself a packed lunch and produced it from her handbag and said something along the lines of "seeing as you went to so much trouble for the last couple of yours, wouldn't dream of putting you out for a third year in a row'

the old bag, hope she gest Norovirus for christmas.

seriously love, you must talk to your H about this

[pinkyredrose]

Happy Christmas y'all!

[anonacfr]

Happy Christmas

[TooExtraImmatureCheddar]

I just read 24 pages of this and there's no final answer? Grr. Please, OP, come back and tell us what happened!

[Imwoodword]

Yes, would like to know what happened after RTFT, all of it!

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Another one who wants to find out what happened

[M00nUnit]

I've logged on to Mumsnet just to find out whether the OP got any dinner. So... did you? P.S. Merry Christmas everybody!

[FryOneFatManic]

I saw this pop up and came to see what the OP was offered for lunch. I'd love to know.

[KatieKaye]

Was it peas for dinner again"

[deedeelondon]

Unforgivable behaviour on MIL 's part. The first rule of hosting any kind of dinner is to make sure that all your guests have something to eat! It's the simplest thing in the world to buy something for a vegetarian - it doesn't need to be homemade. Horrible manners, horrible MIL. It's deliberately hurtful, and I would never go there again. Your husband should have said something by now - he hasn't so you should take matters into your own hands and insist on Christmas at your own house in future. Or invite her to you next year and make the whole meal vegetarian! see how she likes that

[anonacfr]

Still waiting for an update. Maybe OP has forgotten about her thread.

[StackladysMorphicResonator]

Come bacl, OP, come back! We need to know what you were fed!!

[HappyYoni]

So...? How was it?

[Italiangreyhound]

Hi HedgePony, what did you get this year to eat?

[nickeljrismybabesitter]

You've got to be kidding!
I've just read 598 posts and I still don't know if the mil fed the pescetarian?!

[LittleBearPad]

I wondered what happened when picking up a bowl of peas and carrots yesterday. Tell us Op

[BumWad]

Somebody should send OP a PM...