I'm 32 weeks pregnant and really struggling with exhaustion. This week I had a mild bleed, and after taking advice from the hospital, came home from work early to take it easy/be nearby in case it got worse. When I got in I changed out of my work skirt into leggings, and put some chunky socks on. Later that night in bed, my husband wouldn't give me a cuddle. When I asked what was wrong, he said he wanted me to look nice, suggested we go clothes shopping and said he wanted me to make an effort to look good for him. I pointed out that how I looked perhaps wasn't my priority that day after the scare of seeing blood, and he said it wasn't just that day, it's all the time. I started crying, called him insensitive and unsupportive and said maybe if he did more to help I wouldn't be so bloody knackered and might have some time to spend on my looks. Long story short, the row escalated and he said he can't possibly spend the rest of his life with such an emotional mess. We haven't spoken in three days, and in fact I haven't even seen him as he's been staying out late. AIBU to a) feel upset that he thinks my looks are a good enough reason to be off with me, especially given the circumstances; and b) want to just tell him to f*ck off and good luck to him if he can find a woman anywhere who won't wear comfy clothes when pregnant and shattered?
Sorry for the rant- can't talk to anyone about this.
AIBU?
to think my husband is shallow?
StellaBelly · 08/11/2014 00:10
Wow I'd hate to have a baby with a man like that....
He should be looking after you not making you cry.
Awful
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I can understand that he might find your pregnant body less attractive than your non pregnant body and that none of us can control what we find attractive. BUT:
- Clothes, hair and make up are surely just window dressing? They might enhance/detract from how you look, but they're not the be all and end all.
- You needed affection not sex. Affection doesn't rely on attraction.
- There's a lot worse in life than leggings and fluffy socks. DH was never any less affectionate with me (as far as I remember) when I was covered in bruises, bleeding, wearing a hospital gown and attached to several monitors and drips post EMCS. No idea if he fancied a shag because that wasn't on the cards.
OP he sounds like a massive dick. Unless this was a one off that comes with a genuine apology you have problems. If this is part of s pattern of behaviour, I'd be rethinking your relationship.
I can understand that he might find your pregnant body less attractive than your non pregnant body Really? 
Is that really ok? Perhaps it's just me but I find that concept enormously offensive.
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Jesus OP. This is so awful my first thought was.."this can't be true" .. but I know that there are actually men as cruel and nasty as this out there. .are you okay?
Why is this man your husband? Has he ever been like this before? .. obviously he's extremely attractive and we'll groomed at all times?
You are carrying his child for godsake. You can dress however the bloody hell you like! In all seriousness op, you should consider if YOU want to spend the rest of your life with that sack of shit. Unfortunately as mentioned up thread, picking on the wife and staying out late I'd tell tale signs of a cheater. 
Was everything ok with the baby? Will they keep checking in on you? Do you feel ok? X
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