'Friend' and £10!

[LadyofDunedin]

First post AIBU! Be nice, please!

So two weeks ago I travelled to a nearby town with who I thought a friend. We went for a lovely day out shopping, lunching, afternoon drinks and dinner.

We were having a lovely day and proceeded to a wine bar in the afternoon. When the check came I paid on my cars and we said we would sort later etc - it really wasn't a big deal. Although I should add she wasn't forthcoming to pay!

Anyway , evening dinner came and went and check came again. She told me to put less in as I got the wine in the avo - fair enough. She did the math and I put my share in. I did question if I paid enough once the waiter had left the table and she said 'oh actually, you still owe me a tenner'. I said I would square up next I saw her (I had no cash on me). I didn't think it a big deal and it was her bad math!

Anyway , she was slightly weird after but I had forgotten about it and a little squiffy in honesty until on the Monday at work I had a huge text with her sort code and account number asking I transfer the £10 ASAP! Omg !

I called DM in horror (after immediately transferring the money - I was mortified- she obv went away thinking all about this and probably bitching me to her husband) and DM reminded me only last month after her HUGE birthday party I stayed behind for 3 hours to help her and husband with all the dishes and tidying up while her parents watched!

So, AIBU to be pissed off? DM reckons I'll never hear again, and even if I do I should ignore?

fava you made me laugh! Drinks on me!

If someone was really skint why would they be going to a wine bar and out for lunch?

I think it's really over the top and would be mortified - me and my best friend owe each other all the time not due to lending money but because one will buy tickets one will buy lunch or we ll order down thing together - it all works out in the end we either paypal some money over to each other or buy something to make up.

I really couldn't be bothered with working it out to the nearest tenner to be honest and neither of us has a lot of money to spare.

I'm with you OP it would upset me too.

Mind and get a receipt, OP!

I think you should have sent her the tenner by Courier in 1p coins

A tenner? I would just give it to one of my friends next time I saw them. I've even paid up in a supermarket when the woman in front didn't have enough money for her shop and was having to decide what to put back - for the sake of about £3. Life is too short.

No, I just disagree I thought that was allowed.

But if you're looking to dump her as a friend because this is a pattern, or you've decided you really aren't that keen on her, then go ahead. I don't actually give a fuck. I was just giving an alternative opinion.

YANBU OP, a massive over-reaction from her over £10. It could easily have waited until next time you saw her. I hate mean-spiritness, a very unattractive quality.

Lol - if I was spiteful I would have transferred a pound a day !!!!!

YANBU. It's off-putting to be all laid-back about it one minute, then texting sort codes over a tenner. I'd find it a bit offensive tbh.

£10 is a lot of money to some people

Not to people who go to a wine bar and a restaurant on the same day.

So do I koala

She sounds tight. That is embarrassing. I would never send a message like that to a friend. I have clients that I sometimes work for outside of my job and when they run up a bill say if 100/200 and I need it I still cannot bring myself to ask for it. They always pay so there is no need. When it comes to a friend I have just spent a day with I wouldn't dream of it. I would be horrified to get that text too OP. Some if us just find money a really embarrassing subject.

Thanks sweetie I'm so glad other MN'ers see where I'm coming from and it's not just me. It must be v difficult over 100/200! Glad you get it in the end though.

yep

friend is RUUUUUDE

She's no friend of mine now, she's a tight arse

TBH I think your "friend" is a loon. Massive over reaction on her part and if I were you I'd regard her as an ex friend. Life is way too short for that kind of palaver.

Sounds like she has short arms and long pockets.

Yes, bmw precisely how I feel. what is wrong with some people!!!

LadyofDunedin She may have needed it for something, you don't really know her reasons of wanting it back ASAP

You sound like the person who takes their time paying money back and then says 'can't believe so-and-so still wants it back it's only a tenner' and tries to write it off. TBH she sounds well rid of you.

IMO debts/loans should be paid back as soon as you can, friend or not.

Wow! You don't want to be friends with her because she asked for. Money back that you owed her?!
It's horrible when people owe you money, especially when you may really need it. It's irrelevant how much it was, you owed her money and she shouldn't have had to even ask for it back, you should have given it her.

You are way over thinking this.

The way I'm reading this is that the o.p paid for lunch in full and when it came to dinner, they went Dutch but o.p was £10 short (in error). Friend is now demanding the £10 back......even though she didn't pay a penny towards lunch.
If this is the case then YANBU!!! x

I think she was probably too drunk (nearly there) when she said you pay less.

Yes you owed her £10 and yes you agreed to pay.
She sounds awful, distance yourself and I think you did nothing wrong really except enjoy your night with the wrong kind of friend.

Unless the text said oi you money grabbing cunt you have form for this this is the 23rd time you've done me out of a tenner at dinner so transfer the money before midnight or I'm sending the boyz round

Ironically, even if the "friend's" text didn't say this in so many words, that's probably exactly how it came across!!

your friend sounds tight. Id be mortified and scrub her

funny and daisy let's go for drinks - you sound my kinda people!