To not have allowed a workman to use my loo?

[Poppyhat]

Sorry ,I know this has been asked before but I've forgotten what the answers were .
A rep for a company was here measuring up in the living room , took about 10 mns .
He then asked if it would be ok if he used the loo.
I said sorry but there was a load of kids upstairs playing so I would have to say no .
I am not normally so rude ,but I just wasn't comfortable with him going upstairs when all the kids were there .wibu?

Well, I don't let people outside family use our loo, and no, we have no guests over.

I don't like other people using my loo.

I say no if asked. It's my house.

I don't want someone else using my loo.

I have issues with it that therapy has not resolved.

So call someone who has mental health issues about something like this a cunt.

Nice.

I cannot believe you told him no because you had kids playing upstairs. So you basically accused him of being a paedophile. Poor bloke, bet he feels like shit now.

Seriously- what did you think he was going to do?

Everyone needs to eat and drink but if he was thirsty I bet he wouldn't have asked for a cuppa. He was there for 10 minutes on a job, not a guest. She had every right to refuse him for whatever reason she liked.

But Carlson most people who don't let other people use their toilets do not have mental health issues. They are just snobs who don't want hairy arsed workmen to pee in their naice toilet.

You may have issues carl but what about the person who needs the loo?

I was in a situation recently at work (small shop - no customer toilets) when a customer urgently needed the loo and of course I let them use our 'staff loo'. She thanked me and said that the last shop had refused her and she has a colostomy bag and was in a pretty desperate state .

BitchesGetStuffDone I am really sorry for what happened to you, But do you think that it wouldn't have happened if you said no for the loo? I doubt it. If a scumbag is going to hurt you, he will do it, he won't ask to go to the loo (unless he is outside of the house and ask to enter)

Carlsonrichards

My son has profound autism and anxiety so he wouldn't say yes either but I wouldn't get pissy on this thread which is about a person with no specific mental health issues.

And I'm assuming that no every thread and every comment needs a * excluding any specific mental health issues which would force a person to act outside what we are talking about here which is general and everyday responses....

Because threads will be much longer.

I am not a cunt for not wanting strangers in my house longer than is absolutely necessary. There are always other options.

I have OCD and agoraphobia.

Maybe the people just don't want to clean up a shitty loo? Some people sound like they are pretty disgusting in someone else's toilet.

I suspect that people who won't let other people use their loo are the same people who can't use any loo other than their own, so it wouldn't occur to them that it's actually normal to ask to use a loo when you need to go to the toilet rather than holding on until you're safely in your own home.

There are a surprising number of people with toilet ishoos on mumsnet. I've never met any in real life, but I guess you wouldn't really talk about it (except on the internet where you can say "I've never had a poo outside of my personal ensuite but only when there's no-one else in the house" and half a dozen people pop up to say how normal this is).

It's not my problem, Rag, and why I never have guests. It's a council house so no workmen and if they asked I would tell them no and probably have a very bad panic attack just from the request.

Do you think all men are paedophiles or did thus one have a certain look about him?

FFS.

If I hadn't said "Yes, use the upstairs bathroom" and had instead ushered him out of the door quickly then he would not have had a chance to do what he did.

So I will not let strangers use my bathroom, especially not one who was only there for 10 minutes. I am not a cunt for refusing, it is my home and I have every right, as does the OP.

Right Carlsonrichards, bit would your loo related MH issues cause you to tell the workman that you considered him a danger to the unattended children?

For those who say they never allow workmen to use their loos, what do you do if someone is working in your house for a few hours or all day then? Send them to the nearest public toilets?

FWIW I have had many workmen use my loo over the years. None of them have ever left a shitty loo. Should I consider myself lucky then?

If someone posts a thread saying
' am I being unreasonable to refuse to let someone use my loo because my history, my mental health issues or my specific personal issues make it difficult' then obviously the answer is no.

But the op didn't say any of that. So, with out ny specific difficulty, issues or anxieties that make toilets, guests or strangers challenging, I still think it is massively cunty.

< lies down>
< suddenly realises why we have fucking 'lighthearted' in thread titles etc etc etc...>

why didn't you get the children down if that was the issue. sorry that was unreasonable. How would you feel if you were denied the loo in someone's house?

Funny, I've just let a delivery man use the loo and instantly thought of Mumsnet . Poor lad looked as though he was fit to burst. I'd rather run the risk of a stranger leaving the loo a bit dirty (he didn't), than contribute to someone's ruptured bladder.

OP, I think you were rather mean, and for a very silly reason. Why not just go upstairs and be with the children while he did his business?

YABU (and I hope he wee'd in your bin)

Yes

YABVU

YABU

It's really hard travelling around not knowing what facilities will be available. You can't always assume that there will be a convenient coffee shop or McDonalds with convenient parking. Many people doing these kind of jobs are also very pushed for time too. It's likely that by having to ask, he was getting quite desperate.

I’ve had to go behind walls and bushes in fields etc before in rural areas before if there have been no accessible toilets and I couldn’t wait any longer.

I am a bit however, that healthy working adults would leave a toilet in a dirty state – surely you would flush and check for any drips and stains?

I once had the guy who laid the carpets for me ask to use the loo. We live in a flat, he went for a piss leaving the door wide open and didn't flush. The bathroom was fairly echoey and my dd shouted at him to close the door. I thought that was punishment enough

Oh, and yabu for not letting him use the toilet only because you had children upstairs. What a weird thing to do

YABVVU.

You know of course that your children are more at risk of being at the receiving end of perverted behaviour from people they know.

Do you tell family members they can't use the loo when your children are unsupervised upstairs?

No, it wouldn't be for that reason. I also cannot use other loo's. I am one of those. I have diagnosed problems. I am working on them, but I do have them.