To think NO, she's not 'lucky' or 'spoilt'

[strawberrycupcakedream]

I know, I am bu but I'm wound up.

Dsis turned 18 on Wednesday and she's posted the pictures of the cards, balloons, presents up on Facebook saying thank you. She's got £100 I. Primark vouchers and money mainly. Also flowers and a new dress and shoes to wear for party, and pjs.

So she's apparently 'so lucky' and 'spoilt' and people are 'jealous.'

Dsis will never walk again. She can't move her arms properly, only a bit to use her iPad (which was given to her as an award.) she can't talk properly either. Has to have someone do everything for her including wipe her bum.

So I know I'm bu and people don't mean any harm but seriously can't they just say lovely presents.

Because she's not lucky at all.

YANBU, I too have medical issues and HATE it when I sometimes (on ocassion) get material things and get called "lucky" and "spoiled". No, you idiots, we are NOT lucky, we live with illnesses and it's damned hard!, you're lucky!, lucky to be-able to walk, move without pain, work, have biological children etc.

Hope she had a great 18th Birthday though and try not let it get to you!.

YANBU OP!!! I know this isn't really comparable, but I was rather last week when someone said "You're really lucky to get to stay at home, instead of walking to work in the rain," I have never had a paid job at nearly 25.....!!

And this: "A friend with Stage3 cancer eats a lot whenever she can because, you know, the disease is eating her and the treatment makes her hungry. Her 'friends' posted a stream of "I wish I could eat that much and stay as slim! You're so lucky!"
is just ridiculous!! Unless they didn't know?

I think that these comments wouldn't feel so bad further down the line when you have come to terms with it all a bit more. Insensitive people are always going to make crap remarks but I think everything is so raw still, that it's impossible to let them go over your head, as you are going to have to do at some point. Otherwise it will eat you up.

YANBU to feel angry about the comments. You are entitled to feel angry at anything you like, because the whole situation is horrible and unfair.

I really hope you don't take some of the comments on this thread to heart. Even if you know that there was no ill intent behind the facebook comments and comments on this thread, YANBU to be upset and hurt. You wanted to feel free to vent, but I rather suspect that some of the comments here have upset you as well.

Anyone who doesn't get that you are entitled to feel whatever emotions you do, whenever you do, is insensitive and Abu.

I'm glad you are receiving help to come to terms with it. I hope time helps. It will never be ok, but it hope it will be better for you both.