To not have allowed a workman to use my loo?

[Poppyhat]

Sorry ,I know this has been asked before but I've forgotten what the answers were .
A rep for a company was here measuring up in the living room , took about 10 mns .
He then asked if it would be ok if he used the loo.
I said sorry but there was a load of kids upstairs playing so I would have to say no .
I am not normally so rude ,but I just wasn't comfortable with him going upstairs when all the kids were there .wibu?

I can never understand people who are so difficult and unfeeling.
I wish that I could come across them when they are desperate for a loo and deny them access!

but I just wasn't comfortable with him going upstairs when all the kids were there

The mind boggles! What do you imagine he was going to do?

For me, it would have depended on the vibe. If they gave off a creepy vibe, or a shifty vibe, then I would say no (this would be very rare though, most people are fine). I have no issue with workmen using the toilet at all, so mostly I would say yes, but in this particular scenario I'd say "I'll show you where it is", then hang around upstairs chatting to the children in their room (inconspicuously, such as asking what they want for dinner etc) until he came out.

I don't think someone who goes around people's houses measuring up would last long in the job if they gave out 'creepy or shifty' vibes!!

YABU.
Politeness and consideration is hugely underrated.
If I were him I would have been slightly embarrassed, not nice of you at all.

Yabu. Poor bloke!!! What do you think he was going to do upstairs?? So rude.

I don't think you were unreasonable to not let him use your toilet. I would have and have done so but its your house, your rules.

However by telling him it was because the children upstairs suggests that he would have harmed them and this is rude and unnecessary. Not every man is a risk to children and you were wrong to suggest he was.

I think YABU... I would have said yes and I would have said to him to follow me up so I could check what state the bathroom was in before he used it because we all know kids can make mess in there (I always check the bathroom before a visitor goes to use it) and then I would have popped in to look at the kids... Who were in a lot more danger left playing upstairs than the man nipping to do a friggin pee!

Mehitabel how would you know how long the person had been in the job? Maybe it would be their months trial. What if (as is likely) nobody ever rang the person's manager to say "nothing I could put my finger on specifically, but I found your rep a bit shifty?"

You were more than rude, you were accusatory. Disgusting behaviour.

YABU. I can't believe you refused someone using your toilet because you had kids upstairs. Not only using this as the reason but TELLING him that, makes you incredibly paranoid and very daft.

That's actually the rudest, most offensive thing that I've ever heard of anyone saying to someone in their house - even on MN, the bastion of rudeness. You implied that he was some sort of paedo who couldn't be trusted to go upstairs where there were children. Jesus!

'Bastion of rudeness'

Bastion of rudeness is one of the best things I've heard on here

Just awful. Whwt on earth was he supposed to think you meant? "No, you can't use my loo because I think you might be a paedophile" that is the only possible interpretation- sorry.

In one fell swoop you denied him the chance to go to go to the toilet, and inferred that he was a paedophile.

Whilst I don't like workmen using my toilet, simply because it is a bit gross for strangers to use something that you and your family out their bare bottoms! Your erasing as to why he couldn't was very very very rude.

I don't mind if it is someone workng in the house- like a decorator there all day. But once a gas reader asked to use the loo and left it filthy- shit streaked and did not wash his hands. I was almost sick. I would say no to a visitor type workman now.

Why could you not go upstairs to check on the children if you weren't happy about him being up there with them? Maybe the OP thought it would be rude to follow him up the stairs?

'Yes of course. Follow me, i'll show you where it is...I need to pop upstairs to check on the kids anyway'.

Not hard. Yes YABU op. And precious, rude and mean. IMO.

Far better than the men working next door who have been peeing in the garden!! Not what I want to see outside my window first thing in the morning!

When I graduate as a midwife I will be doing lots of home visits, and many women offer you tea of coffee... I certainly hope they are not like you, OP, otherwise I will have to wear nappies!

You are being PFT (precious first toilet).

This is bullshit! I can't believe the OP is for real. I hope she's not, anyway.

YANBU. I had a plumber use our loo twice during a short visit to fix the heating here this week. He didn't even flush the second time - it was disgusting. He is a plumber FFS - surely he knows how they work.

Doesn't toilet brush debate usually follow a thread like this

As always on these threads I am baffled by how uptight someone can be about their toilet, and how completely lacking in empathy they can be when it comes to other people's needs.