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To not have allowed a workman to use my loo?

273 replies

Poppyhat · 12/11/2014 14:40

Sorry ,I know this has been asked before but I've forgotten what the answers were .
A rep for a company was here measuring up in the living room , took about 10 mns .
He then asked if it would be ok if he used the loo.
I said sorry but there was a load of kids upstairs playing so I would have to say no .
I am not normally so rude ,but I just wasn't comfortable with him going upstairs when all the kids were there .wibu?

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Pipbin · 12/11/2014 21:21

Doesn't toilet brush debate usually follow a thread like this

Yes, because it will turn out that the person who complains about some nasty workman leaving skid marks has no toilet brush. There then follows a discussion about how it is possible to remove skid marks without a toilet brush.

AyMamita · 12/11/2014 22:22

YWBU, rude and snotty. Also an idiot. You left 3 small children upstairs on their own? The chances of one of them hurting themself are so much higher than the chance of the poor workman having a fiddle with them in the 2 minutes he was up there.

claraschu · 12/11/2014 22:29

If you had a doctor making a house call, could he use the loo? What about a priest performing last rites (statistically more likely that a living-room-measurer to molest children).

DixieTreats · 12/11/2014 22:32

My ex fb once went absolutely mad (literally furious) because a workman did a poo in his toilet and didn't clean it. The man had gone by the time he noticed but he ranted and raved about how disgusting it was and said if he'd still been around when he noticed he would have dragged the man back upstairs to clean it ShockShockShock

Loletta · 12/11/2014 22:45

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Mehitabel6 · 12/11/2014 23:10

BunnyMama I really don't think you could phone in and say ' nothing I could put my finger on'- you can't phone in unless you can.
I think that nice people treat others as they would like to be treated- otherwise they are not nice people.
It is like the saying going around on the Internet- that you can judge a man not by how he treats his friends, but by how he treats a waiter. An easy way to tell if a person is pleasant or unpleasant.

ImTheOneThatKnocks · 12/11/2014 23:21

I always used to answer these threads with a yabu as I always was happy for anyone to use my loo, I have gone out my way to invite the council workman who were digging up our pavements to use my loo if they wanted, but a few weeks ago I had a delivery man call who I simply didn't like. Confused.
He had to carry some furniture upstairs (as part of the delivery) and there was something about him that made me feel uncomfortable. I didn't think he was about to attack me or anything like that but I just didn't like him.
Being a faithful MN'ers it crossed my mind while he was there that I wouldn't want him to use my loo.

I have therefore changed my responses to these threads to YANBU

(Phew, that was long)

Tobyjugg · 12/11/2014 23:23

YABU. If you didn't trust him, why let him in at all? And I bet there was x% added to his bill because of it.

Aussiebloke · 12/11/2014 23:50

It is perfectly reasonable for a workman to want to use the lavatory. I think its quite unreasonable to deny him unless he had mucky boots or clothing.

SoonToBeSix · 12/11/2014 23:54

Yabvu , not only were you rude not letting him use the toilet you also insinuated he was a peadophile. Poor guy.

Silverdaisy · 12/11/2014 23:56

Yabu. Sorry but treat others as you would like to be treated Yourself (and widen that thought to how you would like loved ones to be treated).

Excluding those who have mental health issues - but that wasn't the basis for the original post.

Coolas · 13/11/2014 00:00

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Icimoi · 13/11/2014 00:02

OP, if people were wrong in assuming you thought he might abuse the children, why on Earth did you say you were uncomfortable because there were children playing there? And why exactly did you feel unable to follow him? So far, your behaviour is totally baffling.

mymatemax · 13/11/2014 00:03

just weird.
When you need to go you need to go.

You could've said "I'll show you were it is"& gone upstairs with him.

Poor bloke, I hope he adds the price of a porta loo on whatever he is quoting you for

Coolas · 13/11/2014 00:03

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WafflerCumIroner · 13/11/2014 00:09

A bit of both.

I think refusing is fine for whatever reason, but if you must do so there are marginally less... hostile ways of doing it than implying he looks a bit molestery. Even if he does.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/11/2014 00:11

If you weren't comfortable with him going up the stairs when the children were up there then why did you have him in the house at all.
If he was spend hours working on your house what was supposed to do when nature called.
YWBU. You could have shouted the children down.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/11/2014 00:12

Also to be honest. I'll be very surprised if he comes back. I wouldn't blame him if he didn't

mymatemax · 13/11/2014 00:17

quote for poopyhat

Lovely blinds x2 £100
Blind fittings £30
CRB checks for fitter £30
Porta loo hire £7

NotTheKitchenAgainPlease · 13/11/2014 00:17

That was really rude OP. Extremely bad manners. Poor guy.

Coolas · 13/11/2014 00:24

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Idontseeanysontarans · 13/11/2014 01:23

I once let the ocado man use my loo while my DD's were upstairs, I assume that's ok?
Seriously, all you needed to do was show him upstairs and stay there being busy, how hard is it to actually be nice to people?
YABU. And weird.

Redglitter · 13/11/2014 02:30

My local DPD driver often asks to use my loo. So much so I've got into the habit of making sure it's clean and tidy if I'm expecting a delivery. He's a frequent visitor which is an indication of my shopping habits!! There's no where near here with public loos so since we're pretty much on first name terms he knows he's safe to ask. wouldn't occur to me to say no. The poor guys in a van for hours at a time he's kind of limited for options

MokunMokun · 13/11/2014 03:26

I suspect the OP was more concerned that the kids might have got a fright if a strange man suddenly appeared near their bedroom. Not that he was a peadophile but I would get a fright if I was doing stuff upstairs and a strange man appeared out of nowhere, so perhaps kids might feel the same way.

Just playing devil's advocate really.

wobblyweebles · 13/11/2014 03:31

Yeah... that's not what the OP meant though is it?