To leave ds to scream in his cot tonight...

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because I can't manage to deal with him tonight.

He's 2+4. EVERY NIGHT of his life he's screamed endlessly at bedtime. We tried going to him, lying down with him in the dark, cosleeping singing to him, letting him come downstairs, cuddling him, ignoring him, sitting holding his hand, seen GP and had various cchecks carried out to make sure he's not in some kind of pain...

but still he screams endlessly "MAMA,MAMA, MAMA, MAMA, MAMA...

Over and over again.

We finally get him off to sleep about an hour - two hours after putting him to bed (I say we its normally me as dp works away Monday to Thursday and someetimes longer).

He then wakes at 3am and it all happens again until about 4.30-5am.

Its affecting my mental health. I keep losing my temper, keep bursting into tears for no reason, I can't function properly at work and I'm facing a disciplinary for mistakes, I feel like everyone hates me and I wouldn't blame them

I've not had a full nights sleep since 3 months before he was born.

I can 't do it any more. I just can't do it....

AIBU to sleep in teh spare room with a pillow over my head and let him scream?

You'll all flame me I know you'll flame me and I deserve it.

He's still screaming I put him to bed at 8pm and I've already been in and given him 2 X10 minute cuddles

Still cheering you on from the sidelines op.
My sleep refuser is now a hairy arsed 20 yr old, but I can remember the bone grinding tiredness as if it was yesterday.
Fingers crossed for tonight.

Wow Op is he still sleeping? That is brilliant! Go you! Fingers crossed he stays sleeping for you.

Well done OP- keep us posted, fingers crossed you have a good night. So glad to hear nursery have cut his nap right back, hopefully he will manage to get into a better routine of sleeping well at night and so not need to compensate in the daytime.

I fundamentally think you are doing the right thing here. A long term sleep deprived child (which is surely what he has got to have been if he spent all that time screaming) is in my opinion not going to be a happy/content child.

Glad it's working!!

It's funny, but I've read all tonight's posts as whispered, if that makes sense?!

Hope it went ok tonight lists.

I hope all is still good op
Even if he sneeks into your bed at some point during the night you've made s huge step in the right direction and you'll all feelso much better
Well done, it can't have been easy

Fingers crossed op

Well done OP!

I hope you got a nights nights sleep and don't need the so much today!

how did it go OP?

He slept until midnight when he was woken by having a sudden spluttery coughing fit in his sleep hope he's not coming down with something. Understandably he was upset.

I took him into bed with me where he cuddled down and except for kicking the duvet off at 3am (I woke up freezing) he stayed asleep. I moved him back into cot at 5.30am and spent the half hour before the alarm went off savouring my peaceful evening and relatively peaceful sleep.

He remembered the phone promise though - as soon as we got on the bus he said "phone mummy me good". Bribery is a wonderful thing.

(For parents of older children who wake them up too early you can try what we did with dd - 20p for every morning we don't see her before 7.15am. Cost us £1.40 a week but oh how cheap it was at the price.

Well done lists, you are well on the way to blissful evenings to yourself and 8 hrs a night. Keep strong.

What an improvement! Blooming well done.

Nursery just phoned - he's refusing to wake up from his nap. Oh dear :(

Can't they just get him up and start playing with him!

It might not make any difference, don't panic! Just repeat the bribery, it obviously made an impact on him if he reminded you.

You have my heartfelt sympathy, we had similar with both of ours at that age and it was horrible. Once it was sorted it was great though, all four of us were in far better shape emotionally once we started having uninterrupted nights.

Vijac he jsut kept going back to sleep - they showed me a photo of him fast asleep sitting up against the wall with a pile of bricks in his lap! Apparently they persuaded him to wake up in the end by telling him he could feed the rabbit. He loves the nursery rabbit

Do you think he could be scared of the dark? My 3 year old is and we have to leave the curtain open slightly so he gets a square of 'magic moon light' on the wall. Have you considered a night light? I've just bought the grow clock thing that I've read about on here and a ladybird night light but I haven't tried either yet as they are Christmas presents.

Not read the 14pages so sorry if repeat.

What time does he go to bed. If my 2yr old isn't asleep by 6.30 she's a nightmare. Also a nightmare if she naps past 2 or has no nap.

Have you tried eliminating a diary/wheat.

Toddler calm cd meant to be good. Also have you tried audio books/stories?

If he's struggling to wake up from his nap, then tell them to put him down 30 mins later and give him something active to do when they wake him and hour later.

I like that the rabbit was the thing that finally woke him up. Hope it goes well tonight.

Good luck tonight op. I have to shove my oar in and say- leave him in the cot! You need your sleep. Sorry if thats not helpful but the only way my ds learnt to sleep through on his own was by me completely stopping taking him to bed.

Just checking in to say good luck tonight

I put him down 10 minutes ago. I dared to pour myself a glass of wine.

So far so good.

Sangfrude I know really that I need to stop letting him in bed but the way I am at the moment I just can't function at 3am so go immediately for the easy option. I need DP with me for a few days in a row before I deal with the middle of the night situation - so it may have to waait until he's home over Christmas

Fingers crossed for you OP! Glad last night was good.