To not have allowed a workman to use my loo?

[Poppyhat]

Sorry ,I know this has been asked before but I've forgotten what the answers were .
A rep for a company was here measuring up in the living room , took about 10 mns .
He then asked if it would be ok if he used the loo.
I said sorry but there was a load of kids upstairs playing so I would have to say no .
I am not normally so rude ,but I just wasn't comfortable with him going upstairs when all the kids were there .wibu?

I don't understand why you didn't just say yes then do upstairs saying 'just going to check on the kids then while we have a minute'?

I'd probably have wanted to do that if I'd left 3 kids under four for more than 90 seconds anyway!!

Why could you not follow him upstairs? In my house that would be necessary to avoid him being interrogated on what he was doing, but seeing as you appear to be worried about him behaving inappropriately then I can't see why you wouldn't just go up with him?

Of course you could have gone upstairs with him - you had kids under 4, you could easily have gone in to chat to them and check on the while he was in the loo.

Can't deny somebody using the toilet.. maybe you'll be on the receiving end of that some day OP and maybe it's because you can't be trusted around kids to really make your day

You can say no to whomever for whatever reason. It's your house.

If you just didn't want him using your loo then I'd've supported your decision.

But you've basically accused him of being a danger to the children! How awful for him. No wonder he looked a bit petulant. Jeez.

His bowel and bladder are not your problem. He was there 10 mins. He can get in his car and find another place to do his business.

stilton why on Earth did you not immediately kick that person out of your house and report him to the company?

I haven't suggested he was any 'type ' of man .
And I do normally allow workmen to use the loo.
But I didn't want a strange man upstairs in my house ,when the kids were playing upstairs .
Is that really so weird?
I didn't think it was .
And offended,?embarrassed ? by my refusal ,I don't see why .

YANBU. I once let a workman use my toilet and he left it shitty Im sure your workman could hold on till he got back to work or found a public toilet.

You leave 3 children under 4 unsupervised?? Are they your children? What do you think the workman was going to do? Can't be any worse than leaving them unattended for ages!!

The children are at more risk from their relatives than from the workman.

Not just unreasonable but idiotic too

My upstairs bathroom is only really used by dd, so is consequently an absolute tip most of the time. I'd be too embarrassed to let him upstairs. Thankfully, I have a downstairs loo that I am happy to share around. Clearly the answer is to move to a house with a downstairs loo. Or hire a portaloo.

Yanbu. Your house, you get to say no to anyone for any reason. He was only there 10 minutes, he couldn't have been that desperate that he couldn't wait until he got back to where ever he worked and used that toilet or popped in to a starbucks or something.

Having been sexually assaulted in my own home by a workman who wanted to use the bathroom I always say no, especially if I am alone. I don't care if it's considered rude.

Bizarre.

The poor man needed a wee.

YWBU.

YABVU

It's not a case of it being a 'public' toilet, as one poster said upthread as it's someone who's round your house for a specific reason not just some random person who knocked on the door.

DH is a 'workman' of the builder variety and some days he can be hours without being near a toilet so can't be blamed for asking when is does have to call at someone's house.

Your toilet, your rules of course but to suggest that a 'workman' couldn't use your toilet because, shock horror, you had some precious little darling children in the house who the workman might have abducted or molested there and then is fucking ridiculous. Surely if you suspected this man of being some kind of predator then why did you let him in?

Hopefully someone will be along shortly to hand you a fucking grip.

Couldn’t you just have waited until you heard him reach the top of the stairs then gone up to ‘sort some laundry’, keeping the door open so you can hear what’s happening on the landing?

I can understand your reluctance, but honestly, you need to catch yourself on and realise that not every man is out to steal your children.

Well you pretty much told him you considered him too much of a risk to the children to let him use the loo.

You seriously can't see why he'd be taken aback?

Some people are weirdly territorial of their toilet. Workman shit is the same as your shit.

Had he been a woman would you have let "her" use the loo?

I've never read a real 'workman in my toilet' thread before. I thought it was an urban myth.

Op, you said to him that he couldn't go upstairs because there was a load of young children up there. You didn't just say, no sorry.
What did you think he would assume from your words?
I think you were being unreasonable, given your reasoning.

sorry op you sounded even odder

You were astonishingly rude and the reason you gave him was awful.

Do people have no manners?

You were very rude, and came across as more than a little mad. You essentially told him to his face that you thought there was a real risk of him abusing the children if he went onto the same floor of the house as them, even with you there.

I thought you were going to say that you didn't let the man digging up your garden on a rainy afternoon up the carpeted stairs to your loo, which would be fair enough, not a guy in indoor, presumably clothing and footwear measuring up your carpets.

If you had a bad feeling about it, go with that. Something gave you that for a reason. Don't feel guilty about it. It's your home.

honestly - no joke. He wasn't from a company, think he is a one man sort of thing. My mum arranged it as he had cleaned her carpets (not a euphemism). He was shockingly rude! I had to leave the house too so God knows what he did while i was gone id that's what he did when I was there. I generally get treated like that by work men - can be very rude to me. I wonder if it's my age and my hair colour sometimes.

So what is the end of the sentence

'I didn't want him going upstairs while three small children were playing because....."