Hi all,
I have 2 children 5 & 3 years and for the last 3 years I have been desperately trying to convince my husband for a 3rd baby.. the answer is still no.
I cannot imagine not having another one and it is really breaking my heart, he is not even considering it, his reasons are as follows:
He wants to buy what ever he wants.
He wants Ski-ing trips and x2 summer holidays every year - we cannot afford to do this at the moment and will never be able to afford it so what difference does it make?? We get 1 summer holiday abroad a year.
He wants to buy another bike (he has a bike in the garage that cost over £1,000 he never even rides)
we are not rolling in it, but live in a nice 3 bed house, we also have a flat we rent out with some equity in it. We are short at the end of the month and eat in to our overdraft , but we are not in any debt and the children have what they want, none of us go short. He thinks we do.
I told him I would go back to work after 4 months, would do all the night feeds and getting up etc to make his life as easy as possible. He works away a lot anyway so would get good quality sleep. I have basically said I would do whatever it takes to make his life easy.
What more can I do?? he is under the impression that his life would be awful if we were to have another and that he would be miserable. I just do not understand why? he is a very good dad and very hands on, we never found having the two we have got hard.
We have two very well behaved children, we have very hands-on parents that help with childcare. I do everything at home - cooking/cleaning/admin/banking etc plus I work part- time. life could not be any easier for him.
This whole situation is making me feel very depressed, I have a lot of sleepless nights panicking that this is it, no more for me.
I bring it up with him every 6 months with him and we just go around in circles and I end up in a state.
as soon as my second was born he said 'that's it' there was not even a discussion!
how do I get over this and move on???
thank you xx