To not have allowed a workman to use my loo?

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Sorry ,I know this has been asked before but I've forgotten what the answers were .
A rep for a company was here measuring up in the living room , took about 10 mns .
He then asked if it would be ok if he used the loo.
I said sorry but there was a load of kids upstairs playing so I would have to say no .
I am not normally so rude ,but I just wasn't comfortable with him going upstairs when all the kids were there .wibu?

Blueberry, for the same reason anyone does. Because they are expecting to be agreed with

At least he's got some good fodder for the pub tonight...he will forever be known as the bloke who wasn't allowed to have a wee because that would involve him going near children.

There's lots of weirdness about toilets in general on MN, all that bleaching and fear of toilet brushes, and hang-ups about sharing with visitors etc. No-one would think that we only used the toilet to deposit bodily waste, not eat your dinner off.

Smh never understand why some folk ask if they're being unreasonable when they're so certain they're not and won't accept anyone else telling them they are. Attention seeking is what that normally is called btw

So you only allow people to the loo once you have built a rapport with them?

OMG, I'm dying here.

I wonder why you asked if YWBU though.

prettypictures Sometimes I honestly think AIBU needs to be renamed 'I did this and it was right and fuck off'.

Martinisdry you are probably right ,that would have been a better way of wording my Aibu.
With regards to Guessing and making assumptions about the state of someone's health ,and giving reason as to why a person might need to use the toilet . If we use that argument ,then we could use all sorts of assumptions about people when making a point ,and that's not a wise thing to do .

potato yup!!

It interesting that OP has not explained further about the unattended children or what she thought the chap would do to them

I know, cheesepuff. I find it bonkers.

Luckily every single one of my clients has been wonderful - letting me use their family bathroom, making me hot drinks and generally treating me like a decent person and their equal.

FWIW I've let every single person who's ever worked on this house use the loo, and when I'm out I give them the key so they can let themselves in and use the facilities/make a cup of tea. It's the way I'd like to be treated myself. Has anything been stolen? No. Have they rummaged through my underwear drawer? No. Have they done smelly shits in my loo? Once or twice yes, but THAT'S WHAT LOOS ARE FOR. My poo smells too, don't know about anyone else.

Nope, still rude and unreasonable.

Yep I'm just still really curious because apparently everyone's jumped to the conclusion that the OP was implying that the guy would mess with the children, but I cannot for the life of me imagine what else she could possibly have been implying.

Completely U not to let someone use a loo (*barring MH issues/mitigating circumstances etc)

But not U so much as utterly bonkers to tell someone to their face that the reason they can't use the loo is that they'll be alone with children.

"I just wasn't comfortable with him going upstairs where the kids were playing ( there were 3 all aged under 4) and I could hardly follow him upstairs to supervise"

I want to know why the young children were upstairs alone when the OP was unable to go up the stairs herself?

YABVVU poor bloke, we have all been caught short at some point. No wonder he gave you a 'petulant' look if you denied him the use of your loo and basically accused him of being a paedophile/abuser/abductor. What would you have said if it was a woman?

I'm still wondering why you can't see that you basically told the workman you thought he was a paedophile

I hope you feel ashamed of yourself. You as good as told him he was a child molester. I hope your kids never need a loo in an emergency.

Yup.
YWB extremely U.
As has already been said, let's hope you never need a toilet when you are out and about away from your home.

You were extremely rude and not to mention precious over 'the children'.
What an awful person you are.
You forget that you have kids yourself and one day people might be just as rude to them.

He needed the loo, for goodness sake, why force them man to hold it in? Accompany him upstairs and stay with the children whilst he pees and accompany him back down. You don't even have to make it obvious you're accompanying him. Say 'sure I'm just going to check my kids aren't causing mayhem, it's up here, follow me'. To deprive anyone if using the toilet is very rude in my opinion.

That's totally bizarre- poor chap's got to go some time. What did you think he was going to do???

And if you couldn't go upstairs with him then what were such small children upstairs on their own for?

I love you pagwatch. You always speak such sense. That's all.

Why could you not go upstairs to check on the children if you weren't happy about him being up there with them?

I think you were unreasonable but you don't think you were.

Why could you not go upstairs to check on the children if you weren't happy about him being up there with them?
Maybe the OP thought it would be rude to follow him up the stairs?
..... oh!

What do you think he was going to do with the children? Steal them

YABVU, he asked to use the toilet not for access to your safety deposit box. Don't understand the angst.