To want to warn these first time parents of their unrealistic plans?

[anothercrackatit]

Some friends (not that close but long term) are expecting their first baby in their mid and late 30s. They're planning major house redevelopment, extension and conversion during her maternity leave because she'll be there, "not working and able to oversee". This strikes me as a really bad idea, builders everywhere, crashing and thumping, coming and going for months while she's trying to get used to her first newborn. I don't think they want to hear what I want to say. WWYD?

Tell them!

OP I am afraid I'm another one with a different experience....DS 1 was v easy. Just as well as DH was away for most of his first year, and I had no family around. We did a tour of the UK...a bit of Ireland, Scotland...couple if places in the Med, then the Far East....basically chasing DH round the high seas.

Sound a nightmare?

Then I bought a French wreck and started doing it up.

10 years down the line, I remember that year with incredulity...mad, but fun and very memorable. Not for everyone, but I loved it, and DS didn't suffer, and DH is now at home a bit more often.

So, on that basis, YABU.

"Hooby, thank you for your reply. I'm sorry if you had no support with your DC, that would have felt isolating to me. Does your gym offer crèche facilities from newborn? I've never heard of that before. Around here (Home Counties England) you're lucky if they take them at 16 weeks."

Sorry I'm late back to the party. Thank you for your kind response. I sort of got used to being alone - it was tiring but made getting back to normal and doing things like going out to the gym/lunch/shopping trips etc all the more important to me. I'd have gone mad stuck indoors staring at 4 walls!

I can't remember at what age the creche facility took babies from but I know DC2 was about 2 months old when I first started using it.

That was the home counties too though to be fair it was a long time ago now.